Wheres the mojo?

[CABsDad]

Is anyone else having a problem with their wives getting back into the mood for sex? Our son is 3 months old and my wifey says that she is into me, but not into the sex? I'm floored! Picture a Bugs Bunny cartoon * Which way did she go? * (pointing left and right) So she is into me...and she enjoys having sex with me, but she is not interested in the sex? When we do have sex...everything seems normal and she likes it, but its hard to even get her to start the hokey pokey...IS THAT WHAT IT's ALL ABOUT? :kewl

[CABsMommy]

CAB took it

[Sir Top-um Hatt]

its still early into a new baby. (if this is your 1st) give it some time, also it is a lot harder to get in the mood if you are laggin sleep. the heirarchy of needs will always win this battle, so just hang in there. also if cosleeping this will take away from some important cuddle time that is needed to get into the mood. one last thing; when she is ready try different things to get her going........i mean her body did change with the pregnancy and also nursing, so maybe she likes or dislikes certain things that you were doing before have a child. learn together.

[Jasmyn's Mum]

I know you were asking other dads but as a mum I think I could add a couple of things. Every woman is different but...it took me 7 months to even think about it. All I could focus on was the baby and getting through the day alive. Okay, maybe I'm exagerating a bit but...pretty close.

My hormones were in baby mode. My mind was in baby mode. My body was in baby mode. I guess what I'm trying to say is try not to take it personally. Try to be be patient. Most importantly, try not to pressure her.

The mojo will come back. Help her as much as you can so that she isn't so tired and overwhelmed. That in itself will help move it along. Be patient.

Good luck

[the sunshine]

I think one of the best kept secrets about having babies is that it can take up to a year for mom to feel herself again. Just don't pressure her, or it will for sure take even longer and earn you her resentment.

[rdl2k5]

It'll change, by you saying "The times we do it she's enjoying it" that means you ARE doing it. I watch our daughter a lot and she takes a lot of energy out of me. She's 10 months and into that "I get into everything!" stage so it's constant attention. At the stage you're at now, I was up in the nights a lot with her as well and helping out while my wife was in school. I was only doing maybe 25% of the time (max) and I was worn out.

I'd put a lot into just flat out fatigue and the emotional stress of "Umm I just took care of the baby for like 15 hours straight and now you want me to be physically exertive? How about just resting for a few minutes." I guess I see the perspective. It's not the same but I worked at Home Depot 60 hours a week for about a year, and every day coming home I was about to fall over from being so tired

I'd blame just flat out being physically and emotionally drained more than anything. There is no real way to solve it. It eventually comes back. Somedays now I'm like "No not now! Get off me!"

It changes. roll with it for now.

[moma justice]

it took me 6-7 months to have sex again....i was realllllllllllly not into anything come in or out of my vagina, period!!!

and i knew a lot of women who had gotten preg AGAIN when number 1 was only 3 months old...that was not going to be me!

loved my hubby, felt sexy, but not into getting pregnant...and my body was still stuck in birth mode...

adn my favortie form of forplay now (at 2 plus yrs post baby) is my husabnd doing chores, or giving me a freaking break!

try it for a week or so, doing as many chores as you can and taking CAB off her hands as often as you can, saying things like, "you deserve a little "me" time, dear."

trust me, she will be so hot for you.
lol

[LoveChild421]

I have that problem- with my man- I don't understand personally how someone can be into you, like sex, and then just not want to have it often...to me it's like saying "my chocolate drive is just low and I don't know why, yeah I still love chocolate but I just don't want any" WTF? shouldn't people want to do things they enjoy? :scratch

[virgoat]

*giggle* I was flipping through the channels at my in-laws once and found some sitcom with Belushi (sp? I've never written his name before...) in it, and he is sprawled on the sofa, his wife comes and flops down next to him informing him that the kids are finally asleep. He then asks "Do you want to have sex?" she says "Yeah." Neither one moves an inch, then he says "Well, it's good to know." LMAO! Parenting can be SO much like that.

[CABsDad]

Okay. For a few days we have been monitoring this thread to see what people had to say. Kudos to all of the women on here for going through child birth, but you made my situation a little bit tougher. I did mention that we would have sex, but not as much or often...now...it seems to be completely out of the question...mainly because YOUR replies justify her not wanting to "do it." Now that I'm educated on this issue...I guess I should know better... :nut...

