Most clueless person ever

[famousmockngbrd]

We just hired a new woman at the bookstore I work at. I only work on Saturdays now so today was the first time I met her. I asked her if she had met everyone else who works there yet. She said, "Well, I met S." "Oh yeah," I said, "C. still isn't back yet, I guess." "Is she the one who's pregnant?" she asks me. As I stand there in front of her with my 7 month pregnant self. "Um, no," I said, "that would be me." "Oh," she said. "I couldn't tell."

Hmm. I think maybe the GIANT BELLY would be your first clue!! No, I actually always look like this. I just really, really like beer. A lot.

:eyesroll :eyesroll :eyesroll

[Jennifer3141]

I think people nowadays are soooo afraid of mentioning "fat" to another person that they just kind of keep their questions about whether or not another is pregnant to themselves. And part of it is my fault!! :LOL

I'm having a small baby and I just look thicker around the middle, especially with clothes on. No one I haven't expressly told I was pregnant has even guessed that I am. :p

Jen

[indie]

I knew someone once who asked a woman when she was having her baby and it had been something like six months since she had the baby. I also used to know a woman who always looked pregnant but it was just her belly. So maybe she was afraid to ask if you were the pregnant one. Or she might not have been paying attention especially if you were behind a counter or something. Then again, she could just be stupid.

[indie]

Hey, I just hit post number 1,000.

[CaliMommie]

When DS2 was being treated inpatient at Stanford we were down at the gift shop while they did an endoscopy. This lady came up & said, "So when are you due?" My snotty self said, "3 months ago. He's 3 months old." She looked surprised & didn't say anything else. :LOL

[averymybaby]

:LOL

:hug

[aja-belly]

i was at the thrift store a couple days ago and this little old lady asked me if i was pregnant. when i said yes (thinking - obviously) she said "i can't tell these days if people are pregnant or just fat". :jaw

aja

[amydidit]

Some people are definately clueless... some are just to afraid of insulting someone.

When I got married in December my friend was my bridesmaid... my MIL went up to her, while she was holding her 6 mth old baby, and said "Oh! Having another one soon I see!"

[Sagesgirl]

1) People see what they expect to see. Though it has always been obvious to me, DH, & people who know me when I am showing, total strangers expect to see a fat woman, and so they see a fat woman.
2) The lady in the OP is probably not clueless, she was probably trying to avoid being jumped on by someone not pregnant by assuming the woman was pregnant. She really couldn't win, could she?

[famousmockngbrd]

See that little pregnant smilie in my sig? I look like that. Really. I could have modeled for that smilie. Except for the silly pink bow. :LOL

If she wasn't sure if I was the pregnant one or not, she should have said nothing. She would have figured it out eventually, it's not a big secret, people ask me about the baby all the time. Because if you tell a woman who is 31 weeks pregnant that you didn't know she's expecting, the only thing she can take away from that is that she just looks really fat. Because I sure as heck don't look slim.

[Full Heart]

I got that at 42 weeks with my last pg! :LOL I was at the spring musical for my dds kindergarden class and a lady who I knew asked if dd could spend the night that weekend. I was a little dumbfounded. I told her we would have to see when I had the baby as I was already 2 weeks late. She looked like she was abouit to be run down by a train lol. She said she didn't even know I was pg, that I must carry really well. Yeah right! LOL. I looked like I was hiding a bowling ball under my shirt. I think she was just overwhelmed in her own life and didn't even notice anything past that. Yesterday she saw me, as I am pg again and she noticed. Of course maybe she didn't want to make the same mistake twice!

I do know a lady who gave birth and didn't even know she was pg. I saw her 3 weeks before she had her baby and she was super skiny. I couldn't tell. She even made the comment how I had already had 3 kids and she hadn't even had 1 yet. Had a 7lb baby too!

Michelle

[Fluffhead]

OMG YES!
If I have to hear one more time...
"You dont look pregnant" OR "You don't look like you are in your third trimester" or the kicker..."Awww, you haven't been showing very long have you?"
I spose I might :hopmad

What a dork....I would be interested in knowing what your response was. What bookstore do you work at? I used to go to the one right above paisley peacock *allthe time* (squecial media?)

[famousmockngbrd]

When my grandmother had my mom, everyone thought she had adopted. Nobody knew she was pregnant. My grandmother knew she was pregnant, though. I can't imagine giving birth without having 9 months to get used to the idea.

