how do I explain this?

[crsta33]

:bag: My midwife is doing a home visit tomorrow morning. I'm really embarassed to admit this, but I had a real full-blown 2 year old style tantrum this afternoon. And as a result, I've got those little broken blood vessel pinpoints all over my face and around my eyes. Granted, they are probably due to the coughing fit that ensued from all the crying, but still, I'm a grown woman and shouldn't be throwing fits. Doesn't speak very well to my mental health. :bag:

So what am I going to say to her tomorrow? I guess it's possible she won't notice, but dh is worried that if she doesn't that means she's not observant enough. :innocent

Christa

[Queen of Cups]

Trust me - you are NOT the first pregnant woman to throw a fit! She probably won't be surprised at all, and it could open up a good converstation between the two of you about how you're handling the emotional roller-coaster that is pregnancy...

[SoggyGranolaMomma]

I came about *this* close to having a tantrum myself today. My kids were bonkers, my husband came home late from work (finishing up a job, legitimate excuse) and I am just sooo freakin' tired and whale-ish I just was at my wit's end.

I'd just tell her what happened. At this stage of the game, anything short of homicide is normal behavior for a pregnant woman. :LOL

[babykaoss]

i seem to have one every couple of weeks or so.......:(

i know how you feel. and i expect my 2 year old not to do it? OOPSIES.

[Kavita]

I wouldn't worry too much about it. The only thing that concerns me is that your DH is sort of setting the situation up as a test of her competence! I don't think that's entirely a fair way to see the situation.

I'd just mention it. A simple explanation is sufficient--"I seem to have gotten all these broken blood vessels in my face from coughing too much." If you don't want to discuss it with her. Or if you do or if she asks questions about why you were coughing so much, continue with "because I got really upset and was crying hard." There is not a woman in the world who has not gotten upset and cried while pregnant. Or while not pregnant! Having emotions is nothing to be ashamed of! And you are not required to go into the details of the upsetting event/"tantrum" with her unless it is pertinent to your care or you wish to discuss it. I wouldn't worry about it--trust me, midwifery is one of those professions where you have a real window into human nature, and this is MINOR compared to some of the stuff she sees/hears!!

I have similar things happen to me--actually, if I get really upset about something to the point that I cry really hard, I throw up!!! A few weeks ago this happenned because I was crying only a little but was nauseous already because of something I'd eaten, and then my face had so many little dots I looked like I had some terrible disease! It went away in a couple of days. :)

[flapjack]

Don't apologise, don't explain. My motto for everything... Plus, broken capillaries in the face are very very common in pregnancy anyhow.
If you have any rose oil in, a rose oil and oatmeal mask will really soothe down the redness- or so would calamine or anything with lots of chlorophyll. The rose oil is very good for broken blood vessels, though.

[crsta33]

Thanks so much everyone. I feel so much better about the entire thing and not so worried about what I'll say (probably nothing unless it comes up).

I was really quite ashamed of myself and a little frightened. I have a history of depression/anxiety and I have this huge fear of being found "insane" and put into a pyschiatric hospital against my will.

Emotions aren't my strong suit when I'm feeling well-tempered...and pregnancy definitely isn't a well-tempered time.

What's kinda funny to me now is what triggered the entire meltdown was that dh and I were arguing and I was trying not to get nasty and hurt him back the way he was hurting my feelings. I might be better off just to go ahead and tell him off nastily next time. :mischief

Christa

[Gunter]

I am proud of you for allowing yourself to get upset and vent! So many people, esp. women seem to think there's something wrong with letting loose. Good for you...i think it's actually good mental health not cause for concern. I'd be more concerned if you bottled it all up or denied things.