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kathywiehl

11-01-2004, 12:31 PM

I just got back from my 1st OB visit. I'm delivering at home with a midwife, but I'll also see an OB just in case I need to transfer to the hospital and so that I can get ultrasounds. I'm way to paranoid to pass that up.

Today we had an ultrasound. Everything looks perfect, measuring exactly 8 weeks 3 days, EDD June 11. Looked like a boy to me, lol! I swear I just know that this is a boy!

Doc was nice, too. He said that he isn't even needed for normal pregnancies and that they are trained to treat abnormal pregnancies- could be why most docs treat us as if we are abnormal, huh? Anyway, he said that after awhile he realized that he isn't really needed for most women, so he basically just monitors things and doesn't really intervene.

Neither the doc nor the nurse said anything negative when they saw me nursing Madelyn. Both just said to watch my diet.

Anyhow, I feel MUCH better now that I saw a heartbeat.

Karennnnn

11-01-2004, 12:47 PM

Fatigue is starting to really set in :( Any regular task feels like I'm running a marathon. If I'm sitting down on the floor with my son I already feel 9 months pregnant when I go to get up lol!!!!
No nausea yet.... Hot spells and cold spells. If it's chilly I get freezing cold really quickly which is new to me.
On Wednesday I'm having an u/s and I'm a little nervous about it. Now that we have higher expenses with moving to a bigger house I'm sure I'll see twins in there!!!!! In all actuality though I wouldn't be surprised if it were another blighted ovum. Since it happened I realize that all pregnancies aren't guaranteed. It's pretty scary.
I mean, as a teenager it's not like you get a positive hpt and go "Oh maybe it will be a blighted ovum or I'll have a m/c" It always works out so to speak, know what I mean?
Maybe I'm just old!?!? :)
I was thinking of taking on an extra morning of work, on Sundays, to make extra $$ before all of this happens. DH says no, Sunday is a family day. So I sit here wondering why I'm always upstairs with my son playing or watching one of his shows while he's watching a freaking movie(s) all day long!?!?!??!?!?! ON A DIFFERENT FLOOR!?!?! I love the way men think.
That's about it :)
Karen

jerawo

11-01-2004, 01:57 PM

Hi everyone!

I'm 9 weeks tomorrow. I can't wait until I get to week 13, which doesn't seem so far away anymore.

So far everything is going well. I still have a little nausea, but no real morning sickness (I can't believe I'm not going to get any). I'm not really tired, and sleeping like a log at night. I'm sure I'll have a horrific third trimester to make up for the easy first one.

My puppy came back home yesterday, so I'm very happy because he's the sweetest and cutest thing and I missed him so much. I can't tell if he knows that anything is up, since he hasn't seen me in a month and wis readjusting to being back home with mom and dad.

Still undecided about the midwife. I'm leaning towards one and just looked at her stats which are fantastic. She hasn't been a midwife for as long as some of the others, but she makes me feel very comfortable and I trust her which I think is the most important. I'm hoping to talk to a woman who used her recently today or tomorrow, then I'm going to make a decision. I'm sick of being in limbo land.

Hope this week is a good one for everyone!

paniscus

11-01-2004, 03:19 PM

So far I have still been feeling great (and trying not to be nervous about that). No m/s. My breasts are a bit sore but that seems to be calming down. No digestive problems. My intense craving for salty crappy food seems to be fading. I occasionally have a little pain here or there. I don't think it is cramps - I guess it is just "growing pains". Does that sound about right experienced mamas?? The afternoons are hardest for me because I don't have any energy but I can't seem to sleep if I lay down for a nap. I started physical therapy on my knee today (I twisted it about a month ago). They send electricity in my knee to work the muscles. Is anyone familiar with this? The guy said it was safe but I still like to ask around.

