Mommay
08-30-2005, 10:51 PM
This will be long. Thanks to anyone who reads the whole thing.
Hi all, I've been reading your posts these past few days while I was in the midst of m/c'ing. I really appreciated being able to read about other people's experience, but mostly, I really appreciated the wake up call. After reading about other people's experiences I couldn't deny that I was m/c'ing too. I can't believe how deluded I became. I have been bleeding kind of a lot (soaking a pad a day), with blood clots up the yahoo. And last night, I soaked a pad in a few hours and had mild cramping, which it turns out were contractions. Although I knew it could be bad news, I still kept up the hope that the cramps were the placenta implanting into the uterus, and that the blood was still within "normal". I was at 10 weeks.
I got an u/s today, and the fetus was not there. My hcg levels were 5000 something, so the doc said I m/c perhaps last night? I just don't understand. My pg with ds was so simple and uncomplicated. My stbxh and I tried once to get pg and was successful the first time. Why? I had one previous m/c at 6 weeks as well.
The way I am, I need to understand causes for things. Here are some reasons why I think I m/c'd. Can you tell me if any of it holds water?
1. Stress. I'm going through a divorce. I moved from my stbxh's house in NJ to my brother's in MD two weeks ago. The next day, my father passed away. Then the spotting happens a week after that. In the midst of spotting and then bleeding, I drove four hours to NJ because I had to take care of divorce-related stuff. Once I got here, I bled profusely. Then last night, my stbxh starts up his bulls*** again. I begged him to let me alone as I was really concerned about the bleeding, but we ended up yelling at each other. Then in the middle of the night, I start to bleed so heavily I get up and inadvertantly wake him up. I tell him about how I'm bleeding heavily as I'm grabbing my tummy, and he says, "Well, you can't do anything about it either way, right?" and turns around and goes back to his room to sleep. Just being around him has raised my stress level.
2. Coffee. I really felt that it was a culprit in a m/c 8 months ago. I was also stressed, studying for an exam, and I had drank too much coffee. I started drinking coffee again after quitting only days before the bleeding started.
3. Driving. I've heard that the chances of m/c are increased by long-distance travel by car. I've driven so much in the past few weeks.
4. Once I did start to bleed, I did not take it easy. In a way, how could I? I have a two yo ds. How could I lie on my back all day with a two yo? But I also did unnecessary errands.
I know that first trimester m/c's are supposed to be inevitable. But I just know these factors contributed to my baby's demise. Can you please help me understand why?
Hi all, I've been reading your posts these past few days while I was in the midst of m/c'ing. I really appreciated being able to read about other people's experience, but mostly, I really appreciated the wake up call. After reading about other people's experiences I couldn't deny that I was m/c'ing too. I can't believe how deluded I became. I have been bleeding kind of a lot (soaking a pad a day), with blood clots up the yahoo. And last night, I soaked a pad in a few hours and had mild cramping, which it turns out were contractions. Although I knew it could be bad news, I still kept up the hope that the cramps were the placenta implanting into the uterus, and that the blood was still within "normal". I was at 10 weeks.
I got an u/s today, and the fetus was not there. My hcg levels were 5000 something, so the doc said I m/c perhaps last night? I just don't understand. My pg with ds was so simple and uncomplicated. My stbxh and I tried once to get pg and was successful the first time. Why? I had one previous m/c at 6 weeks as well.
The way I am, I need to understand causes for things. Here are some reasons why I think I m/c'd. Can you tell me if any of it holds water?
1. Stress. I'm going through a divorce. I moved from my stbxh's house in NJ to my brother's in MD two weeks ago. The next day, my father passed away. Then the spotting happens a week after that. In the midst of spotting and then bleeding, I drove four hours to NJ because I had to take care of divorce-related stuff. Once I got here, I bled profusely. Then last night, my stbxh starts up his bulls*** again. I begged him to let me alone as I was really concerned about the bleeding, but we ended up yelling at each other. Then in the middle of the night, I start to bleed so heavily I get up and inadvertantly wake him up. I tell him about how I'm bleeding heavily as I'm grabbing my tummy, and he says, "Well, you can't do anything about it either way, right?" and turns around and goes back to his room to sleep. Just being around him has raised my stress level.
2. Coffee. I really felt that it was a culprit in a m/c 8 months ago. I was also stressed, studying for an exam, and I had drank too much coffee. I started drinking coffee again after quitting only days before the bleeding started.
3. Driving. I've heard that the chances of m/c are increased by long-distance travel by car. I've driven so much in the past few weeks.
4. Once I did start to bleed, I did not take it easy. In a way, how could I? I have a two yo ds. How could I lie on my back all day with a two yo? But I also did unnecessary errands.
I know that first trimester m/c's are supposed to be inevitable. But I just know these factors contributed to my baby's demise. Can you please help me understand why?