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mamatoady
08-24-2005, 10:34 AM
i am so stressed out. I am 6.5 weeks pregnant w/ #2 and my dh is being a complete ass to me. he was very excited for this suprise, but for the last couple months (ok, a lot of our marriage,but worse the last few months) he isn't respectful or loving of me/to me in the least. I read through the other posts about how attentive and caring everyone's dh's are and i am so envious because mine can't get out of himself.

I finally threatened him that he had to go see a therapist (who he's seen and likes and was helpful before) or I'd take it that he wasn't interested in improving our family and i'd have to leave. Well, i'm a stay-at-home mom,working on a degree, so even if I did leave, I'd probably have to work at a freaking grocery store or something while putting my beloved daughter in day-care and then in april i'm going to have a baby and 6 weeks later put him/her in daycare. i can't take it...this is more than i am equipped to handle!

everything i believe in child-rearing may have to be sacrificed because my dink of a dh can't take responsibility for himself.

just looking for support,
sarah




mommabear
08-24-2005, 10:49 AM
:Hug to you Sarah. I am sorry you are having to deal with this, especially at a time when one can feel so vulnerable. Is marriage therapy an option? I don't have any experience with it myself, but a friend who is going through a trial separation is seeing a therapist with her husband, and even if they do end up separating, she is hoping it will give them the tools they need to help their daughter (and themselves) through the transition. If your husband is abusive, there are transition houses available (but I pray you are safe in your home). I don't have much to offer in the way of advice, but I would like to send you another :Hug and if you would like prayers, I will offer mine. Peace.

kyle98sean02
08-27-2005, 11:51 PM
:hug I am sorry he's being such a jerk. I hope he gets the help he needs so he can be there for you. My dh isnt the greatest support person when pregnant either. I think even though he's happy he still freaks out a bit and gets better as soon as the baby gets here. Its not an excuse for men, just hoping it helps you alittle knowing you arent totally alone :grophug