But that's not the bad part...She actually wants to kiss me more passionately now...which turns me on...she actually grabs my "cakes" :diaper in a playful, flirting manner and occasionally she will have the audacity to grab my :banana !

She is extremely flirty now...which turns me on and I start to think...Hey, she's finally normal...but then...I have to slam on brakes! :hopmad


I know this isn't Fathering.com, which I should start by the way...but women are too difficult!...I just wanna play! :crying :bouncy

[CABsMommy]

in my defense, just because i don't want to have sex doesn't mean that i'm not still wildly attracted to my hubby! i may flirt a lot with him and, yes, i may get touchy feely with him but after we talked he told me it would be ok to be passionate in place of sex so, hey! what's wrong with a little touchy feely? i love CABsDad to death...i'm just going through some temporary hormonal changes. eventaully we'll get back to our active sex life. i just need some time. what's wrong with that?

[orangefoot]

Are you saying that flirting makes you feel mmmmm but you can't actually do the deed for xyz reason?

If so I know where you are coming from. I feel like this too. I can feel mmm all day then by the time dh has got home we've smooched a bit eaten dinner got eveeryone to where they should be (and I've probably been to work and got back again) everything is quiet and I just can't get the mojo out.

Showing you love each other is important. Being sensual with each other is important. Keep doing this; the other will come when things settle down.

We have three and our youngest is now 2.5 and lots of days are like this but... when it does happen it is good and dh has flashbacks which keep him sane for the days when it doesn't happen. :LOL

[virgoat]

Oh, it'll pass. Maybe ;). It is beyond words or even understanding what and why our bodies do what they do after motherhood. From extreme horny to *touched out*, -often in the same day- go figure. I assure you it is toughest on us. Not only are we in total upheaval about WTH is up with me?! But on top of it we know what it does to you too. Not fun. And it doesn't help that no matter how much we try to fend you off with the smells of spit-up, poo, and four-day-old uncombed hair and unshaved legs, that you still keep bloody coming!!! :LOL

[CABsMommy]

And it doesn't help that no matter how much we try to fend you off with the smells of spit-up, poo, and four-day-old uncombed hair and unshaved legs, that you still keep bloody coming!!! :LOL

Amen!

[eroslovesagape]

Someone had GREAT advice: Help out mom as much as possible- clean the kitchen, pick up around the house, put laundry away (and if you don't know where things go, you should be blushing!), do the grocery shopping including puttting stuff away and then, when baby is sleeping, give your wife a MASSAGE! If she falls asleep, fine; she probably needs it. You might even get a mercy bj later, eh? :D
If she stays awake, make sure you linger and sensuously massage her thighs, getting really close to her yoni, gently brushing up on it, but no invasive touching until she's begging you for it.

I've encouraged my man to masturbate; I'll cuddle up and touch him while he does it sometimes. Or, 'cause I love him and he works so hard and deserves it and it brings him so much pleasure and he massages me anytime, I'll gift him a bj.

But really, 3 months is such a short time! Roll with it, man! It can take women much, much longer than that to feel even remotely like having sex. Respect that she's gone through HUGE physical, emotional and biochemical changes, and give her time.

[rozzie'sma]

Ok, I am still wildly attracted to dh. I love to make out etc. But when it comes time to do the deed. I hate it. It hurts is why. Thanks to my milk guzzling machine I am the darn Saharra desert and it feels like he is ripping out my insides. This is with gobs and gobs of KY by the way and forplay. Maybe that is the issue.

[EricaLeigh]

Ok I gotta put in my 2 cents. After my first DD was born C-section, I didn't have much desire but I also had pain. I really thought something was wrong. I had good days & bad but most of the time I was just trying to please my DH. Once I got into it I was usually ok (when I didn't have pain) It was weird because I didn't always have pain. It was hit or miss. Well I had blood tests done & found out that my hormones were screwy. (my DD was like 4 by then) I was put on a hormone & I think it helped (weather it was the placibo effect or really helped is beyond me). I only took it for a short time then stopped taking it we wanted to have anothe baby. So that was great motivation, Iwanted to get pg. Then I had my 2nd DD, a v-bac, and shortly after she was born I was ready to rock. I don't know the connection if one has to do with the other or not but the reading I have done leads to adheasions form the surgury being broken by the vaginal birth. My DH & I are happy now. M desire level is normal to better than normal now. We also have a "ladies first" policy. Otherwise I still have some discomfort. But this is my advice don't put pressure on her! That's the worst. You don't want her to feel like it's a chore, do you? I really have to reccomend a ladies first policy, but only when she feels like it! Good luck! Let her come to you when she's ready. :o

[WanderingWombat]

Throkmorton is currently standing behind me, daring me, taunting me into writing... she warned me that I should play nice and not get banned, but I really think CABsDaddy needs a pick-me-up.

