Feeling terrible (nasuea and headaches)

[Mallory]

I just feel terrible, all day (and night) my stomach is upset and my head hurts :sick . I never had morning sickness or headaches with my last and I felt great right up to that last week or so. I am just over 8 weeks.

This is no fun. I makes me understand why some women really don't want to be pregnant lots of times, in fact I have been questioning if I want anymore. A month ago I would have told you I want at least 2 or 3 more. I am just misserable, I can't sleep, I can't exercise (I went for a walk the other day and my head ache was sooooo bad), I just fight with my kids, I don't want dh to touch me. I hate this. :crying At least feeling bad during labour is at most maybe a day or two, I don't know if I can do this for 4 more weeks.

In fact the only time I don't feel so bad is when I am eating. It seems to make my head and stomach feel better. But I am worried about eating too much, especially since the things that taste the best are carbs-bagels, mashed potatoes, biscuts and gravy, cereal, crackers, ect. I don't have a scale so I don't know how much weight I've gained.

[Mariposa]

I don't have any advice to help you feel better, just wanted to send a :hug. I had nausea like that with my first pregnancy and it sucked. I did get one of those sea band things for motion sickness and it helped a little.

Have you asked your midwife/doctor about the headaches?

I say if eating carbs makes you feel better, then do it, you can make up for it when you feel better.

[Tine]

I can totally, totally relate. I felt like s**t for 2 straight months when pregnant with DS, and even after years of infertility I found myself wondering, "What have I done?!" It's just so demoralizing to feel so awful and not know when it will end.

Do whatever you need to feel better and get through it. Try not to worry; your baby will get what it needs from you.

Here's what helped me:
- I just ate/drank whenever and whatever sounded good and stayed down. Mama Nurse is right: you can eat differently when you feel up to it.
- I tried to focus on the fact that the nausea WOULD eventually end. Even though I didn't know when that would happen, it helped to remind myself that it wouldn't last forever.

Hugs to you. :hug

[berlina]

I'm right there with ya, sister. I am 8 weeks pregnant with my first and was feeling fine until about 2.5 weeks ago and then the nausea hit. I haven't been vomiting, but the nausea has been almost unbearable. I can't tell if I'm hungry or nauseous until I feel so weak and light headed that I MUST eat something immediately. But, then, the thought of putting something in my mouth and eating it makes my stomach turn...but that's the only thing that makes me feel better--not good, just better. I know it's a rite of passage most women go through during pregnancy, but honestly, I am getting so frustrated and so TIRED. I look forward every night to falling asleep; the one time I don't feel any nausea. The second trimester is just around the corner and it's supposed to all get better by then, right??!

I know it's hard but it'll be worth it. I have some health issues that could become problematic in the future so we got an early ultrasound just yesterday to see if they could detect a heartbeat. I was so nervous and so relieved when I saw the tiny pulsing on the screen and then I saw the baby and then I saw it wiggling around and then I couldn't stop smiling. It's worth it...difficult at times, but worth it.

[Mallory]

Thanks for the hugs, I'm just hanging in here for a few more weeks and hope it gets better.

[nubianamy]

Wow! I'd been starting to feel nausea in the afternoons, enough to make it hard for me to eat and enjoy it... so I decided to go back on the B-6 (1 100mg tablet) I'd been taking before the pregnancy and during the first six weeks. Just a day later, I'm feeling NO nausea! A clear, marked difference.

It's water soluble, and I read there's no problems with taking B6 until you get to huge 2-3g doses.

I did hear that B6 causes interesting dreams, and I can definitely attest to that... bizzare! But soooo worth it. =)

[Metasequoia]

I copied this from RedOakMomma, info on too much B6 in pg, linked to seizures in children: HTH

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B6

I don't know what exact amounts are considered unsafe, but from what I've been able to gather from the Dr. Sears book (and on-line), it seems anything over 100mg a day is in the danger zone. Dr. Sears says 25-50 mg of B6 a day can be safely used to address dry skin problems, so does that mean it's okay for the rest of pregnancy?

http://www.birth.com.au/class.asp?class=6510&page=7

This website at birth.com says that taking over 100mg a day (especially in the first trimester) is dangerous, but suggests 10-25 mg three times daily is okay. Personally, I'd take the lowest dose possible. Hopefully taking 10 or 15mg a few times a day will give you the help you need.

It seems like, as with all meds/supplements/additives, if you can get along without them, it's best to try. There's just not enough research to know what happens when you take a lot of a certain vitamin, or eat a lot of artificial sweeteners, or take some Advil for pain. Will it cause a problem? Probably not, but all babies are different and they're just so fragile and unable to process chemicals the way we are.

Then again, I'm just hyper-vigilant about this stuff. I'm so afraid of having another child with disabilities, and I sometimes question whether I could have been more careful last time. Nothing I could have done would have changed their genetic illness, but their illness is a spectrum illness. Did I make it worse somehow? This time I'm being _very_ careful.

....sorry to be such a downer!
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[MamaChel]

I hear ya! This is my 3rd and it's hit me much worse than the 1st two. I can't eat, sleep or get comfy. Ginger tea is my friend. I just eat whatever I can hold down and somedays it's strange stuff. 2 days ago I had DH bring me home some duck, I never eat duck, I don't really care for meat at all but I was able to eat that duck better than anything else all week. Eventually this shall pass and I will feel almost human again for a couple months. I know this, it's still hard.

[HappiLeigh]

Reading your all's posts is making me feel a little better--at least this is normal.
I've been miserable for 6 days now. :crap I can't do much but sit around or I get nauseated. I'm eating *terribly* (just whatever I can keep down), and we're moving states away on Tuesday. My mother drove up 300 miles to help me pack--which is really her doing all the work and me just lying there trying not to throw up. Thank god for Mom! And DH has to drive me anywhere I need to go (allergy shot, to the grocery to see if there is anything I can stand to look at and possibly eat), and help me with a lot, and he's being sweet, but this is wearing on me so much I don't know how long his patience will last. :guilty I know it isn't my fault but somehow I feel bad anyway for creating extra work all around.
My neighbor did helpfully laugh at me and remind me how all I talked about for a year was how much I want a baby. And it's totally true. I want a baby. I just don't want to vomit from now to March. Hopefully that magical 12th week will work its magic on me. :shrug
I'm in sisterhood with you other sick March Mamas!

[melamama]

I know how you feel. I'm not so sick this pg (keeping fingers crossed) but with my ds I was nauseous ALL the time.

Some things that helped me last time--the circular Altoid tins that have the sour candies in them--sour tangerine or lemon lime.
If you use homeopathic remedies--nux vomica helped me for several weeks.
I've also heard that taking your calcium at night, then having an overnight snack helps.
Like posted above, I just tried to eat whatever I felt like (even though for several months I just needed to have a regular coca-cola in the morning :bag: )
Also, I recently heard a Chinese medicine Dr. speak, and he said that he was always able to alleviate morning sickness--using acupuncture.

hope it gets better soon.

[nubianamy]

You're not being a downer, Metasequoia -- I appreciate the information! =)

[Tine]

Just chiming in to commiserate. I'm 7 weeks now, and until 2 days ago had been feeling fabulous. Should've known it wouldn't last. Gack. :sick