I posted a while ago about the baby I care for while her mom works.Her mom and I have been friends for many years,and I love her dd very much.She's 8 months old.Today she is going to her ped(local clinic :irked: ,this same clinic had her taken away from her mom at birth,long story,why is she bringing her there when there are many,many peds in the area?!?).She's getting dtap, hib,hep b, and prevnar. :( She was supposed to get this done weeks ago,but cancelled the appoinment.Her appointment is at 1:40pm.Her mom has to be at work for 3pm.I'm getting her right after her shots!! :( :irked: I am so upset.We had this conversation before.If she's vaxing,please find another sitter for at least a few days.I don't vax,and it's not that I'm afraid my dc are in danger of contracting something,I don't want to see this baby hurting!The mom has no idea how she will react.She was in foster care for all her other vaxes.The foster mom(family friend of mine,excellent foster parents) said she was ok,but still,her mom did not experience this first hand.A normal reaction wouldn't be anything new to the foster mom,as she's cared for so many babies,many with serious medical issues.She did say the baby had hard lumps at the injection site for days,if not weeks.I'm scared.Her mom should be dealing with this,not me.Her mom is too busy working(7 days a week).She expects me to pick up those days,and care for her dd.NO.I have my own dc,and I need time with them.I'm just so sad for the baby.She needs her mama through this,not Auntie.I have my autistic son,and my dd also needs me,so I can't give dn the attention she needs and wants sometimes.I feel bad when I have to let her cry for a minute while I change my ds or get them something to eat or whatever.I did wash ds's old sling,so I may wear her today.I don't know if I can physically do it,as I have inflamation in my chest that is being treated but still very painful.I'm just very upset.It's not just the vaxes,but that's the main reason for the way I feel right now.I'm even shaking.

I just got off the phone with her mom.She's going to dose her with Tylenol before the shots,and wants me to give it to her every 4 hours.Is this a good idea??She's leaving soon for the clinic,and is dropping her off right after,even if she gets out early!!I said no,but she just ignored me.I'm done with this.She has a week to find a daycare.I don't want to see her lose her job,but this is NOT my responsibilty!It's hers.She really doesn't understand what it is like to have a child full time.This is her first,and she only had her back at 5 1/2 months old.I think if she would have had her from the beginning,she'd understand more.It's obvious they're not even as close as they should be.They just don't know each other very well,and it's sad.I wish CPS would realize the damage they do to families.

Time to go give my dress my dc,and try to get the peanut butter out of ds's hair :LOL .I want to take them outside for a while,so a bath is pointless :LOL .Thanks for letting me vent.

Don't let her take advantage of you like that. You told her long ago you wouldn't be available after shots & this is stepping way over the line. The way she's treating you is disrespectful to say the least. Honestly, I wouldn't even answer the door.

It's sad that someone wouldn't seem to care for their baby like we might think they should but that's just the way life is sometimes. She's going to do what she wants with her kid & because it's so painful for you I think you should just remove yourself from the situation. A week is way generous, I probably wouldn't even give her that.

If the child has a severe reaction or dies after the vaccine, you could be held responsible.

I would NEVER babysit for a child that got vaccinated within the last two weeks.

Not that I am afraid of the vaccine shedding, but because of horror stories I have heard first hand.

There is a lady, Debbie Grater, who was charged with child abuse after a newly vaccinated child had a severe vaccine reaction. She took the child to the ER and everything went crazy after that.

I know her through telephone conversations and she said I can tell anyone I want. Her story is on the web.

She's leaving soon for the clinic,and is dropping her off right after,even if she gets out early!!I said no,but she just ignored me.

I would take my Dc to the park or something. I would not be there when she shows up. You told her you would not watch her child after shots. You told her just now not to drop the baby off after the appointment. By ignoring your wishes she is showing she doens't respect you at all. If you are home you know you will answer the door so the only way to show her you mean business is to NOT be there when she shows up. She should be with her baby right now. She should have scheduled the appointment for a day off if nothing else. Requiring employees to work 7 days a week is against the law in most states.

I agree with Gitti 100% !!! Don't get anywhere NEAR that baby for at least 2 weeks after the shots. Do you have any idea how many caregivers have been accused of SBS/murder because an infant dies in their care? My DH works with a man whose wife is in jail right now because an infant died in her care.

Even parents are accused when their own child dies shortly after being vaccinated. This can affect you for life!!

Well,I did leave.I went to the laundromat with my mom,and made the mistake of going into the coffee shop next door with my ds.She was driving by and saw us coming out.So of course she stopped and dropped dn off to me there.And,she was given 3 vaccines,with 7 diseases. :irked: They gave her dtap,polio,and the new hep b,hib and prevnar in one vax. :splat She was happy and playing,and just ate normally.She's in the pack and play since my chest is hurting and I need a break.

She just fell asleep,and I don't like the way she's breathing.Loud and nasally,I've never heard her breathe like that before.I called her mom at work and let her hear her dd,and she's coming by on her break(about an hour away) to check on her,and hopefully take her home.It just scares me so much.I love this baby,she's so beautiful and such a sweetie.I just don't want to see anything happen to her.I wish her mother would research,and at least if she still decides to vax,then it's an informed decision,and she should take the day/weekend off to be with her.Not just trust the local clinic knows what they are doing,drop her off at the sitters and not worry about anything.

She doesn't have to work 7 days.It's her choice.She's a single mom,and just bought a car and has a ton of bills.She's wearing herself out. :( She does have someone else watching her 2-4 days a week,but that still leaves me with 3-5 days,9 hours a day.I understand she needs the money,but her dd doesn't know her like she should. :( I can see an extra day here and there,when rent is due or whatever.I don't mind helping her out for those days a few times a month even,but she needs permanant daycare.

I'll post again after her mom leaves.I know she thinks I'm just overreacting about the breathing,but I don't care.If it were my child,I'd be calling the dr,at least.I'll be right here on the side of her until she gets here.I keep getting up and just rubbing her back gently,making sure she is ok.

:( poor baby! I'm feeling sad for you too. I know the sick feeling--my friend called me once with her 6 mo old screaming in the background and told me that her baby "just hasn't been the same girl since her shot" --several days earlier.

I felt like I couldn't breathe! The baby seems to be ok now but I was amazed at how calmy she handled it--she said that the Dr said this is normal :( poor kid.

I agree with Gitti 100% !!! Don't get anywhere NEAR that baby for at least 2 weeks after the shots. Do you have any idea how many caregivers have been accused of SBS/murder because an infant dies in their care? My DH works with a man whose wife is in jail right now because an infant died in her care.

Even parents are accused when their own child dies shortly after being vaccinated. This can affect you for life!!

This is so true!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Please be careful! Video tape the baby if you have to, or at least have witnesses around to verify that you are not hurting her little girl. I know it sounds extreme, but in todays society you can never be to careful.