Ok - I am starting to feel hurt here...

[MrsMoe]

So I am 7 months pregnant. So far we haven't had one phone call to say hey we are excited - no cards... nothing.

My husband's long time childhood friend came to visit from Penn the other day with her two kids. No baby gift, nothing - and her and her husband are literally millionaires.

So it sounds greedy to say what about gifts. But geesh... a congrats would be nice. :irked:

None of his friends, my friends, or our family has even sent a lousy card. I feel really hurt. This is my husband's first natural child and it's something we are very excited about. Meanwhile - our friends and family that had kids we showered with gifts- cards - phone calls and offers for support.

My friends and family are in Florida - but it's no excuse not to at the very least pick up the phone.



*end whiney rant*

[Tummy]

:love Sending warm squishy congrats from Florida to you and yours!!!
:love

[PortraitPixie]

I am sincerely excited for you and your family! :hug :balloons

[MamaFern]

:hug

im excited for you!

im so osrry that you feel that way.. sometimes people can be so insensitive.. can you tell people how you are feeling? maybe it would make you feel better if you just laid it out on the table.. like "hey, be happy for us!! we are having a BABY!!"

[Mommy To Baby Roni]

:hug I'm VERY excited for you! :bouncy

Feel relieved that you're not having to listen everyone telling you how to give birth and how to raise your child. :nut :wink

[melissa_honeybee]

I am sorry to hear that, especially since your probably feeling extra sensitive due to preggy hormones (I know I am!!) I had a big crying/yelling fit at my hubby the other day because I didn't think he was offering me enough comfort/support. He was completely unaware that I had been feeling upset about it..so it is better to get your feeling out in the open before you explode!!

People might just assume your are busy preparing for the baby...

Have you talked to your husband about his family's lack of support? How does he feel?

Congrats, BTW! When is your due date?

[kerikadi]

I am sorry nobody is excited for you, that can hurt. I am sure once this little one is born everyone will be very excited.
But sheesh - you are right a congratulations is certain not too much to ask!

For the record I know from personal experience that the more kids you have the less excited people get, when you're pg with your 4th all they can do is criticize :( But also wanted you to know that I didn't get anything from anyone until very late in my first and third pregnancies - like 9 months and then a few things after the baby got here so hopefully the contratulations will come :)

Keri

[phaeon]

Feel relieved that you're not having to listen everyone telling you how to give birth and how to raise your child. :nut :wink :yeah: That's a gift in and of itself!
Seriously, though, I know how you are feeling. This is my 2nd and NOT ONE of my friends or family has said, "How are you feeling?" "Congratulations!" Nothing. I think many people are just wrapped up in their own lives and don't think of others sometimes. Don't take it personally. Just enjoy the rest of your pgcy and relax! You'll probably get more attention than you could ever want once that little bambina gets here...! :hug

[charmcitymama]

I would definitely tell them they suck. Honestly. I am pregnant, too, so that may not be the most rational way to handle it. :)
My best to you.

[~lioneyes~]

Hugs mama~
I think that sometimes when people live far away, they get wrapped up in their own lives. I am sure once the baby gets here and it's more real to them(already very real to you), they will give you more attn. than you even want!
I know I don't know you, and can't substitute for someone who does, but I'm so happy for you! Congrats on you little bundle!! :love

[Boobiemama]

NO one gives a rats you know what about my pregnancy either. Thats why no one knows except my mom! I am in no mood to hear criticism, so I decided it best to not tell anyone other than those who would be supportive.
And the really sad fact is no one will care even after the baby is born. I have never got a congrats card or anything after Jack was born 18 months ago. NO birthday card. None of my kids ever get birthday cards except from my mom. None of the other grandparents have even seen Jack.

I really hate them right now.

It sucks to feel that way. You should spend time with people you know will be supportive and enjoy it! Those other people can all kiss my... well, nevermind. ;)

[luvmybucababy]

:hug :twothumbs :jumpers: :broc: :banana :carrot

CONGRATULATIONS!!!

[Panthira]

That sucks!
When I was pregnant last time, I started an online baby registry / wishlist and sent it to EVERYONE I knew. I don't think it's selfish at all. It seemed to get people more into the process and we got some really cool baby gifts.
I also sent email updates about how big I was getting, etc.
When our son was born we took pictures of our baby whenever he was in something or using a gift someone purchased, and emailed the pic to the party who purchased it. People really liked that.

BTW, congratulations!

[lilsishomemade]

Congrats, mama!!

I know, my family sucks, too. Everytime we told someone we were expecting another, they'd say, "Well, is that good?" or "Congrats, I think...." I thought about only telling my mother, but I actually have to save her for the last, because she'll immediately tell everyone else in her phonebook *sigh* This is the first baby Scott and I have been able to announce ourselves.

I'm really, really happy for you and your dh!!

[ZeldasMom]

Congratulations! :balloons

I am sorry they are being weird. I like the suggestion of sharing some of your excitement to maybe help them get a clue.

Regardless though, I say enjoy your pregnancy and don't let their out-of-it-ness get you down!

:hug :hug :hug

[missus]

I can relate - all my co-workers had showers thrown for them at work - I've attended them and contributed to gifts etc. We just had a bridal shower for a co-worker who has been with her partner for 10+ years and decided to go to Vegas and get married - big shower, gifts, cake, etc. I'm pregnant with my first, 35 weeks now, leaving next week and NOTHING!!! No shower, no gifts (so far) and little acknowledgement. Also, my best friend just moved across the country, so she can't plan anything in my non-work life, and my family (who have been very supportive and excited...) live in another city. They've given me gifts and love/support. But what is the deal with work? Do they all secretly hate me? :(
Part of me thinks people are superstitious and waiting until the live baby arrives and they know the sex, so they can "gift appropriately". Let's hope your friends/family come around. Otherwise, you should SO not send them any cards/gifts for future holidays.
Enjoy your squirming bump, and buy yourself lots of gifts :mischief

[flyingspaghettimama]

Wha? Some people get cards? I've never heard of such a thing...are you sure? Which "people" are these who get cards? :p

Some people get gifts? I think maybe they apparently do not, the second time around. Nor baby showers. So, here I am. Shopping frantically at Goodwill to form my high-quality layette full of mismatched, used, and questionably safe items. Never mind that my last was 5 years ago - I don't have anything any more. Just looking at the prices of carseats the other day made me have a fit.

I think it's fine to pout a little, and then figure that you can't always get what you give. C'est la vie.

[Boobiemama]

Hey panthira, hmm, maybe thats a good idea. I've never had a registry, so maybe I should start one, if not for anything else, at least it will give me something fun to do online late at night. LOL
Maybe my inconsiderate family would get a hint!