I am getting married

[2happymamas]

OK, I can no longer hold this in and need to brag and gloat for a minute. DP and I leave early next Sunday morning for the great state of MA. We are going to apply for a marriage license on Monday and have an appintment with the JP on Friday, August 12. I cannot even begin to explain how excited I am. I never thought the day would come that DP and I would be able to amrry. While I reailze that the marriage will be null (legally) here at home, the actual ceremony will be very symbolic to us. We picked up our rings yesterday and let me tell you, I want to put it on and wear it so very badly. :LOL However, I am going to wait until after the ceremony.

I have yet to experience any real nervousness or "wedding jitters." I am just so thrilled to be marrying the love of my life. :heartbeat

For those of you who have done a second parent adoption and homestudy, will this marriage license (although void in my homestate) help to show the existence of an established relationship. Our attorney said we need as much evidence as possible to show such a relationship. Do you think this license would be helpful?

[missus]

Land of the truly free and brave :wink - my dp and I married legally in BC 2 years ago next week, and I'm 29 weeks pg with our first. It is more than symbolic to me to be married - although the wedding ceremony itself was a (ritual/symbolic) public expression our mutual love and commitment to each other and our family, as well as an opportunity for our family members (bio and of choice) to express their support of our commitment. For me, being married reminds me I have to work things out w/ my dp - we have no choice but to work them out and come to a resolution together. One day we had an argument and she stormed off to her office (in home). A few minutes later she came out and said "well, I guess we have to talk about this, since we're married and I can't stay in that room forever..." !
It's great to say "married" when people ask your "marital status". However, crossing the border to visit our american friends it scary, since they often ask us "what is the nature of your relationship" or something like that. :irked: We have to say "friends" or something equally innocent - not that they believe us (she's butch/i'm femme/soon we will have a baby on board...) - it's just a stupid game we have to play. Weird to be out in all areas of our lives and then have to lie to a stranger.

[wemoon]

Yea Congrats!!!

[max_4477]

Congrats! We're in Canada and married too. But we're American (*sigh*) and it is very weird having our marriage "not exist" back "home." And sucks for filing taxes in both places b/c of the extra work (filling out married forms here, and then having to report income as unmarried to the US :eyesroll

Anyway, congrats & have fun!

[fire_in_july]

CONGRATS!!!! :champagne

And may the United States of the Morals Police soon see how asinine they are being and allow your marriage to be recognized in EVERY state!!!

[charhoover]

First,...congrads ! We hope to go to spain in Dec, for our wedding. We have family there. We are in Texas and did the second parent adoption last year. The home study was just a matter of a social worker touring our home, asking MANY questions from "who was your favorite teacher " to "how often do you visit extended family". We were able to chose the social worker, so we chose one that we knew to be gay. There was alot of paper work. the adoption it's self was very simple. we went to an attn. that only does second parent adoption and did have to travel very far for a hand picked judge. Other than that paid the money, the attn told the judge how great we were, she granted the adoption and we all took pictures. that was it. Good luck, hope your is just as simple. You might see if your city has a lesbian parent support group

[~Megan~]

That's my anniversary! I hope you have a nice ceremony.

[mamimapster]

Mazel Tov!
:balloons :champagne :banana :broc: :carrot :broc: :banana :champagne :balloons

May your wedding be joyous! We had a Religious Ceremony almost 5 years ago(our anniversary is Sept 3), and are planning to go to Canada next year for our 6th and do a renewal of vows. It really does feel dfferent to me, being married rather than just living together. We also have our Ketubah (Jewish Wedding Contract) in a frame above the bed. it spells out our love for each other, rights and responsibilities to each other. Sometimes I just sit in bed and read it, it is such a sweet reminder of that day, and all of the people who were with us, as well as the beloved family members who have passed on since then. If only the rest of our Country would get with the program, I would be so much happier as an American!

[proudmamanow]

:champagne :broccoli :banana :carrot

Congrats to you!!! Enjoy this happy celebration of your love for each other!! I truly believe that the time will come when your relationship is recognized in your own home!!

[jocmtl]

Congratulations!!

Our first anniversary is coming up on August 13! I can't tell you how amazing it's been to tell clued out people that we're married (for example, at an open house recently, the realtor asked which one of us the house was for. I said, "both of us; we're married." How satisfying!)

Enjoy the special day!!

[JenniferC]

Congrats from Canada :).