A man and a woman have recently had their first child. It's several months later, and the Daddy is getting as frisky as a corn cob in July, and one day when the poop-machine is asleep, she starts to respond to his advances. Things are getting hot and heavy on the couch when she sits up and says, "No, not right now."

Confused, he sits up, too. "Why not? What was all the making out about?"

"You have to respect my emotional needs!" she said.

For the rest of the day, the Daddy was in a deep, deep funk. But then he realized how he had been acting, and how she must have seen him, so he decided to do something about it. The next day, when the poop machine was with the babysitter (it's my joke, I decide they have a babysitter), and they head out.

"I'm sorry for how I acted yesterday," he says, "and I've decided to make it up to you." They pull up to the clothing store, the mommy's favorite, and they get out. "So I'm going to let you pick out anything you want."

The mommy jumps up and down for joy, and rushes into the store. Daddy watches her with a smile as she runs around, snatching this, that, and other things in froo-froo frilly colors that he will never experience. Hours later, pie-eyed and tired, she walks up to him, arms full of shirts, skirts, shawls, wraps, and assorted linens. "I want these!"

"Oh, we're not buying anything. I j ust said you could look at them. You have to respect my financial needs."

[LoveChild421]

:laugh: :rotflmao

[rozzie'sma]

That's great. lol

[Throkmorton]

Oh sweetie, nothing like making an impression, first post back!

Hee, it gets funnier every time.

[WanderingWombat]

I'm going for the "He's new, he's snarky, but gosh-darnit, he's lovable," impression. Think it's working?

On a serious note, CABsFamily, it took a little bit to get re-mojofied for me and Throkky after... after... hey, Throkky, what do we call our kid? DS?... anyway, after DS was born. I was too tired to really think about nookie for a while, and when I got my energy back she was too tired to think about nookie. You'll get back into a lovin' rhythm soon. It took us... uhm.... how old am I?

[Throkmorton]

You're 25 dear. Tomorrow, in fact.

Yeah, it took us forever to get back in the groove, if we ever really did. Hey, when did you stop being exhausted all the time?

[WanderingWombat]

Well, it was just a different groove. A deeper groove. Whats that called? Oh, right, a rut.... heh. :) Srry, a little depressing humor here, folks...

[LoveChild421]

:rotflmao A deeper groove. Whats that called? Oh, right, a rut LMAO! you guys crack me up!

[CABsMommy]

hey Wandering...i'll be 25 on the 5th! a fellow scorpio...that's why you're so humorous :). thanks for making light of our situation...that was great! nothing like scorpio wit!

[WanderingWombat]

What? No, I'LL be 25 on the 5th... yeesh. Some people, confusing their birthdays...

[Throkmorton]

I know it's Friday and all, but aren't you supposed to be working, honey?

Happy birthday CAB's Mommy! I hope you get to sleep in! (BTW: CAB's Dad? Breakfast in bed and the dishes done when she gets up are totally sexy)

[eroslovesagape]

Oh, thanks for the entertainment!

Yes, breakfast in bed and a clean kitchen are definitely sexy! Hey, if I don't have to do it, I just might have the time/energy for ROMPING!

And the "ladies first" policy is a must in our household! Go, EricaLeigh! I mean, that just gets me started...!

[WanderingWombat]

"Ladies first" is just politeness.... although now we're getting into territory where I am in severe danger of blushing profusely :blush I mean, it didn't USED to be (sorry, dear!) back when we were first dating, but after a stern talking to by some of her friends, I changed my ways.

[EricaLeigh]

Good for you! It's nice to have great friends! I think in many cases it goes beyond politness though. Many women NEED an "O" before they can really get into it. KWIM?

[CABsMommy]

Thanks Throck! You know, I must be crazy or something but I have a hard time handling TWO "O's". I tend to be more like a guy in that respect. I can either go with or without the ladies first policy. I'd prefer to go without and get right into action. And eros, a clean kitchen is DEFINITELY sexy! Now you give me a clean house....

