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[NWmt_mama]

I am so sorry for your losses. I am in the process of miscarrying my first pregnancy and I want to thank you all who have posted on this forum. It has been a source of strength and information. The m/c sticky has given me a good idea of what to expect over the next few weeks.

After cramping and spotting on Sunday and feeling horrible, I went to my OB and found out (13 weeks) that my baby only measured 10 weeks and did not have a heartbeat. Wow has it been a difficult week. First to learn that, and then have to make a decision to weather this out at home, or to go to the hospital and have a D&C. It was also hard to say goodbye to the February DDC.

Your posts have convinced me to try this naturally, instead of going in for a D&C. My OB has been very supportive and I have an amazing dh as well as a circle of very understanding friends.

Kristen

[coleslaw]

Kristen, I am so very sorry for your loss. I am sorry you need to be here, but am glad you found us. This board has been a lifeline for me during both of my losses.

I'm sure you read this, but please remember to drink lots of fluids, little to no alcohol, and keep up your nutrition. Rest as much as possible before and after. Be aware of how quickly you are filling pads - more than one per hour for a couple of hours in a row is too much - go directly to the ER!

Most importantly grieve as you need to. There is no right and wrong way. There are many books to help you through, if that's your way of dealing and/or come here whenever you need to - to journal, ask questions, cry, vent, whatever.

I'll be thinking of you. Let us know how things are going when you can.

[abimommy]

I am so sorry for your loss. It is such a terrible thing to go through.

I agree completely with coleslaw, keep your fluids and your strength up.

I am so glad you have a good support network that is invaluable.

:hug

[JBaxter]

I am very sorry you are going through a m/c. I completely agree with the pps lots of fluids and if you do start to bleed heavy go to the ER. I have had 2 m/c and I think my first one was a little harder on me ( it also was my first pregnancy) Allow your self to grieve that is very important. I am glad to hear you have a supportive DH. :hug for you over the next week.

[sarahlynn83]

Kristin,

I am very sorry for your loss. I too just m/c my first baby. I was 8 weeks. It has been very hard for me as well. The one thing that I have found is that it is ok to cry, it is ok to be sad, to be mad at the situation but not at yourself. I was mad at myself for several days. That just made it worse. It is also ok to be jealous of the people that are pregant and are able to have babies right away with no propblems. It takes time to heal. It has been two weeks for me yesterday. I am teaching and my m/c happened on a thursday afternoon and I had to start work on that Monday. In some ways it has helped me tremendously to be able to throw myself into what I love to do and forget about it in a way, but then again I wish that I had had a week off to greive continiously. Right now I am ok when I am doing something or with my husband, but when I am by myself I just cry for hours. This may be because I am only 22 or because it just hurts sooooo bad, or it may be the combination of both. I will tell you what my OB told be yesterday, and it made me feel a little bit better...you are not the only one, and you will be able to carry a baby to term, it is much more common that you think. I leave you with that, and I wish you the best.

[NWmt_mama]

Thank you for the support. It really helped while I was going through the m/c and now while I heal.

Sarahlynn83, I am so sorry for your loss, too. It is very hard. Unfortunately my body did not m/c naturally in the 10 days after I started cramping and spotting, so I went in for a d&c. Initially I was sad that I didn't m/c naturally and angry at myself. Thankfully I am past that and feel tremendously better. It has been 2 weeks today since the m/c was complete. I feel very fortunate that I was able to stay home for a week and grieve with my husband. It was rough and it makes me sad to think that so many women have gone through this too.

Best wishes as you recover.