back to back babies

[eprino]

Hi, I am a new member and could really use some advice
I have a baby girl who will be 5 months old this week end, and I just found out that I am pregnant again. I am really freakin out and was hoping for some advice from other moms who had their babies back to back. My husband is excited and can't be happier, while I am scared and a little unsure. I am trying to be happy, b/c I know their are women who have problems conceiving and I am blessed to have been able to do it twice now. But I am still scared, so if anyone can give me some advice or help me to stay postive I would greatly appreciate it!!!!

[kerikadi]

Congratulations!
I got pg (surprise) with #4 when #3 was 7 months old so not as close as yours but close.
The first year was hairy and I really didn't sleep much but the two are so close and adorable together :love I wouldn't want it any other way.
I have been tandem nursing for 22 months now and still enjoying it :thumb

This baby is part of a plan, not your initial plan, but came to you at this time for a reason.

Blessings!
Keri

[AAK]

My niece was born 11 months after her big brother. They are in the same grade now. I know that my sil thinks that it is great--she did say that she was more tired during the second pg and it was tough for the first six months after the second baby was born, but boy did that big brother love to entertain his sister. They played and still play very well together and have a ton of love and respect for each other. An added bonus, my sil was potty training #1 and #2 decided to follow suit!

Amy

[Galatea]

My MIL spaced all her kids 3 yrs apart but the last 2 were 14 months apart (as yours will be) and she said it was her favorite spacing by far and she wishes the others weren't so far apart.

I imagine you will be more tired this 2nd pregnancy. Mine will be 18 months apart and I definitely have not felt as good this time.

[kel]

I found out I was pregnant around the same time as you - my daughter was about 5 months old. I know exactly how you feel, and it is a lot to deal with emotionally, because you have this new baby - I was worried about her not getting the baby time she needed. My pregnancy was great physically - I wasn't tired at all, and I nursed my daughter through the whole thing. The first year after my son was born was hard - hard work having two babies and tiring, but they were and are very, very close and loving to eachother, like others have said. And once you get past that first year it gets easy.

My main advice would be to try and decide before the third trimester whether or not you plan to tandem nurse, or whether you want to wean your older child. I only tandem nursed for the first two months after my son was born and it was just too much for me - I got really touched out. I was exhausted and cranky (an understatement!) those first two months and ended up weaning my daughter. In retrospect I wished that I'd weaned her the end of my second trimester, while I still had the energy. When I tried half-heartedly in the third trimester I was just too pregnant and tired, and it would have been a lot easier than it was weaning her after the birth when her little brother was nursing in front of her. Anyway - you may want to tandem nurse - some women love it, others don't. I just thought I'd bring that up as it was my only real obstacle with the two. xoxo

[De-lovely]

My dd's were born on the exact same day in 2003 and 2004! I know your anxiousness but let me tell you-it is beautiful to see their relationship and how much Emma (my older) loves and mothers Elena....Its an adjustment dont get me wrong and you probably wont venture out as much :LOL but I wouldnt have it any other way.Truly a blessing......... :love