It is getting VERY hard to keep the news a secret from everyone!! My mom is sad about some other stuff going on around the holidays so I know this will cheer her up and I am dying to tell her. DH had to tell his boss that I was preg. last week because they are looking for people to go to Iraq and if they don't get enough volunteers then they will start picking people. Well, his boss comes up to me at a ball last week and congratulates me. One of our friends overheard him and has been driving me crazy asking questions :eyesroll .

twouglyducks

11-01-2004, 06:07 PM

I am 9 weeks now. Still so exhausted and feel like a terrible mom to my 2 boys. I can barely get out of bed, let alone out of the house. I feel like a big lump. I am so hoping and waiting for this to pass in a few weeks so I can get out with the kids before it's too cold. I get a tiny bit queasy and smells really bother me. But mostly the past few days, I have felt overfull and starving at the same time. Like all of my food sits right up under my ribs. I hate this feeling, it is icky.

Oh, and obviously, I'm whiny today. :LOL Sorry.

Mindy70

11-01-2004, 07:01 PM

I am 8 weeks now, and last Thursday I had an ultrasound with a little bean with a heartrate of 155. So far, so good.
I have m/s off and on, but no vomiting. I feel bloated and have some back pain, and I hate to cook because nothing looks or sounds good.

Otherwise, I feel fine, if tired.

monkey's mom

11-01-2004, 10:15 PM

dani76

11-01-2004, 10:47 PM

Hi everyone! No sickness here...yet, just tired and seriously hurting boobs! I have my u/s on Monday. Hoping to hear the heartbeat!! Then this will feel real.

Sorry that some of you are feeling so crappy. I hope it gets better for you all very soon!

NiksMom

11-02-2004, 05:30 AM

Ugh, the dreaded stuffy sinuses have started. I had the worst sinusitus (sp?) with my first and I was hoping it wouldn't be a problem this time. Wrong :eyesroll I cannot breathe and it is driving me crazy!
Still having some constipation and my boobs are a little sore, but nothing too bad. Nausea is always in the background but haven't thrown up at all.
Pretty tired and a little cranky.
Due date around 6/17, so that would make me 7 weeks right?
My first appt. isn't until Nov. 22nd.

Stone Fence

11-02-2004, 08:03 AM

Feeling good.

Oogy feelings are fewer now. Boobs are sore. I'm working really hard at eating better, although I brought home a frozen pizza for dinner last night. I make it through the day just fine (working outside home) but it's all I can do to take care of the animals and get dinner before I'm exhausted.

Monkey's Mom-don't feel bad about complaining. I can't imagine how exhausting it must be to be so sick. The end is in sight. Do you get to rest during the day? Is DH any help? Mine helps with the animals, but housework is all mine. (Actually, I like housework and the sense of accomplishment that goes with it.)I know, I'm weird.

SharonAnne

11-02-2004, 08:44 AM

Amy, you like housework? you're a weirdo. :LOL

Monkey'smom, you complain all you want, that's what we're here for, isn't it?

Me? I don't think I need to complain today; for the first time in a LONG time :LOL I felt AWFUL last night, I was STARVING, but I couldn't make dinner, because we're in the process of unpacking at the new house and I can't even FIND my pans, forget about getting to the oven to use the stupid things. :LOL So, when DH got home, I pulled on some REALLY uncomfortable pants, and we went to the diner. I discovered the secret to my eating issues.

I had a little soup, a little salad, a little dinner, and a bowl of jello. :)

If I sit down to eat one thing, it don't work. But if I eat a little bit of a bunch of different things, I can EAT, actually get FULL, and NOT BE NAUSEOUS! FREAKING YAY!!! :D:D:D:D

And that Jello (which I haven't had in a jilliion years), was the best stuff I ever tasted. It's amazing what you end up eating while you're pregnant. I swore off fast food, jello, non-organic meat and dairy, and all kinds of other stuff a while ago. But, since I've gotten pregnant and have been having all my little digestive issues, I eat whatever I can whenever I can. :LOL

Moving right along, after that meal, I felt better than I have in WEEKS, and DH and I went shopping (I got two pairs of COMFY pants :)) and then we went browsing through home improvement stores; ya know, to start dreaming about our extensions and additions on the house. :D

I slept WELL, and felt FINE when I woke up this morning.