[CABsDad]

There you have it! Ladies first policy...tried it...the ol' massage technique...tried it. I've cleaned because everyone on here says it works...I cleaned the house...and she's fast asleep by the time I'm done. :bouncy need I say more?....I'm a young gun :snap :banana who is new to this lifestyle, but I love my wifey and Cabbie with a passion.... :throb. Wifey gets in the mood every now and then...I just have to be ready when she is, but I must say...I miss waking up almost every morning like.... :thumb.

People riddle me this...if you have half a cup of mojo...is the cup half empty or half full? Either way CABsMom has my heart... :nana: :Hug

[CABsMommy]

CABsDad is full of crap! He has NEVER cleaned the house!!!

[Throkmorton]

dad "clean" and mom "clean" are 2 very different things. Always remember that.

And it's still sexy, even if I magically fall asleep halfway through Prison break despite my best efforts.

[EricaLeigh]

The first time I had the nerve to tell the doctor that I didn't have much of a libedo. She told me that that is thw #1 complaint that new moms have, & it's a miracle that anyone ever has a 2nd baby, because there's not a lot going on between the sheets. She alos told me to have my DH clean & do the laundry, etc, etc. He was already doing alot of that. So next I talked to one of my girlfriends who had a baby the same age. I told her about my problem and come to find out we were both suffering in silence! No one tells you about this! But I promise I no longer am plagued with this problem. My girlfriend is also no longer having issues! So it seems to pass!

CABsDad I know it's hard, but try not to take it personally. Hormones are a bizzare thing. I think time is the only thing on your side. Patience is a virtue!

CABMommy I know how frustrating this is. I hope things come around soon. I always told my DH that I want to want it, I just don't! What am I supposed to do? I think that the doctors need to educate new moms about this! And maybe do some research on the topic.

[CABsMommy]

Throk, dad "clean" and mom "clean" are two different things. I don't dispute that...dh said that he cleaned the house...like all by himself...like the WHOLE house. That has never happened but he does do his dad "cleaning" on some rooms. That I will give him and it's very sexy when he does it. I told him that if he took out the trash it would probably turn me on. He did and it did and then he was trying to take out all the trash like everyday and I wasn't turned on everyday. Then he said that taking the trash out didn't work. Ha ha, I thought that was pretty funny...and cute!

Sometimes I do fall asleep when we're getting in the mood but I'm just so damned tired! I work a full time job and I have ds with me at work so I'm full time mom all at the same time. I try to keep the house cleaned and cook every night and be a full time wife to. I feel very stretched thin...I'm just tired and "doing it" rates low on my list of priorities. I feel bad about it but I don't have time for mojo. I don't even have time for sleep!

Erica, I TOTALLY agree that doctors should educate new moms on this. I thought I had a serious problem and that I was alone. It's really comforting to know I'm not the only one.

[WanderingWombat]

Mom and Dad clean are definitely different. I look at the bathroom and see "clean". She sees "three hours of work". Conversely, she looks at the living room, and sees "Dad's job." Hehe.

Also on the flip side, sometimes dads are so tired at the end of the day that, although they want to be in the mood, their physiology is pulling a Homer. "Homer sleep now." *slam* I would like to remind all wives here that those occaisions are a bad time to start yelling. (Yes, dear, I know you were whacked out on hormone goof-balls, but I'm just trying to help the dads here.)

[Throkmorton]

Now let's be fair here. I cleaned the living room. It's the kitchen that's your responsibility (and a mess. I mean,. who makes bread around here?)

I fell asleep last night. I felt kinda bad, but not as bad as the good it felt crashing.

[WanderingWombat]

I know, I mean other times :) You look at the living room, and sort of flounce your arms, and look at me meaningfully, and say "I'm going to clean the bathroom." We agreed that I was better at cleaning HUGE messes... and getting it down to "Daddy clean", and then you take over for the "mommy clean", which I think involves toothbrushes and pixies. As for the kitchen... uhm... I glared at it last night. Really hard.

And I know you fell asleep last night, thats ok. Falling asleep felt good, too. And we're sharing a lot more of our private lives here than we really should. Yayy!

