WWYD? Q about my DH.

[orangebird]

I still haven't told DH I am pregnant. This is why. A couple months ago he says yes to another baby. He had been really hessitant but finally says he knows how important it is to me and that it is OK to try for another baby. I got pregnant the next week. Ever since then he has been trying to NOT get me pregnant. So now I'm like great:eyesroll ! If he is trying to avoid pregnancy then obviously he didn't really mean it. I didn't tell him the day I was fertile because just a few days before he told me OK about another baby. So now I feel stuck. Today we were casually talking about babies. Our friend was over and we were talking about another friend who just found out his GF was pregnant and I said something about our "next" baby and DH was freaking out and said "what are you going to go get inseminated?" kinda suggesting he wasn't going to be a part of knocking me up again. Urgh! I know once he gets used to the idea he will get excited about it but now he is making it so hard for me to tell him. Last time I didn't tell him til about 12 weeks for the same reason. I am thinking I will wait til I hear the heartbeat, make sure it is a real pregnancy, I mean who knows, maybe I have already miscarried and don't know it yet. Anyway, I was thinking of waiting until I know for sure for sure I am PG so at least I don't put him through the stress of finding out if the pregnancy isn't going to take, I'm 7 weeks right now.

I need to tell him soon though, I told my girlfriend who we are all part of a large group of friends. It is inevetable she will tell her DH who is my DH's X-producer and is going to be recording with him in mid-late December. Even if this guy doesn't tell him I'm sure he will tell someone and we are all friends. So I know I can't wait forever.

But how can I break it to him? He is trying so hard lately not to get me pregnant LOL! ANy cute ideas that might soften the blow?

[MamanFrançaise]

Wow. That's tough. I would definately tell him before he hears it from someone else, so in other words now is a good time. So sorry you're dealing with this! :hug

[BinahYeteirah]

Yes, that's a difficult situation.

I hope he's not insensitive or unthinking enough to make any negative comments when you do break the news to him. It sure seems like husbands do this stuff a lot. They tell dw to ttc, then, no they're not ready, back and forth, etc. He had the unprotected sex, so I hope he accepts the happy news with a smile on his face.

What happened when you told him last time? I hope it was good, although I have doubts since you are so hesitant to tell him now.

:Hug

[orangebird]

He was happy last time, after the shock wore off. I think he will be happy this time too. Oh, and I don't have to worry about telling him now, my midwife just called and he took the message rotflmao! He is a little freaked out. I told him "but you said..." and he said he knows and that it would be fine, he is just worried about being responsible for yet another person. I am at work today, now I'm so scared to go home and talk to him about this face to face. I should have told him first but wanted to catch him at a perfect time. Oh well. Thanks so much!