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starlite
11-06-2004, 07:36 PM
Hello everyone! My nickname here is 'starlite' and this is my first ever post ... I'm new here.

I have been trying to get pregnant for well over a year and I am already blessed with a healthy, vibrant 2 year old son. I am happily married and we just found out via home pee test that I AM FINALLY PREGNANT.

But before we tell the rest of the mob, we gotta get to a specialist of some sort. We don't even know how far along I am and I've only missed 1 period - so we rekon about 4-6 weeks along. Just guessing...

This is the moment we've been waiting for! But before any congratulations are in order I want to share with you a fear;

My husband and I have suffered 3 miscarriages (m/c's) since the birth of our son 2 years ago. The first 2 were very early m/c's and allbeit dissappointing I recovered fairly quickly from them physically and was able to 'try again' 3 months after the 2nd m/c. Then we had what is called a late m/c and I hoped to pass the fetus naturally. The baby died at 14 weeks but I had no idea until I was supposed to be 16 weeks pregnant and no fetal heart beat was detected. But I was suffering complications, passing clots the size of large lemons and I had to have an emergency d&c. There were retained products of conception - which made me gravely ill - so I was sent back for a 2nd d&c for the same m/c. I was sure the baby would be ok, and taken by shock to learn that it had died suddenly and for no reason that they could find by testing the fetal matter. What had happened? I asked, but the doctors shrugged it off as something common. They didn't know.

My periods never got back to normal, even after a hysteroscopy that showed no abnormalities in my uterus whatsoever. (Good to know, but what's the problem then?)
Then I tested positive at home for pregnancy 3 days ago!!! I have no idea what my cycles are because they have been irregular for so long now I can't keep track of them! So I haven't even got a date to give the doctors of when my last menstruation was. Honestly couldn't tell you.

I feel great. I don't really feel pregnant at all (except sore boobs and a craving for fresh garden salad with EXTRA mushrooms!) I have cut back on coffee but I'm terrible with cigarettes ... no lectures please ladies I get it all the time from my DR., friends and family ... I'm working on it rest assured.

So understandably I'm terrified of loosing another pregnancy, and at the same time excited about carrying to term.
Know what I mean?

Any support would be greatly appreciated! All welcome to send me a private message ... I'm soooo scared!!!

Lot's of luv to all you hormonal creatures out there, from starlite.




mclisa
11-07-2004, 08:17 AM
Hang in there! You've been through a lot so far it sounds like. Hope you get into the doctor soon so any testing that needs to done can get started.

Mindy70
11-07-2004, 09:37 AM
Congratulations! I would make an appointment with a high-risk preg doc who will take your fears seriously ASAP. I had a blighted ovum in December, and am feeling pretty anxious as well. Though they say that once there is a heartbeat, chances are very good that all will be well.

Good luck!

fuzzypeach
11-07-2004, 12:25 PM
Just want to send some hugs and well wishes your way.. I hardly did anything but worry about a m/c until I heard baby's heartbeat, and I've never had a m/c before. Try to take it easy and not worry too much.

Awaken
11-07-2004, 02:28 PM
Welcome, and congratulations! You will find a lot of support here. Feel free to vent and share your fears anytime. ;)

kathywiehl
11-07-2004, 10:41 PM
Welcome and lots of hugs to you! I'm so sorry you had to endure such terrible losses. Please jump right in and post whenever you need support or when you need to vent. I think I can safely say that we are all here for each other.

starlite
11-08-2004, 01:48 AM
Thanx for being supportive - my husband and this site are pretty much all I got for support. Might not be alot but I'm gratefull for it!!!