Introducing myself

[TwoSets]

Hello ladies! I am new to MDC and wanted to introduce myself.
My name is Hannah. My partner Katie and I have almost 6 year old twin boys Owen and Milo, and are expecting (get ready for it, it took me a while to adjust too) set number two (genders unknown) 12-28.
I am hoping to make better choices for this birth than I did for my last one. I was young, uninformed, and thought doctors knew best. I fought them tooth and nail to have a vaginal birth, and I got it, but I also tore pretty badly and had an epi. This time I desperately want to do it MY way, which, at the very least, involves no drugs and does NOT require lying on my back and starving the whole time. I would love a homebirth, but I'm scared, and can't find anyone to do it with twins (yet!)
We live on a hobby farm in rural PA and absolutely love it. Katie works at a battered women shelter and I am a SAHM and homeschooler, and I occasionally work in my dad's store.
Nice to meet all of you!

Hannah

[Spark]

Hi, Hannah!

Congrats on your (second!!!) set of twins! Wow! That's pretty amazing! I bet you and Katie really were shocked with that news!!! :LOL

We actually have two other moms expecting twins in our EDD group. And, lots of support for natural birth here of course. :) We're so glad you joined us! (oh, man... I'm beginning to sound like a cult member, aren't I!?!? :wink)

Have you been over to the homebirth forum to research twin homebirths? There are many mdc twin moms who gave birth at home and lots of good information there. :) There is a SEARCH feature at the top of the forum list that you can type in twins and see numerous threads from over the past few months-years.

Oooh, and certainly make a stop over at our Queer Parenting forum to meet up with other same sex couples and single queer mamas if you haven't already been over there. :)

[IncaMama]

oh wow!!! you know, i kind of thought that was your situation with your username "twosets" but then i thought "no way...that's too uncommon!" but WOW! CONGRATULATIONS!!! you are twice blessed. fantastic!!!

oh, and welcome!! :)

[TwoSets]

Spark- I like cults :)
Thanks for the heads up on looking at the home birth thread! I hadn't thought of that! <slaps forhead>
Yeah, we are twice blessed... maybe :)
It's NOT easy. When we had the first set... oh boy that's a story for another day. Suffice it to say they were NOT planned, did not come about from a good situation, and we were flat broke! This time is different, so I hope it will be easier. I about dropped when I was told I was having two AGAIN. And I had a real @$$ for an OB who said "too bad you're too far along to terminate" Argh! I may have been shocked and, honestly, really upset, but I would never do THAT! BTDT and backed out at the last moment (hence Owen and Milo) and don't ever want to go back!
So glad I found this list! There ARE people out there like me! Woo hoo!

[Slightlycrunchymama]

Welcome to the cult err club :)
I know another lady online who has 2 sets of twin boys too, 2 years apart. Busy mama.
I hope you can find the support/info your looking for and can make this a perfect birth for you :)

[selazenby]

Welcome, Hannah! Wow - 2 sets of twins! I'm feeling mildly overwhelmed being pregnant for my second (single!) baby. Guess I need to toughen up a bit huh?! :)

I hope you can find a great homebirth midwife to assist you at your birth! Homebirth is just such a wonderful experience - I wish it for you!!

[xmasbaby7]

Welcome, Hannah!

Good luck with your home birth research! My MW is the only one in our area who delivers twins, so it can be hard to find, but just keep researching!

[Taedareth]

Welcome, Hannah! Wow do twins run in your family? How amazing.

With regards to finding a midwife who will deliver twins, I can say that in my state the insurance companies forbid birth practitioners (midwives/OB/family docs) to attend twin births at home. If they want to have liability insurance then they HAVE to attend twin births only in the hospital. So obviously this is a policy designed without the needs of birthing moms in mind (like all the other policies held by mega-insurance companies, grrr.) So in my area the only midwife who will attend home twins births is the one who decided to go without liability insurance. As a result, she can be much more earthy and oriented on the wishes/needs of her clients than the other midwives, whose policies are increasingly dictated by the medical-establishment-driven insurance companies.

Erm.... /rant off

:o

So if it's that way in your state too, then maybe a licensed but non-insured midwife could help you have the birth of your dreams :)

[PatchPixie]

Welcome & Congrats!! What an adventure for you and your family!!