Meltdowns, anyone?

[charmcitymama]

Anyone want to swap stories of things that bug them? And even more so with the hormones?

Today at the playground we were with some friends and the woman has a very violent 2 year old who just hits and slaps all the other kids for no reason. The mom is nice and does a lot for our group, but her dd is intolerable. So, we were there and the little girl hits my dd once and she cries...I was watching and it was totally unprevoked. I was pissed, but hoped it wouldn't happen again. Then she did it again. My 2 yr old is in tears again and it just breaks my heart, b/c she likes this other girl, but she is so rotten. Then I start yelling to the mom, "this is really uncool, you need to do something, we are leaving, no, we're not leaving b.c of you, but you NEED to do something. I am sick of her violence". I am so glad I got that out b/c I was SO PISSED! What do people do in these situations? She does this to all the kids all the time. But, you know what we need the playgroup for our sanity.
I am serious about discipline, I would not allow my child to do that. I would have gotten in her face and told her in a mean voice that hitting is wrong and we are leaving if she does it again then do a time out. Time outs and I'm sorrys mean nothing.

[Boobiemama]

bratty kids at the park irritate me too! This one park we go to, there are always kids there with NO supervision. Always taking toys and picking on my kids. People nee dto learn to take some resposibility for their kids!

What pissed me off yesterday? I asked my hubby if he wanted to go to the thrift stores with me to get some cold weather clothes for the kids and a couple other things. He prcoeeded to give me the gas price talk. And how it would be chaper to just buy the things I needed new instead of drive all over town wasting gas.

The way I took it was him telling me what to do and it irritated me so bad I ended up in the bedroom crying.

[citizenfong]

I've been melting down all week. I won't even go into details, because I am ashamed of myself! :bag:

My babies have been uncommonly naughty and I've been Drama Queen Mother. But today was MUCH better and I think we're over it now. I hope.

[MelissaEvans]

I'm way easier to push over the edge. I haven't been as patient a mommy as DS deserves. :bag: We've been dealing with the landscaper from hell and that's been even more than stressful. I've been leaving messages (because he doesn't pick up his phone) screaming and swearing. I really hate this man. Really.

[CyndiM]

Mostly I am easily irritated by EVERYTHING lately... I just want to go off and be ALONE and have everyone leave me alone too! sigh...

[charmcitymama]

I'm glad I have good company. :)

Oh and I had a really shameful meltdown in the mall last week, that I am truly too ashamed to talk about.

[Jlcampbellkidz]

It's my one year old I am having to watch these days with the hitting. She just turned one at the very end of July. She does a hard hit then kisses and hugs. I have told her no then showed he gentle with her hand on my face. I want to stop any bad behavior but what else do i do at this age?

Also her new thing is screaming this obnoxious high pitch squeal. That get's me every time. That is what's bugging me most these days. i love my kids but I do feel a little bit more quick tempered these days. :flipped

[EllasMama]

I have lots of meltdowns, too. Usually directed at my DH or DD, unfortunately.

The park thing hasn't come up in a while, but I feel your frustration! It's normal for kids to do some hitting and stuff before they learn better, but it takes immediate and firm reaction from the caregiver for them to actually ever learn that it isn't okay! Last year there was a kid who was maybe barely 2 at a big park hitting and the parents were nowhere to be seen. Just playing basically unsupervised, whacking kids. She hit my daughter once and I asked her politely to please not hit. She did it again and I was very firm with her (I felt bad but hey, where was her mom?). It really made me angry. Luckily my daughter was 3.5 and had the self-control just to walk away and seek my help. I don't blame you for getting so upset at the mom. It was probably really uncomfortable, and in a perfect world it would have been a rational conversation, but you know you just said what everyone else was thinking, but never would have had the cojones to come out and say.

Carol

[charmcitymama]

Ahh, thank you Carol reassurance! I know the other moms are annoyed by it, too. Luckily we don't gossip about eachother so I haven't heard them say it but I can see they are annoyed when their kid gets smacked.

Laurie, I think it is a normal stage at one and there is nothing to do but redirect. But, at 2 they definitely understand and can change their behavior.

[musemor]

This is a timely post...for the last few days I am finally understanding what people are talking about when they grimace over pregnancy hormones. I feel like a crazy person! My poor husband is taking the brunt (although sometimes he deserves it). :LOL

[russianthistle]

Meltdowns...yes, indeed. I had a mighty swell meltdown last week. Gas is out of control and is really making a terrible and severe mark on my life. I live in the woods between two towns...I had not been working for quite some time (was bartending before the news of the baby), and am shorter on finances than normal.

So...I went out and got a job (well, two) in the next town over which is more than 50 miles round trip driving distance. Gas here has skyrocketed to $3.39/gal...absolutely ridicuous in my book!!! So...the result??? Well, a meltdown...about living in the woods (which I love) and moving into town (which I loathe). I have been bombarded with everyone else's comments and doubts about my judgments concerning my place of residence. Everyone I know has been urging me to move to town and I have been terribly resistant...and quite frankly, want to be resistant. It is peaceful where I live.

I live on Lake Superior where the winters are wicked...where the driving can be treacherous. Plus, it is cheaper to move to town and pay more in rent than it is to drive day after day. The biggest problem here is the fact that I needed a job, but planned to work no more than 5-6 months at that job...who wants to hire someone at a decent wage who has no intention of sticking around??? I did find that my luck was a bit better than I anticipated...but I am still moving into town to diminish the gas prices. I am not playing this gas-war game!!!