OtherMother'n'Madre
07-26-2005, 06:24 PM
I don't know what to think. A little background. My mom is very opinionated about everything. Her father is even more so and her mom does everything by "how they should be done". Everything is done according to etiquite. Needless to say their household growing up was intense. My grandpa is racist. No ifs, ands, or buts about it. He is also slightly tyrannical. That being said my mom did not grow up without some influence on her.
This is where I think the problem is. My husband is half Chilean. His dad came here from Chile. My mom has never said anything rude or derrogatory about him but she goes out of her way (it seems that way to us) to make him feel uncomfortable. She has this weird habit of placing his dad in a social status as well (he owns his own business). She acts like he's an amazing person out of his race because he isn't the fields working for squat and supporting a family of 15. Very degrading behavior. DH and I can get over that though because we are adults and her tactics are very subtle. My issue is with DSS (I have not said anything about it to DH).
Everytime I mention him she acts like I am talking about someone else's dog in another country. Complete disinterest. I can understand not being enthusiastically gungho about him since she hasn't met him or anything but come on! I called her yesterday to ask about the crib she bought me. We are moving in a month and needed to know if the crib broke down to a twin so we could get a room set up for DSS so when he comes visits he has "his" space. She acted completely disgusted with me that I would even think of breaking down DD's crib to let DSS have a bed. Anytime we mention him she gets this look of disdain on her face.
I'm not sure where this is going. I'm just sick of her acting like this. I don't know if it's because she hasn't met him or because of her up bringing. She acts disgusted over things DD does as well. I don't know. Anyone else's parents not accept their stepkids? I know I am young and we don't have DSS but he is my DSS none the less, kwim?
This is where I think the problem is. My husband is half Chilean. His dad came here from Chile. My mom has never said anything rude or derrogatory about him but she goes out of her way (it seems that way to us) to make him feel uncomfortable. She has this weird habit of placing his dad in a social status as well (he owns his own business). She acts like he's an amazing person out of his race because he isn't the fields working for squat and supporting a family of 15. Very degrading behavior. DH and I can get over that though because we are adults and her tactics are very subtle. My issue is with DSS (I have not said anything about it to DH).
Everytime I mention him she acts like I am talking about someone else's dog in another country. Complete disinterest. I can understand not being enthusiastically gungho about him since she hasn't met him or anything but come on! I called her yesterday to ask about the crib she bought me. We are moving in a month and needed to know if the crib broke down to a twin so we could get a room set up for DSS so when he comes visits he has "his" space. She acted completely disgusted with me that I would even think of breaking down DD's crib to let DSS have a bed. Anytime we mention him she gets this look of disdain on her face.
I'm not sure where this is going. I'm just sick of her acting like this. I don't know if it's because she hasn't met him or because of her up bringing. She acts disgusted over things DD does as well. I don't know. Anyone else's parents not accept their stepkids? I know I am young and we don't have DSS but he is my DSS none the less, kwim?