I'm sorry for everyone who doesn't feel well. I hope I'm not coming across as gloating or anything :( I am just SO FLIPPING EXCITED! :LOL

Hope everyone gets out of their nausea soon. :hug

4Marmalade

11-02-2004, 08:51 AM

I feel like crap. I can't stop feeling sick ALL the time. I just threw up so hard I actually peed a little bit. I feel like a big whiner b/c I just feel so so so miserable. I feel like everyone I know is tired of hearing me talk about this--not to mention how negative ALL my posts here have been--I'm sorry, I just really need to vent about this. :crying I just don't want to feel like this anymore!

I don't even know what to say to you except......I really understand what you are going through. I should really start working on those Kegel's again. It is not fun. The other night I was up from 1-3am throwing up in the bathroom. Girlfriends are going out for dinner next week, MIL is coming next weekend and all I want to do is curl up and cry.

Take care.

mclisa

11-02-2004, 05:55 PM

I don't even know what to say to you except......I really understand what you are going through. I should really start working on those Kegel's again. It is not fun. The other night I was up from 1-3am throwing up in the bathroom. Girlfriends are going out for dinner next week, MIL is coming next weekend and all I want to do is curl up and cry.

Take care.

Karen:
:Hug :hug :Hug

It gets better!

I'm at 9 weeks 1 day. I had my first appointment today. My doc is so fun! I knew she was engaged so I had to ask to make sure it wasn't a Memorial Day wedding and she said they were eloping at Christmastime. I got to hear the heartbeat today!!! DH didn't come along because I didn't think we would get to hear anything today. That was so reasurring to hear that. My tummy wasn't nearly as yucky today so I'm hoping that we're finally turning the corner on that.

Supper is about ready so I'm off to enjoy some lasagne.
Hope everyone is having a good night!

Awaken

11-02-2004, 07:57 PM

Hi Ladies! :D

Congrats and WOO HOO to those who have heard the heartbeat and seen the babes on u/s! I am envious! Even tho I am relatively thin the mw couldn't hear the hb w/ the doppler last week.

I finally got my labs- my hcg is 18,300- that sounds really high which is good, but I have no idea what is 'normal' and what it should be at around 9 weeks?? Can anyone shed some light?

I told my parents and one sister this w/e - earlier than I wanted to but I don't see them in person too often and my grandfather is doing poorly so I thought it would be some good news for them. No desire at all to tell anyone at work...it's a really small workplace and once word is out I"ll be getting constant comments about it and I'm just not ready for that. Esp. b/c I don't know if I'll be going back and I just don't feel like addressing it right now! I haven't told any friends yet but I think I will gradually if it comes up in conversation.

As far as symptoms...I am feeling it a bit more...I feel 'big' but it feels like my whole stomach is distended, esp. after I eat, not really like it's just my uterus! Like a lot of others have described, I vaccilate between being starving, nauseaus, and uncomfortably stuffed. I am just eating whatever I am hungry for- the other day my coworker was eating and egg mcmuffin and I was totally salivating over it and ran out the Mc D's right away to get one, and ate it in the car in the parking lot- what a sight- the dietitian hiding in the car scarfing down McDonald's!!! And constipation has really hit hard...ugh..contributing to the distention I'm sure! My boobs are still sore and I am sooo horribly tired.

So, feeling a little better about the preg. after the high hcg levels but still not totally convinced!! I think it'll take the u/s at 20 weeks or me getting huge all of a sudden till I'm convinced!

Have a great night everyone!

Mary

Katiemare

11-02-2004, 08:23 PM

New here- Due last week of June. Good news is my boobs are re-inflated and not too sore!

I still don't "feel" very pregnant. with my first I was already hurling 6-8 times/day and while I am relieved not to be sick I also am worried because I don't have that this time. Hope I am not jinxing myself here!
Still haven't announced to family and friends. I have known for one week (I'm six weeks along) and think I'll wait until 8 weeks. But I am afraid my mom is gonna be mad for waiting for that long . . .

SharonAnne

11-03-2004, 08:17 AM

Morning everyone! :) Ugh, I had more jello last night. :LOL It was sooooooooooo good though. This baby is gonna come out sugar coated.

