Name help!

[5xmom]

My Dh has vetoed every name I come up with (and I have a list of about 50!). I got VERY hormonal the other day :hopmad and said "Could you just suggest a name? Do you even care?". His response was - I like Grace, Hope, and Skye (He says no to Skylar). That's it. What do you think? Skye is my favorite but they all need a long middle name and it's a shame we can't somehow combine them (Gracelynn Sky?). Last name is L****N.

[danav]

I'm planning to use Grace as a middle name if this little one is a girl, so out of your list that's my fav. If you pick that one, since it's a first name he approves of, will he compromise and agree on a middle name that YOU choose? (Maybe one of the ones from your long list that he's already vetoed?)

My DH is also not great about baby name discussions. I'll ask him about particular names, and he'll either hate it or say "Eh, I guess that one's not too bad." But he's not interested in actually participating in coming up with names. He also tends to have a bit of amnesia about our name discussions ("When did we decide on that name? I don't remember that.") :nut Now, he actually DID come up with Jenna's first name...but he was joking at the time! He knew a girl in school named Jenna Rader and thought that was SO funny, and joked that it's too bad we don't have a "cool" last name we could do something like that with. I liked the name Jenna when he said it, so that's what we ended up with.

[greenmansions]

Oh man, DH and I have the same problem. He will not add to the list, and he doesn't like much that's on it. Plus I like names that reflect our ethnicity and not many of them "work" in English. Last time w/ DS I picked a gazillion names and then we managed to narrow them down to 7 before the birth. We still ended up changing his name when he was about 7 months old... :LOL

I like Skye as it is the most unique. But maybe it doesn't necessarily need a long middle name - Skye Grace, Skye Lynn, Skye Belle - single syllable seems to work as well as longer names, to me. You may not agree, tho...

Good luck, at least there's lots of time to decide (for better or worse!)

[Boobiemama]

I dont want to even think about names. Hubby and I argue every time. We can never agree!

[brownay2]

Gracelynn Skye :thumb

Now that's a name I have never heard of.

[AndiG]

I can relate....

Jenna's mom - my dh has not recollection of coming up with our son's name either.... fortunately my mom was here for dinner when it happened so I have a witness.

greenmansions.... what is your ethnicity? some friends of ours (the husband is dutch) spent a LOT of time on names becuase there were so few that worked for the mom in English and the Dad in Dutch.

We are not very far in the name game... we ususally just come up with a short list for both sexes (because we dont' find out the gender) BUT since I just named our daughter without consulting him (it was from the approved list though) and our son's name comes from my side of the family, I'm really trying to let DH pick this one... He has a girls name he likes but I'm really stuck on WTF we are going name a boy.... DH says not to worry about it as he figures its a girl anyhow but I'm not going to be unprepared on this one....

Our last name discussion was me going through and finding 15 or so names and him rejecting virtually all of them....uh, ya.... I keep thinking of stuffing the baby book under his nose and saying HERE YOU PICK THEN but I dont' think it'll help :LOL

[EllasMama]

The rational part of me thinks, "Yeah, it's tough finding a name both parties agree on."

The irrational part of me thinks, "Hey, you sqeeze the baby out of YOUR vagina, and then you can have dibs on the first name." :LOL

Seriously, though, I think many DH's should be less picky about names if they aren't going to peruse the baby name books and offer up more suggestions. You do the work, you have a say, but since when does the DH get executive veto power without putting in the work? Not fair!

We haven't gone too far into discussions yet. Last time we had a list narrowed down, baby came out not "matching" any of the names on the list, so we threw it out after a couple days and started over. Finally found the "right" name on day 3. So DH is like, "Well, why worry too much about it beforehand - we'll probably have to start over from scratch anyway!" I have to admit he has a point! But I love reading the name books and highlighting "possibilities" so I plan to continue. :)

Carol

[greenmansions]

AndiG, I am Lithuanian (parents "off the boat"), DH is not really ethnically oriented. I speak Lithuanian, speak it almost exclusively with DS, and we are somewhat active in the Lith. community here - that will pick up as DS gets older. For boys in particular, there are very few names that are not multi-syllabic and many are harsh sounding, even to my ears.

For girls it is a bit easier, plus I am hoping that as DH's vocabulary grows (he's picking up words along with DS) he will be more comfortable with something more ethnic. For DS, we selected an English name, but it has a Lithuanian version that we actually use more often than his "real" name. At this stage, the only ones who use his real name are DH's family. For our new DD, I am hoping to pick a Lithuanian name - and so far DH appears to be more open to something more unusual for a girl than he was for a boy.

As a side note, I used to dislike my name a lot when I was a child because it was so different from everyone else's and often mispronounced and misspelled. But as I got older I really started to like it being different and it was actually easier than if I'd had a name in common with 3 or 4 other girls in my classes. DH on the other hand has a pretty common name - and has 3 friends with the same name such that they are always appending the first initial of their last names to it - Jeff K, Jeff R, etc. - even as adults. I really want to avoid that for our kids.

Sorry OP for the OT post, hope it's OK! :blush

And I'm starting to like Gracelynn Skye a lot, but do you strongly want Skye as the first name? If so, let us know and we can start thinking of more middle name options.

[shelbean91]

We made a huge list, just went throught the baby book and wrote down all names that were even a 'maybe'. I then transferred the list to a whiteboard/dry erase marker, so we would look at them and randomly erase names we couldn't live with. When we were down to 5 or 6, I started mixing middle names with first names until we settled on the name.

How about Graciella Skye?

[CyndiM]

We weren't agreeing either. Finally we looks at a list and I marked what I liked and he marked what he liked of what I liked. So now we have a girls name, but boys names, forget it.

Owell, hopefully next week we will know if this one is a boy or a girl. :)

[Jlcampbellkidz]

I can echo everyone. My DH can protest all my names and never give a good name solution himself. I like Gracelynne Skye Sp?

My list right now, and i think I want to keep a list and decide when the baby is born. We aren't finding out the sex so we can have lots of surprises.

Girls: Malia Isabell Campbell, I love Isabella as a first name but DH says no, I also like Aurora Krisine,

Boys: Gavin James, I like Micah and Kaelin.

Who knows. Iv'e never had such trouble deciding on a name.

My girls are DD1 Breaunna Faith, and DD2 Gabriella Analiese