single men wanting to adopt/surrogacy

[Jillmarie]

Hey everyone....I've been lurking around this site for awhile and have continually been amazed by the wealth of knowledge and committment to family here...it's just wonderful. My husband and I have 2 boys and I'm in the middle of finishing my master's degree (!) so this site has been a godsend for us in many, many ways.

So I have a question I'd like to pose to see if anyone can offer suggestions/advice /insight....we have a very dear friend, a single guy (early 40's) who desperately wants children and is seriously thinking of adoption or hiring a surrogate to have a child....does anyone have any experience or information in this area they'd like to share? He's a great guy...wonderful with kids, great parenting skills, smart, financially comfortable, good support network. Anyone have any tips of agencies, people he can speak with?
Any info would be great!

Thanks guys...

[papapoochie]

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[Starr]

I don't necessarily think you need to connect with a partner before you desire having kids. I think its great that he is wanting to be parent, even without a partner.

I would suggest calling different agencies and seeing if they would be able to steer him in the right direction. Agencies are very helpful and are easy to work with. I would assume its no different than a single woman desiring to have a child.

[rozzie'sma]

You could try www.surrogacy.com they have info on egg donors, and surrogate mom's.

[Satori]

If he's willing to adopt a foster child he could adopt through the state pretty easy:)

[papapoochie]

[QUOTE=Starr]I don't necessarily think you need to connect with a partner before you desire having kids. I think its great that he is wanting to be parent, even without a partner.QUOTE]

I stand corrected. Sorry if I appeared to be insensitive.

[wednesday]

I follow the journal of a single man who adopted two brothers from Russia. His site is here (http://www.jeffrydwight.net/adoption/). Might be of interest to your friend.

[Elowyn]

Hmmm, may be difficult if he's not partnered. The adoption agencies may frown upon single folk trying to adopt. They like to see a 'stable' relationship as a starting point because of the demands of raising children.

How come no partner? Usually people connect with an adult, then have children.

Wow, 1950's much? Please hold while I go beat my head against a post. Truly, the problems with this statement are amazing!

As for the OP's friend, I think surrogacy or adoption would both be valid options, and, unless he does fost/adopt, probably approximately equivalent in price. Good luck to him, regardless. No sense in us women having the lock on being single parents by choice.