I did something really dumb and picked up my microwave yesterday. Well, I'm TRYING to unpack my kitchen and the rest of my house, you know? So, I had to get the microwave off the floor and my husband wasn't home, and I had no clue when he'd BE home, so I tested it, figured, it's not THAT heavy and heaved it onto the counter.

About a half an hour later, the cramping started. No spotting, though; and the cramping didn't last too long. So, I'm sure everything is okay. Scared the poop outta myself though (which was good, because I've been constipated :LOL), and made my husband move anything heavy last night, so I can just deal with unpacking today.

I'm still tired; can't wait for the mythical second trimester energy to kick in. :D

Karennnnn

11-03-2004, 09:22 AM

SharonAnne have you tried mixing jello with whipped cream? I forget what it's called but you wait till the jello is almost solidified I think... then you fold in the whipped cream. That's really good if the cream doesn't hurt your stomach.
I like jello but after I found out what it was made of it makes me a little blech! Sometimes I buy the kosher gelatin from the health food store. I don't know how they make it because it's a non animal product, but it works for me. When Passover rolls around they have kosher marshmallows in the grocery store here and I buy a bunch of them for rice krispy treats. The health food store that I used to buy the marshmallows from discontinued them for some very very odd reason. They were just like real marshmallows and available whenever I wanted them. Oh well.
I'm not having too much of an eating problem as far as being nauseated... But I'll find that I'm not enjoying what I'm eating; like it's hard to get down even though I'm physically not feeling ill. It's very hard to explain.
Anyhooooo... my sonogram is in about an hour. I'm very nervous and I actually expect to not see anything and have another blighted ovum. It's very strange what a previous loss can do to your thinking. So if I see a baby in there I will actually be shocked. Used to be the positive hpt was what did it, now it's got to be actually looking inside of my body lol!
It's weird that the answer is right there inside of you but you need to go somewhere high tech to find out. It's almost like being blind!!!!
By the way, you all may see my sister (myboycal) on the boards here a bit. She just found out she's pregnant too, due early July. We are something like 12 days apart? So technically we could go at the same time, or we could go a month apart. It will be interesting to see how it all goes. Of course I was hoping to show her how wonderful home birth was and inspire her but it looks like the timing is off lol!!!!
Take care all,
Karen

Awaken

11-03-2004, 10:04 AM

Best wishes with the sonogram, Karen!! Can't wait to hear about the babe in there. I know it'll be good news.

paniscus

11-03-2004, 10:20 AM

Karen - I know exactly what you mean about what a blighted ovum does to you. I had myself and consequently dh convinced there couldn't possibly be a baby. When we went in for the u/s and there didn't look like anything I was just like "oh, well". Then she said "there is the yolk sac" and then started moving around and it was just like when there was the b.o. I wasn't even surprised. I was sad to have my fears confirmed but that was it. Then when she said "there is the baby and there is the heartbeat." I about fell off the table!! I just kept saying "there's a baby? Really? there really is a baby?" I could not stop the tears coming down my face. It was like at that moment I had found out I was pregnant. I still worry (I don't really have any major symptoms) but then tell myself to stop being stupid and look at my little pictures. :) I wish I could have a little u/s machine at home and just check in whenever I want (but then I would probably never leave the house!) Anyway, I am totally confident that you will be back here to say the same thing after seeing your little angel. :love

sinsaratea

11-03-2004, 11:51 AM

Hi y'all. I just found out that I'm pregnant!!!! I am about 6 weeks along. Just wanted to say hi and join the fold.......

Sara

fuzzypeach

11-03-2004, 01:36 PM

Yesterday I had my second appointment. I got to meet my nurse-midwife, and I like her a lot - she's really cool. She said she didn't expect to feel the fundus or hear the heartbeat at nine weeks, but that she was going to try, and if not, I'd get an ultrasound. I asked if she ever had heard one at nine weeks and she said no.

