Have you shared your news?

[*bejeweled*]

We are planning to wait until October to break the news while we're on our annual family beach trip.

Only you all know............. :p

[Two Spunky Monkeys]

Well, my mom and sister know - and all of my sister's friends. :) She was so excited and told all her bridesmaids the weekend of her wedding (last weekend). I've told some other people (who don't really matter) - like our hosts at the Bed & Breakfast this week.

But we have not made a major announcement yet. I see the midwife for the first time on 9-7 and I will be 10 weeks at that time. I am hoping to hear a heartbeat and feel secure in telling at that point.

My only problem is that I have about 2 pairs of pants that fit at this point - and my co-workers are going to start to notice this. LOL I didn't want to tell at work yet - but I may have to. I do not work with my boss at all - I only work with 2 other women in the evening. I may tell them (because they are the ones who see me) but explain that I do not want to announce this until I at least have my first prenatal appointment.

[kyle98sean02]

Just about everyone knows LOL. I am not good at secrets and this is something I wanted to share with the world. If something does happen, then I have a support network too. I have had a few m/c and its nice to have a support network if that does happen again.

[2+twins]

I've told quite a few friends - people who I feel can support me through a m/c (I've had 2 before). I haven't told friends who haven't been through that b/c in my experience they just don't know how to respond and it makes it that much more painful for me. I've also shared the news with the entire online community. :D Dh hasn't told anyone at all yet.

We plan to tell our parents/other family sometime after the 12 week mark. We're going on a vacation with my in-laws in mid-October which should be roughly 3 1/2 months for me so I'm thinking that would be a good time to tell. I guess we'll tell my parents sometime around then too.

[zion]

My NP knows and the 2 girls that work in the lab at work...they were the ones that drew my quants. One of the nurses I work with knows too. She's 6 weeks pregnant. That's it. None of my family or friends know. I want to wait til I see the ultrasound next week. Hopefully I can wait that long.

[celesterra]

Just about everyone knows LOL. I am not good at secrets and this is something I wanted to share with the world. If something does happen, then I have a support network too. I have had a few m/c and its nice to have a support network if that does happen again.


:yeah: plus, for us, so many people knew what we were doing to ttc! i kind of wish i could have waited to tell *everyone,* but i am confident that having them know just gives us more paryers and good wishes, plus a good support network in case the unmentionable does happen.

[duckat]

We've told family and close friends.
We didn't tell many people at all with my first pg, and it was hard going thru a m/c when most family thought we were still just ttc and would ask about it, etc.

[sahm]

Our original plan was to not tell people until I started really showing. Nine months is such a long time and I hate it when you start getting those "have you had the baby yet..." when you're only half way through the pregnancy. :irked: Anyway, family is starting to learn though because my 4 yo ds is excited about the baby and is telling them. :D We're fine with that and decided that we'd just let him tell people for now. He's doing such a good job at it anyway. :thumb

But apart from family, we're not telling anyone else until it's unavoidable.

[Faithsmom]

Just about everyone knows. We didn't tell anyone until I was about 15wks w/ DD. For some reason I feel a bit more secure in this pregnancy than my first. I don't know if it's expirience or what. I had terrible morning sickness with DD (hypermesis). So far I have only vomitted twice with this pregnancy. It's almost like I don't feel pregnant, but at the same time I feel like everything will be ok. If that makes any sense. LOL.

[*bejeweled*]

We shared our news with my immediate family yesterday. There went our plan to wait until October...............:LOL

It was so *joyful*. Yesterday was my Dad's birthday, so we snuck a pregnancy announcement in with his birthday cards:

"Just a little note bearing very big news on a very special day. Grandbaby #2 is on the way........."

He was totally :jumpers: and actually dropped the card while he was reading it. Everyone was :happyt: and lots of hugs all around. I'm so glad that we shared. It's too much good to keep to ourselves.

[2+twins]

Faith, you're dad's reaction made me teary! I think that's great.

I ended up telling one of my cousins & my sister this past Saturday. My parents had a party and I had already confided in my cousin that we were trying. I was so tired and she was pretty much figuring it out so I told her, in secret. Then my sister stopped by my house later in the evening and I got nauseous so I thought I better just tell her before she sees me puking for no apparent cause. :LOL I think she was happy. My cousin seemed happy but I know she's been ttc too so it might have been a little hard for her at the same time (I can certainly sympathize). Anyway, for the rest of the family we still plan to wait until October.

[Hollycrand]

I've told two close girlfriends, who live far away from us, and who won't tell anyone. Dh and I will wait until end of September to tell our parents (because then the whole world will really know) because in Europe people don't usually announce pregnancies until the third month - even to close friends.

[*bejeweled*]

in Europe people don't usually announce pregnancies until the third month - even to close friends.

Hollycrand, I've noticed this in other cultures also. Many women don't announce until they actually start showing.

[zion]

pretty much everyone knows now. I told my boss and people at work today.

