Positive Discipline by Jane Nelsen??

[CaraboosMama]

I picked up this book at the library since it was listed on the "Gentle Discipline" booklist. I can't address the books she has written about positive discipline and older children - but her book on ages 1 - 3 was very disappointing. She was anti-most AP practices (Extended Breastfeeding, Co-sleeping, etc) and recommended putting a baby in a playpen rather than getting "burnt-out" by holding your child all the time.

Just wanted to pass this info along - there were some good things (she explains how most toddlers don't understand the word no in the way parents think they do) but so much of the book seemed to condemn what I consider foundational parenting choices - I didn't give much creedance to the rest of what she had to say.

Is there a way to remove this from the list or add a cauutionary note?

[Fuamami]

CaraboosMama, Positive Discipline is much better, IMO. I just read Positive Discipline, the original one, and really liked most of her ideas for older kids, so I got "The First Three Years". Very disappointing, and I'm not even an AP parent. I missed the part about putting your baby in the playpen, I started skimming after awhile, but the part about letting your baby cry it out to build their confidence, and not missing the "weaning window of opportunity" between 9 mos. and 1 year seemed unecessary and irrevelant. She even recommended letting your baby go "cold turkey" when crying it out at night!

But Positive Discipline is a good one, much different. Read it and see what you think.

[Sisyphus]

I think with most parenting books, there's a certain amount of stuff you just toss out as "not for you" as you read it. I like Jane Nelson's approach to many discipline issues and wish she had just stuck to that instead of going on to say how we are undermining our children's confidence by allowing them to co-sleep... WHAT ever... I've had the same type of issue with the "militant" AP books... I don't want to nurse my 2.5 yo much longer than I already have, I don't have a problem if a child prefers to sleep in their own bed, etc...

Just take what works for you and leave the rest...

Gotta run!

Lo

[CaraboosMama]

But Positive Discipline is a good one, much different. Read it and see what you think.


Thanks - I'll have to check that one out - maybe that was the edition that the person who recommended it for the GD list intended.