I got served at 11:30 at night

[pranamama]

Well, my husband just had me served at 11:30 pm and I thought the guy was some psycho pervert til I saw the huge stack of papers in his hand. It'll probably take me at least an hour to read them.


well smart moms are in bed at this hour...
bbl

[annarbor931]

Wow!!! At least you read the papers, my STBX has never even looked at them. I hope things go smoothly from here.

[pranamama]

hey thanks
Well I have to admit I skimmed some of them. They are pretty boring. He wants to pay about 350 per month child support. Its the first time I've seen our tax returns though

[the sunshine]

I swear there is a website out there that tells men how to be the biggest jerks they can be in divorce.

Why is this the first time you've ever seen your tax returns? Didn't you have to sign them?

[L.J.]

I hope they aren't all that bad.
Good luck.

[Bad Mama Jama]

What a butt cheek. Hugs to you!

[pranamama]

He did the tax returns electronically with no signature. When I ordered back copies last year he intercepted them in the mail :(

Well I have to put together a proposal for temporary support and a parenting plan. I am so procrastinating.....

[Mommay]

That doesn't sound like too much fun. Is $350 a month standard where you are? To me it sounds like enough to starve on. Is that a fair number?

[jcw]

Usually the amount of child support they have to pay is worked out by a formula. The amount varies state to state. That being said, it is WELL worth it to get an attorney. If the other party is out to pay as little as possible, once it is approved by the court it becomes very difficult to change things. It will help you a lot in the long run to have a voice in the courtroom who can speak on your behalf and make sure you are treated fairly. Judges don't do that, and the other party won't do it either.

[morgainesmama]

Wow, if someone I didn't know knocked on the door at 11:30 at night they'd be knocked flat.

Hugs, mama. I agree, get a lawyer if you can. They are out there. In my state, there's a number to call for pro bono help (good luck getting in) and also another number for reduced fee, and if you call around and explain your situation someone might help you ...

My lawyer had a steep down payment, but much cheaper than others, at $750, which I borrowed, and I have to pay her $75 every other week. It's alot of money. But I make it work.

If he doesn't pay you support you cna file with the state, at least in NH, and they will garnish his wages. Here's a link to some support calculators, very easy to use.

There are other custodial factors I think that get taken into consideration sometimes, like if you split custody 50/50. But this will give you a place to start. $350 sounds way too low.

11:30 pm .. wow. I wouldn't have thought that was even legal.

I hope it gets better rather than worse. :down

Kristi

[pranamama]

His lawyer said in court today I was served Tuesday Evening. I was thinking you are one slick *** I bet you did that on purpose. Well the end and new beginning are near I suppose. The judge ordered us to go to Family Court services.

[koofie]

Good luck and good riddance, I say :thumb

[jojo26]

Usually the amount of child support they have to pay is worked out by a formula. The amount varies state to state. That being said, it is WELL worth it to get an attorney. If the other party is out to pay as little as possible, once it is approved by the court it becomes very difficult to change things. It will help you a lot in the long run to have a voice in the courtroom who can speak on your behalf and make sure you are treated fairly. Judges don't do that, and the other party won't do it either.

in my state (va) you can go to the website of the dept. of social services and all the info you need is there, including the guidelines for child support. it should not be a number he decides upon but as jcw says, a formula, usually based on the income of each parent, child care expenses, and health care expenses. $350 sounds way low. i urge you to investigate this for yourself b/c as jcw says, once it is in a document it becomes VERY hard to change. i highly recommend you get a lawyer who represents your interests and those of your child.

hugs to you and your babes. i'm going through the same stuff right now and now had bad it sucks, even though it's all that's left to do.

jojo mama to simon 6/02 :flyby1