So she put the doppler to my belly and after a minute or so of random noise, there it was! Swishswishswish! So awesome:) I cried a little bit - I was so happy to hear it and relieved to know baby is alive and well in there. I felt elated all afternoon:)

But, when she did the pelvic exam she asked if my bladder was full - I'd just emptied it - because I was feeling bigger than nine weeks! Like, as much as a month bigger! So she scheduled an ultrasound for next Thursday, to check my dates.. which I could be three weeks off, but that's it. Still I'm glad to have a medical reason for an ultrasound, cause otherwise I would only be getting the 20-week one that my insurance covers.. I'll get to see baby sooner than expected!

I don't know what I'll do if there's more than one in there!! Yikes!!

Anyways that's my exciting news: ) Congrats to all those who have joined the club here recently and wishing the best to the rest!

Angela

Meli65

11-04-2004, 10:49 AM

OK, am I the only one here who is losing things? I don't really feel like I have pregnancy brain, but am starting to wonder. I have lost my favorite (and only!) sweatpants, and my Dr. Sears Pregnancy Book in the last couple of days. Last night we lost one of two remaining pacis for my son (a serious issue!). I don't have a big house or a lot of stuff and it is driving me nuts!

In other news, I meet the lay midwife next week for a two-hour session of questions (!) and the CNM the following week for a check-up. No internal check-up right? That's the feeling I get from these boards. Thanks!

SharonAnne

11-05-2004, 07:42 AM

I spent a good hour crying to my husband last night about how much it sucks to be pregnant. :LOL I feel bad about it, because I've been trying to get here for so long, and now that I'm here, I swear, you guys, I hate it. :LOL I can't wait to give birth and get my body back.

The biggest issue, of course, is my digestion sucking. Besides that, though, I'm freezing all the time, but can't STAND to have the heat on. It makes me absolutely sick to my stomach. So, I spend my entire day shivering. My husband wanted to take me to my favorite restaurant last night, and I turned him down. I just would die if I went to my favorite restaurant and couldn't eat anything. Or worse, what if I went to my favorite restaurant, ordered my favorite meal and it totally turned my stomach?! So, I got a salad from Wendy's instead. sigh.

I really hate that I hate being pregnant. I'm supposed to be happy and excited and not minding feeling like crap. But I DO mind. I mind A LOT. :LOL

Sorry I'm so snarky today. Hope everyone else is feeling better than I am. :LOL

NiksMom

11-05-2004, 07:50 AM

SharonAnne-
I totally understand what you mean. I've heard so many of my friends and coworkers gush about how wonderful their pregnancies were.
Mine first pregnancy sucked. Nothing seemed to go right. I developed gestational diabetes (had to take insulin), got huge, had some pre-term contractions, had non-stress tests CONSTANTLY, numerous ultrasounds, ended up on light bedrest the last few weeks, had to monitor my blood pressure as it started to get high towards the end and to top it all off had a scheduled cesarean section due to breech presentation.
It was awful! I know I sound ungrateful- it was all definitely worth it and I'm obviously willing to take the chance again, but I just wasn't one of those glowing pregnant women, you know?
It was really hard. I'm trying to go into this pregnancy with a positive outlook, envisioning a completely different pregnancy and birth this time around, but it's hard because I feel like crud :crying :Puke
But it really helps to know that other mommas are going through the same things I am or can at least relate to me.
Sorry you're having a rough day today :(

paniscus

11-05-2004, 11:59 AM

I had another appt with the mw today and she couldn't hear the heartbeat with the doppler so she did a really quick little peak with the u/s because she knows how worried I am - my little guy is still there and his little heart is still beating away!! :bouncy

I signed up for this program the mw's offer called Centering (I don't really know how it got its name.) Basically instead of normal prenatal appts I go in once a month and meet with a group of women who are all due around the same time. There is a mw there who kind of conducts the meeting. It is 2 hours long and I still have some private time with the mw in the beginning when I get measured, weighed, etc. Has anyone else tried this or know anything about it? The nurse at the mw clinic mentioned there is a lower rate of pre-term births and low weight births when prenatal care is done this way.

Pepper

11-05-2004, 12:16 PM

Hugs, Sharon Anne. I know how you feel. I SWORE that when I got pregnant again that no matter how bad I felt I would be happy and joyous and grateful. Well, I am happy and joyous and grateful but I feel like such complete crap that I have had these terrible thoughts of, "oh I can't wait to get this over with" or "Why did I do this?" or "This was a mistake-I can't do this again.".

