spj15
09-06-2005, 09:53 AM
Hi everyone -
I am new to this and have never posted, but I am having a really rough day and am hoping for some support here. This is what's going on: I was 12 weeks w/my first pregnancy when I started to miscarry on Aug. 5. It lasted FOUR WEEKS, believe it or not, and was the most difficult thing I have EVER experienced, both physically and emotionally. I told some friends and family, and one co-worker, but that's it. I am a really private person and didn't want my personal business being fodder for water-cooler discussion. Anyway, I learned a few weeks ago that one of my co-workers had a miscarriage about 2 weeks ago, at about 8 weeks. I told her what had happened to me because I figured if anyone could relate, she could. I felt awful for her.
Today, I learned that over the weekend she found out that while she did indeed miscarry, she miscarried a TWIN, and is still carrying the other one. The kicker is that she is due one month after I would have been.
While I am, of course, delighted for her, I feel like I've been kicked in the stomach. We are a small office (5 people upstairs, 3 downstairs) and I am imagining watching her waistline expand over the upcoming months, being invited to the office baby shower, etc. It's just unbelievably painful. I felt like I was getting better but then this happened.
She is an extremely sensitive person and wanted to tell me in person with the door shut, because she knew how difficult this would probably be for me, but that doesn't make me feel any better - it just makes me feel more pathetic.
Anyone have any advice?
I am new to this and have never posted, but I am having a really rough day and am hoping for some support here. This is what's going on: I was 12 weeks w/my first pregnancy when I started to miscarry on Aug. 5. It lasted FOUR WEEKS, believe it or not, and was the most difficult thing I have EVER experienced, both physically and emotionally. I told some friends and family, and one co-worker, but that's it. I am a really private person and didn't want my personal business being fodder for water-cooler discussion. Anyway, I learned a few weeks ago that one of my co-workers had a miscarriage about 2 weeks ago, at about 8 weeks. I told her what had happened to me because I figured if anyone could relate, she could. I felt awful for her.
Today, I learned that over the weekend she found out that while she did indeed miscarry, she miscarried a TWIN, and is still carrying the other one. The kicker is that she is due one month after I would have been.
While I am, of course, delighted for her, I feel like I've been kicked in the stomach. We are a small office (5 people upstairs, 3 downstairs) and I am imagining watching her waistline expand over the upcoming months, being invited to the office baby shower, etc. It's just unbelievably painful. I felt like I was getting better but then this happened.
She is an extremely sensitive person and wanted to tell me in person with the door shut, because she knew how difficult this would probably be for me, but that doesn't make me feel any better - it just makes me feel more pathetic.
Anyone have any advice?