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mommabear
08-17-2005, 03:36 PM
Hi all! I have been lurking here for a few weeks now and am just iching to post, but I knew I would have to make an official 'announment' first :) . Anyway, you all seem so kind and sweet, and I finally feel ready to join you all in the (hopefully) nine month journey!

I am about 6 weeks along, and definately starting to feel pregnant. My journey to this point has been rather bumpy: I have a four year old son, followed by three little ones in heaven. My most recent loss happened in March of this year and was followed by medical testing and soul-searching. Anyhow, the testing resulted in a few answers, but to do anymore would be very invasive, and because I have already had a positive pregnancy outcome, it was determined that only after another loss would we (possibly) pursue more testing. So, long story short, dh and I realized that we were prepared to try again.

I am trying very hard to live in the moment and celebrate the fact that, for today, I am pregnant. Although this time we are holding off as long as possible on telling people IRL, I want to join you guys in celebrating *today*, yk?

So anyway, this pregnancy is a bit of an adjustment for me. We have always used our midwives (whom I adore!), but we will be starting off with an OB (who I have come to know through the recent m/c) until things seem well established, then I can transfer to my m/ws. Also, I will not be doing any ultrasounds unless a problem is indicated (having been through a healthy pg and pg losses, I know what my body does when things are good and not-so-good). We followed this approach (ie avoided a lot of prenatal testing) with ds and it worked well for us. With my last pg, I had an u/s done for dating, and it showed babe's little heart beating -- unfortunately she died about a week-and-a-half later, so I know there are no guarantees. I feel better about a more hands-off approach this time -- all part of 'going with the flow' I guess.

I am sorry to have rambled on so long. I guess I feel like I needed to explain where I am coming from this time. Thank you all so much for reading this far! And I really look forward to getting to chat with you all!




steelcitysistah
08-17-2005, 03:41 PM
Welcome, mommabear!
So happy to have you with us!

Best wishes and lots of positive thoughts coming your way! :love

celesterra
08-17-2005, 03:43 PM
Gen, welcome to the family! As I am sure you will find, many of us have had long and difficult roads to mamahood, so you're in good company. I'm sure many of us have the same reservations, and are also trying to stay in the moment (I'm definitely one of those!).

So, welcome again, and I'm looking foward to getting to know you over the next 9 months!!! :love

mommabear
08-17-2005, 03:51 PM
Steelcitysistah: thank you so much for the positive thoughts -- staying positive will keep me sane!

Celeste: I think reading about the journeys that so many in this group have been on is what strengthened me to come forward. There's a lot of support and encouragement here -- I knew I wanted to be a part of it!

:grouphug

Mommy To Baby Roni
08-17-2005, 07:00 PM
Welcome Mommabear! Celebrate away! :bouncy I hope you feel comfortable here while you wait to tell people irl. I'll be praying for you.

celesterra
08-18-2005, 11:46 AM
Mommabear, I probably shouldn't ask, but are you taking baby aspirin? It is recommended across the board at my RE's office. But in particular, women who have experienced repeated m/c's are told to take one a day.

I'm on it now, as is Adina (though we both have other issues)...

Anyway, maybe it's something to ask your practitioner... :love

mommabear
08-18-2005, 03:51 PM
Mommy to Baby Roni: Thank you for the welcome and prayers!

Celeste: Please feel free to ask me anything! I appreciate the suggestion. I had a bunch of bloodwork done after this most recent loss and was tested for some blood-clotting factors. The tests came back normal, but the question re: blood-clotting issues has remained in the back of my mind. I am going to go back and look at the specific tests I had done and maybe do a search for any other possible ones that I may not have had. As an aside, do you think the aspirin (blood-thinning) could be contributing to your spotting? Not in terms of threatening the pregnancy, strictly related to the fact that blood vessels in the cervix and 'down there' are so full and sensitive. Does that makes sense? I'm sorry to ramble; the question just got me thinking . . . . Anyway, thanks for suggestion -- I think it's good for me to go back and check. :thumb

celesterra
08-18-2005, 03:59 PM
re: the aspirin and spotting, that's a good thought. it's such a small amount, i wonder if it really does anything to thin my blood, but anything's possible. i can't pretend to understand these complexities! :p

ok, i have to run! (((hug))) mommabear!

mommabear
08-18-2005, 04:30 PM
I'm sorry, Celeste, I presumed that the aspirin you were taking was to reverse the effects of certain blood-clotting factors (ie thin the blood). Sorry to get so personal. :hug

celesterra
08-18-2005, 05:07 PM
Gen, please don't apologize! I really did appreciate your observation! :love It's so hard to convey tone in here... I was just at the point where I could leave work at that moment, so I was probably a little abrupt. :down

You'll find that there's not much I'm unwilling to share!

Anyway, as I am sure you realized, I was only asking to present another side, another option. I am sure that with your history, your practitioner is very careful.

So all that said, :hug and :rainbow - have a great night!

mommabear
08-18-2005, 05:48 PM
Celeste, your tone was not abrupt at all; I just didn't want my assumptions to make anyone uncomfortable. And as far as my OB being 'careful', I actually wish he was a little more so. It is amazing that after 3 m/cs, the labs and OBs around here do fairly little for putting one's mind at ease. Some labs don't even do testing until after three m/cs, and my OB knew my results were 'normal', however something must still be going on, because the babe was 'normal' too. A lot of testing and/or bloodwork isn't even offered until many losses have occured. I was actually just told to "think positive". On the other hand the remaining tests are quite invasive . . . . Sorry for the over-share; I guess I am still processing all of this! You are kind to respond to all of my ramblings!

AdinaL
08-18-2005, 06:42 PM
Welcome! :wave