[*bejeweled*]

pretty much everyone knows now. I told my boss and people at work today.

how'd it go?

[zion]

Every one has been really supportive so far. My mom was a little concerned because our house is not done. But it will be in about a month so no worries!!

[celestialdreamer]

We told our parents a week after we found out. We found out I was pg at 4 weeks, had it confirmed at the midwife's office later that week, and then invited our families over that weekend for a BBQ. I made little cards that had a pic of our dd on the outside and the caption "I have a little secret..." Then when you opened it, it had a pic of her holding a sign saying "I'm going to be a big sister!" and then at the bottom it said "Baby *lastname* #2, EDD April 4th, 2006!"

They were all really surprised and said they were excited. They didn't react quite how I thought they would, but oh well (maybe they were just shocked :LOL )! We also have told my brother, our grandparents and our closest friends. Oh and I let the cat out of the bag on MDC because I was so excited, and so all my real life friends who are on MDC know now too :LOL If something bad were to happen we'd want their support. Only 5 weeks left until we can tell everyone else! :D

[Beanjeepin]

I've told a couple internet people, and that's about it. We waited till 8 weeks to tell local people, 12 weeks non-local with our first. This time I think we'll be forced into telling everyone by about 8 weeks. My pants are already tight and I'm 5 weeks. :-( Plus, I've fallen mopping the floor at work TWICE in the last week - and I have not fallen in the 8 months I've been there. If I fall again I'm going to be forced to mention it to someone there I think.

Anyone know the dangers of lifting 35-45 lbs? I lifted 45 lbs at work and had sharp shooting pains for a couple hours afterward. Whoops.

[Daphnes_mama]

Well, DH and I got into it last night because of this issue! I want to tell people and he wants to wait. I am only 4 weeks along, so his points made sense. I have an appointment on 9-6, so we will wait until we hear the heartbeat and all of that good stuff. However, it will be challenging because we are spending the weekend with my mother and I REALLY want to tell her.

I have told my fellow board members at RDA. I had to tell someone and it was nice to share the news. How to keep from telling my friends and family for another few weeks is going to be hard!!!

[KKmama]

I told one friend IRL and my mom. I'm generally willing to tell friends pretty early (we wait till later with the family, because *they* are the ones who are annoying when I'm pg), but we're waiting a bit with this one. We wanted a 3rd child, but we weren't going to start TTC for another year, so this is a bit of a shock for us. We're waiting until we feel more used to the idea and completely enthusiastic until we tell people. I figure that some people will be hassling us anyway just for having a 3rd child, and I don't want any hassling while I'm still feeling a little ambivalent.

[liam's mom]

i have only told one person--a coworker, the only person who even knew we were ttc. i'm going to have to tell HR because i need to discuss the maternity leave benefits, but other than that i'm in no hurry to broadcast it yet.

[normee]

So far we've only told my sister. And that was mainly to secure some baby stuff :)

My 1st appt. is Sept 20th so will probably wait until then to spread the news but I am dying to tell. I think we will tell the girls first and have them relay the news to people when we see them. Celestialdrmrmama - I really like the cards you used - what a cute idea - may have to do something like that for out of town people.

I'm more excited to tell my friends; will probably get more remarks about having a baby over 40 from family. But my sister had one when she was 40 so maybe they are over it now. I'll tell sooner if I start showing - jeez my waistbands are already snug! Work will be the last to know.

[ZenMamaJen]

We've told my parents, and I've told a few friends who I was discussing the possibility with when AF never showed up (I honestly didn't believe I was pregnant, because I'd had symptoms before where I was sure I was preg, and I wasn't, so I guess I didn't want to get my hopes up :innocent ).

The more people that know, the more nervous I get. I think we'll tell everyone after my appt on Sept 22nd. Although I've heard through the grapevine that there's already been speculation, since I've stopped having the occassional beer at social gatherings!

[LukeDuke]

Both sets of grandparents know, but not all family. I've told a few friends, somewhat radomly. I wanted to wait awhile since I am only 4 weeks, but I find I have far too big a mouth, and I'm just too excited.

I also find myself telling very near strangers!! I guess I feel very confident with this pregnancy. We didn't tell anyone about ds until I was 12 weeks.

[mommabear]

With my other pgs we told people almost right away. This time we are keeping things quiet, mainly because I don't want to deal with other people's (mainly my mom and mil) negative energy -- having a history of pg loss, I know some people might think we are nuts to try again. I have told 2 friends, though. One who is the most supportive person I know, and the only one to have cried with me over my last m/c; and the other is an old friend from childhood who was just visiting us from Italy (I wanted to tell her in person now, rather than via email later).

I have to say, I feel like it would be easier to tell acquaintances than some family and close friends. Ds knows something is up, but we are being a bit vague, saying we are hoping to have another baby, etc. But he remembers my nausea and tiredness from earlier in the year -- we just don't want to 'officially' tell him to reduce the likelihood of him sharing the news.