And then I feel terrible for thinking those thoughts and feel like a bad person. And I'm not even huge and uncomfortable yet which is usually the hardest part for me! I don't even have unbearable heartburn yet or can't get my own shoes on or am in constant back pain or on and on and on...

I think what we need to try and do is to allow ourselves to feel bad about feeling so bad. This is hard. I really cannot understand women who go through pregnancy so easily, it's never easy for me.

I'm trying to hang in there for the 2nd trimester which is usually the best time for me. Everyone who is feeling badly, just hang in there! It'll get better (before it gets worse :innocent ). And try to keep your mind on the amazing miracle growing inside of you...imagine nursing her or him, imagine smelling their sweet baby smell and touching their soft hair. Imagine the first time they look up at you and smile, the way they reach out to you and clutch your hand. Think of holding them closely in the night and rocking them to sleep...the incredible bliss of this unconditional love. This is what it takes to get that.

We can do it!

aja-belly

11-05-2004, 01:40 PM

hey, that centering thing sounds really great. i wish it was offered at the birthing center here.

aja

westernskies

11-05-2004, 01:47 PM

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SharonAnne

11-05-2004, 02:14 PM

Well, I am happy and joyous and grateful but I feel like such complete crap that I have had these terrible thoughts of, "oh I can't wait to get this over with" or "Why did I do this?" or "This was a mistake-I can't do this again.".

Pepper, YES! I'm constantly saying things like that, especially the "this was a mistake" one. And then I feel AWFUL. I'm afraid my poor baby is going to think she's not wanted. And she IS. All the accompanying crap isn't, though :LOL

I told Paul last night that this baby is very likely to be an only child. I cna't imagine going through this on purpose again. :LOL

kathywiehl

11-05-2004, 03:18 PM

I agree that centering sounds like a great idea! What a wonderful way to connect with other likeminded mamas due around the same time! I would have loved something like that back when I was seeing a CNM.

Meli65

11-05-2004, 06:14 PM

About hating being pregnant (and I think we all do, at one point or another, whether we admit it or not! -- I at present, am desperately missing my old bad habits and am feelings resentful about that --oh, the shame!) -- I'll offer some advice a friend gave me when I was pg with Miles. That was a tough pregnancy and I was under a LOT of stress and I did complain a lot. She just told me that she tried to remember that this might be the only time she would ever be pregnant and to try to enjoy it, and at the very least, just experience it.

So, I think that's good to bear in mind. And if possible, not to beat yourself up to much about not being the perfect glowing pg mama -- it's just not productive. Wallow in it instead, and dive back into the Halloween candy ;)

Awaken

11-05-2004, 08:35 PM

Hi Ladies- finally getting to check in.

I am miserable, too. Thanks for all the encouragement, everyone. I have been feeling so awful, tired isn't the word. And I am accomplishing *nothing* but the basics of feeding and dressing myself and my son, and dragging myself through work. And to top it all off, my husband has been working nonstop lately so I've been alone from early morning till night with no help or companionship. AND today I woke up with a terrible chest cold, I have a terrible cough and my chest hurts so bad! I hope I don't have pneumonia!

I am just disappointed b/c my last preg. was one of those glowing, happy, feel-good times, and this time I am just miserable, sick, lonely, and exhausted. I truly hope it gets better in the 2nd trimester. If I get to take a nap I can make it through the day, but on the days I work, or am just not able to sleep, I am barely functional.

I have felt so bad that I haven't wanted to tell anyone about the pregnancy. I finally did tell my parents and sisters, and told one close friend. I have no desire to tell anyone b/c then they'll be asking how I"m feeling all the time and I don't want to go into it.

Sorry for being so negative, but I don't have anyone else to talk about it with- not having told any of my IRL friends!! Although the constant sleeping and feeling bad is going to get quite suspicious soon I'm sure and I'll have to spill the beans.

Hope everyone has a great weekend, and thanks for all the support and encouragement!

Kathy- that Centering thing sounds great!! I would have LOVED that the first time around!