the name battle

[Mallory]

I don't know if Dh and I will ever agree :flipped

I really want Eleanor, but he hates it.

His picks are always for his favorite singers/guitar players.

At least he isn't pushing for (Bob) Dylan anymore- it is so popular and rhymes with our last name. As much as he loves Niel (Young), it wasn't so hard to convince him Neil was not okay.

But he seems to be stuck on (Jay) Farrar. Sure gets us out of the top ten names, but is it too far out? I think I could be convinced of this one.

What do you think of Farrar?

[mgirl]

Ok, I'm only being honest but I think Farrar is a tad too out there. Can you go through the lists of names, pull out all that you can both "live with" and then draw from a hat? Sorry, I don't have much advice.

[Carliegirl]

Farrar is not my favorite, but if it is personally significant to both of you then I could see it. It is off the top ten list!

[mimi!]

Mallory: I sympathsize with you! My dh is a little crazy too. He likes odd names. We would like a unique name, and its hard with dh being a teacher 'cause he always knows someone with a name I like so it can really drive me crazy :flipped . Right now he really like Lola and Sadie which I don't. Humm, I really like Mallory, perhaps I'll pass this by him.

When we knew we were having a boy last time, he actually suggested Homer and I was starting to get a little pissed off with his lack of foresight, so I railed him over that stating that he has to pay attention to the cultural connotations behind a name.

In the end, I made him make a list of names, or he was going to have to choose from my list. I really like Elliot and he didn't, and I said that was it unless he made a list. He did while going through several books from the library, and lo and behold, we had a common name we both liked: Bohdan. Lists seem to work well for us and we avoid arguments and don't forget some of the names, cause the list can be long!

Good luck!

[Mrs Dimples]

Names are so tricky, aren't they? My husband and I are both of the opinion that we choose ALL the names TOGETHER, none of this "you pick this one and I'll pick the next one", or "you pick the first name and I'll pick the middle" business. Nope, doesn't work for us. It took some serious, UN-level negotiations to choose Devlin's name but we are both perfectly happy with it. Keep working, and I think the suggestion to get him to make a list is a good one. You shouldn't have to do all the work, KWIM? Have him make a list, of a pre-determined number of names (so he doesn't just pick like 2 and make you choose one of them :irked: ) and you do the same and that will at least be a good jumping-off point and hopfully you can kind of get a feel for what each other is looking for.

BTW, I think Farrar is not a name that I would choose but I have no personal association. If you like it, and you have a meaning behind it, I think it makes it a lot easier to explain it to people. People today pick random freaky names all the time with no reason other than they think it sounds cool, so if you have a meaning behind the name then I don't see how you can argue with that.

Oh, and if this baby is a boy (which I don't think it is) his middle name will probably be Gilmour, after David Gilmour of Pink Floyd. So I know where you're coming from. That is a completely mutual decision, though. :D

[nubianamy]

Rachel -- did you guys settle on Tamsin if it's a girl? I thought of you the other day because I met a girl named Tamsin! =)

[LisaG]

What do you think of Farrar?

I think it's kind of tricky to pronounce. Seems to get stuck for me :shrug

Good luck!

[Mrs Dimples]

Rachel -- did you guys settle on Tamsin if it's a girl? I thought of you the other day because I met a girl named Tamsin! =)

Wow, that's amazing that you remembered! I'm so flattered! :LOL

DH says he isn't crazy about it. I have begged him to please just keep the option open, and he says he will really give it a chance, we don't have to decide until the end, but it doesn't look good. I'm kind of heartbroken, I just love it so much. :(

[MamaChel]

I didn't name either of my boys, they were named by DH and my mom. DH says I should just name this one but when it comes down to it, he'll prolly just do it. If the name really doesn't fit when the baby is born, I'll change it then.

BTW, DS #1 is named after my step-dad and DH's dad. DS#2 is named after 2 of my grandpas. :)

[yvonnemlv]

We've decided with this babe to not even discuss names until after wee one is born. It's so much easier once the lil one has arrived to see what fits. Not to mention you have 3 months here to decide on a name, so there is no rush.

[lilsishomemade]

With our first, we used dh's middle name, Erik. Actually, dh said, we should name it Erik for a boy or Erika for a girl, and I said, Okay! It was the middle name we battled over. With our second, it was pretty much me that named him. With this one, we already have a girl's name picked from last time: Hannah Marie (Marie is my great-grandmother's name and she recently passed. Erik was the only great-great she ever held, and she's so precious to us!!) For a boy, I don't know. I like Ian. But, the little boy next door is Ian, should I worry? :LOL:

As for Farrar, it is a little out there, but hey, if it's special to you and dh, then do it! I've seen much stranger names!

[melamama]

I don't think Farrar is too wierd. I suppose it just depends on where you live. You could always balance it out with a more pronouncable/conventional middle name. Then when the child is older they could pick-or you just use whichever you like. I have a neighbor that named their dd for her mil but they use dd's middle name.

I think Eleanor is great. She could also be Elle or Ella. (I love nicknames).

[Mallory]

I like nicknames too, although I prefer Nora.

Thanks for the opinions!