Leigh, I work at Glover's Bookery, on S. Broadway. We're mostly rare and antiquarian. Sqecial is cool, I used to go there a lot myself, when I had time to browse bookstores that is. :LOL

[Jaimep]

I don't know what is up with people. I TOO have almost everyone say I don't look pregnant. I DO TOO!! Since it is nice outside, I have been wearing my tanktops and such and they are tight fitting, so you can definately see my belly poking out like a basketball.
My sister actually said, oh your belly is getting big now. But my neighbor, just said she didn't know I was pregnant, this is after I said how we found out we were havign a boy.

Whatever people! My new plan is to puke on anyone who says that too me. ;)

[Eaglevoice]

Whatever people! My new plan is to puke on anyone who says that too me. ;)
:LOL :Puke

[mightymoo]

I have heard this too - 'Oh, I didn't know you were pregnant' - that hurts, because I'm not skinny, though not so big I don't look pregnant at all - how could that comment really be good in any context y'know?

I just don't get these women who say they didn't know they were pregnant until they give birth or right before - how on earth could you not know? I mean, even if my belly wasn't huge and round, I have little feet pushing every which way - what do you think that is????

[Sagesgirl]

I just don't get these women who say they didn't know they were pregnant until they give birth or right before - how on earth could you not know? I mean, even if my belly wasn't huge and round, I have little feet pushing every which way - what do you think that is????

I have been told by women whose babies were rear facing through the entire pregnancy that they barely ever felt kicks. From what I gather from other women, if your placenta's in front (not sure if I'm phrasing that right), it's also possible to barely feel kicks if you feel them at all. And if your cycles are very irregular (I once went six months with no period, discovering I was pregnant at the end of that time), you wouldn't have that clue. If you have no reason to think you're pregnant, and the only kicks you feel are seldom and faint, it's very easy to mistake them for gas bubbles (I've had some gas bubbles when I wasn't pregnant that felt a lot like kicks, not much of a stretch for it to work both ways). Plenty of women never pop and get that typical pregnant belly--I'm one of them.

I recall when I was much younger reading in a magazine about a woman who didn't know she was pregnant til she gave birth. She had normally light periods which continued the whole time, and apparently her uterus got caught up inside her so that she never showed...

It's obviously not something that happens every day, but I can easily see how it could.

As to the OP...upon meeting someone for the first time, it doesn't matter how pregnant she looked, I'd keep my mouth shut about it. I imagine it only takes one time of having someone who's merely overweight jump down your throat about it to learn that discretion is the better part of valor.

[musicmaj]

That's right, some woman never have morning sickness and continue to have light periods the whole pregnancy. A friend of mine does not pop out when she is pregnant. She is about 25 weeks pregnant with baby #2 and you could not tell at all, even if she is wearing something tight. Me - on the other hand - I am MUCH bigger than her and I am 18 weeks pregnant.
Oh, and one comment on feeling baby kick. This is my third baby. With the first two I felt lots of movement from about 12 weeks on. With this one I barely feel anything. I could easily mistake the movements for gas. My placenta is on the front this time and I think it makes a huge difference in what you feel. I can kind of understand how someone might not know they are pregnant.

[Simply Nurtured]

Hi FM,

I was chuckling at your post and wanted to tell you about something that happened to me about 2 years ago. My youngest child is 6, and I have not been pregnant since. My DH and I were at this place we used to go (in Mississippi), this was before we moved back to New England. It is a really cool bakery/yummy foods/coffee and tea place. We were in line figuring out what we were going to order. I thought I looked so cute in my short dress, and I am not fat. I am just right. This young woman started talking to me, out of the blue, asked when the baby was due. I just kind of looked at her and quietly told her I wasn't pregnant. I was surprised. I had NO tummy bulge. She did not even act embarassed, and said she wore dresses like the one I was wearing when she was pg.

:LOL :LOL :LOL

[Goldiemom]

I just look like I swallowed a watermelon whole. I have this nice vertical tummy that from the front makes me just look fat. From the back I don't look pg at all, and from the side I don't look anywhere near 20 wks. So I have ppl that I used to work with at Wal-Mart {sorry for mentioning that awful place} Ask me tentatively if I am expecting another. I think they really don't want to offend me if I have just porked out. :LOL Not that I am tiny to begin with, but you all know what I mean.

So I am with pp's who have said maybe the new gal wasn't paying much attention to your tummy, or she had an encounter with a woman more on the husky side and just didn't want to risk offending you. Who knows, maybe she really is just outa her mind! :LOL