Heavenly
08-23-2005, 08:33 PM
I had my first midwife appointment on Friday (and then we left directly from there for a 6 hour drive to the in-laws and we just got back). I met with the midwife who has been working to be able to accept my case since I was newly pregnant. She is so nice! I immediately felt completely comfortable with her. I found out why she wants to take my case so badly, she has two children and her second was a VBAC. She has only been practicing a year so she is not yet jaded by the nasty health care world. She is only 6 years older than me so that also helped me feel comfortable with her. We mostly talked alot about the bad climate surrounding VBAC and she said to me, "Lets just be honest here, the reason the hospitals are doing this, its all about malpractice and that's it." She met with the director of the hospital and he said that I can labour there but I have to meet with him so he can go over all the risks with me (ie. try and scare me). There is still a risk that the OB on call when I go in will try and transfer my care over but she said I can refuse. She kept making that clear throughout the conversation - that it is my right to refuse any treatment I don't agree with. She padded my due date for me! LOL She got out the little wheel and it came up with what I know is my actual due date - February 17. I am 100% positive of when I ovulated so 40 weeks would be February 17. She looked at me and said, "So how's February 24 for a due date? Does that sound about right?" And I smiled and said yes. She purposely padded it to give me an extra week before I'm even considered full-term. Yay! I got to hear the heartbeat on the doppler (in the 140s which lends to my girl theory) and my uterus is right where its supposed to be. She asked if I wanted the blood tests to determine Down syndrome risk and all that and I declined which she agreed with because they have such a high false positive rate. My next appointment is at 18 weeks on September 16 and we will have to set up the appointment to meet with the doctor. I feel the appointment went really well.
In regards to the denying transfer of care she said I CAN do that but it would make for a hostile environment. I have sexual abuse and rape issues and I will not have anyone I don't know or trust being involved in intimate care in my labour so I feel I have no choice but to say no if the OB tries to say they have to transfer my care to the OB. I would totally freak out if someone I didn't know what trying to be involved in my birth. So can I really deny the transfer of care if the OB tries to do that? What will happen?
In regards to the denying transfer of care she said I CAN do that but it would make for a hostile environment. I have sexual abuse and rape issues and I will not have anyone I don't know or trust being involved in intimate care in my labour so I feel I have no choice but to say no if the OB tries to say they have to transfer my care to the OB. I would totally freak out if someone I didn't know what trying to be involved in my birth. So can I really deny the transfer of care if the OB tries to do that? What will happen?