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Erin_82
09-07-2005, 01:55 AM
the other night one of my good guy friends told me that he thought my next pregnancy would be a miscarriage as well. We were talking about my miscarriage that i am currently still having (i've been bleeding and cramping for 2 weeks now) and he goes: "you're next baby will miscarry too."

at first i thought he was making a really really really bad joke. then he repeated it: "you're next baby is gonna miscarry".
I was like: NO ITS NOT!!!!!
and i went inside.

i was so offended and just couldnt believe anyone would say that, let alone a good friend who'd always been very caring and sensitive.

Worst of all, i'd always kinda looked up to him.
i'm a bit superstitious and i know no one knows the future but it just makes me feel like i'm trapped now, or that i'm cursed and my baby will die no matter what.


i'm so hurt that he said that. he apologized, and 'explained' what he meant, which was exactly what he said. he was even like "i'll take you out to lunch tomorow and we'll talk!" He never called. he has no idea how i feel now.

i feel only sadness and grief over this baby, and i have no hope that i will keep my next one.

please someone help. my bf is good firends with him too and is being somewhat less supportive then i'd like.
my bestguy friend was more outraged then my BF was....which is upsetting also.




SaraMama
09-07-2005, 12:56 PM
What a thoughtless thing to say. I'm sorry mama! :hug

I can't for the life of me understand why he would have said that to you.

I'm so sorry for your loss. :hug

BumbleBena
09-07-2005, 02:01 PM
:hug

Why on earth would he say such a thing? :irked:

nydiagonz
09-07-2005, 03:52 PM
Sorry mama :hug People can be soooo insensitive and RUDE! :bang I have cut people like that OUT OF MY LIFE!!! I recommend you do the same. Peace to you.

taradt
09-07-2005, 09:39 PM
:Hug What a stupid thing to say.... I am sorry he said that

It continues to shock me some of the things people come out with sigh

Take care

Tara

Milkymommi
09-07-2005, 11:18 PM
some people :irked: So sorry Mama...

Not to change the subject or anything but you say that you've been in process of having a miscarriage for 2 weeks, are you sure? Not to insult you or anything :innocent I'm just wondering because it's sounds hopefull to me being that it's taking so long. What makes you think you're losing the baby, have you been doing quantitative blood work? Just curious, hoping for the best for you!

Milkymommi
09-07-2005, 11:29 PM
OK... I'm sorry I went back and found some of your previous posts. I realize what has happened to you Mama. So sorry... I do feel your pain as I just lost my babe too on September 1st. It didn't take as long for the process to complete but it seemed longer than normal to me. However now that i'm reading more posts here I see that each experience is unique and can take quite some time in certain cases.

At any rate, that dude is still a doofus and you need to keep that chin up with the rest of us. You're a strong Mama and your body is too! You CAN carry to term and have a healthy baby this next time!!! You were made to do this, we all were.

abimommy
09-07-2005, 11:46 PM
:hug

I am so sorry he was so....I just don't know how to describe it.

Well..I am sorry, :hug

Erin_82
09-08-2005, 02:37 PM
thanks mammas :grouphug
i knew all of you would understand how it felt.

Milymommi- i actually was believing that i'd keep the baby, even when i was cramping and bleeding, but after 2 days i just didnt feel pregnant anymore.
i'm sorry for your loss as well. we will both have babies again and they'll be healthy and happy :love