[Ahappymel]

Hi there,
Until my son was about a year, my sex drive was LOW. I think I was more tired, not feeling all that confident about my post-partum figure, my estrogen levels were very low due to nursing (and low estrogen equals reduced sex drive and very thin, dry vaginal walll..OUCH! during intercourse).
I still loved my husband...I still wanted to please him the ways that I could...but honestly, I was just not loving the sex the way I did before my son.
BUT...here is the rainbow : ) This is an issue that time should solve.
My drive DID come back...as strong as ever.

Sending you good wishes!

Mel.

[LoveChild421]

we have a "screw the house and screw" policy :blush really- as long as the sink isn't overflowing with dishes, the trash is out, and there is a shirt or 2 clean what does it matter? we save ourselves the time and energy and put it into more pleasurable pursuits... :wink I'd rather have a temporarily messy house than temporarily less sex...

[orangefoot]

Tidy house = more sex? :yikes: that's new to me! Its a wonder I ever get any at all!!!!!

Neither dh nor I are particularly fussed about doing stuff when the house is untidy, that has never crossed my mind as a reason not to!

That said we try to clear a space now after one too many slipping on picture books/lying on Lego incidents but even the bed isn't always safe in that respect; why do kids use the family bed to store spiky stuff?

[Brisen]

I don't think it is women not wanting to have sex in a messy house. It is women seeing their dp's helping out with the work as an act of love, and that gets them more in the mood. You're having sex because you love each other, presumably. If dh is not working insanely long hours and not helping around the house when you have a new baby together, how loved does the mom feel?

[orangefoot]

Sorry I should have put a tonge in cheek/ironic emoticon with my last post. :lol

We have 3 children and finding time/space to make love to each other has never been a problem. :wink

To be honest my dh cleaning the house or doing the dishes has no effect on my feelings towards him at all. Maybe that is because we have a relatively equal relationship in terms of who does what and are able to work with our strengths in sharing tasks. If the cleaning of the house makes a difference then maybe that is just a symptom of other issues which need to be let out into the open?

[CABsMommy]

No, there are no other issues that need to be let out in the open. I like a clean house and it's hard to accomplish that with ds around. When I see dh helping me clean that let's me know that he is sensitive to my feelings and wants to make me to feel better by pitching in. And for the record...dh was AMAZING this weekend! He "mom" cleaned! The bathrooms were sparkling! I didn't have to go behind him and do anything. I'm so proud...and he was rewarded *wink*!

[Throkmorton]

Hooray! See, i told you cleaning is an aphrodisiac.

We don't have too many other "issues" (right honey?), just having the house be a mess stresses me out, then i exhaust myself trying to get it clean and fall asleep at 7:30. Of course, being pregnant, i fall asleep at 7:30 anyways, so that is nothing new. Because DH works stupidly long hours, falling asleep at 7:30 means I might not see him when he gets home from work, and sometimes won't wake up before he goes to work.

[WanderingWombat]

Nah, we probably have others... :) Besides, any night we do stay up, so does Sebastian, because... he hates us.

[momto l&a]

Sex begins in the kitchen...

[zaadad]

ROTFLMAS
This thread is hysterical.

It took my dear wife about a year....ok, maybe not a year, but it should felt/seemed like it to get back to "normal" after baby #3.

Then suddenly WOW everything was GREAT...wink, wink......then.....

well, baby #4 was just born! :)

Oh well.... :-) We are both exausted at the end of the day anyway, so i
We got pregnant again :-) Baby #4 was just born so it will be a while.....t doesn't matter right now.

Cheers,
CR

[CABsDad]

This past weekend...I cleaned! :thumb "Mommy" style. It turned wifey on :twothumbs But I guess it was said best that this will go away with time. I'm starting to get adjusted and I know CABsMom is working on it and is being considerate. I just can't wait until we have spontaneous sessions again without me having to pencil in and wonder when. So everyone...I'm hanging in there...because it seems as though everyone is saying there is something good that will become of this temporary slump.

Oh and Zaadad... :shake...Too much information...I just wanted to know where the mojo went.

[rdl2k5]

Yeah.. Careful. We have always been pretty active but slowed down during pregnancy, post preg, infant stages. Then as soon as we were ready to kick it back up.. Well uhh. Twins on the way!

Be careful what you wish for !

[orangefoot]

hee hee

my dh doesn't know he's born - he has to do much less than cleaning to 'get it on' :lol

I am an untidy person with an untidy mind :wink

[zaadad]

Oh and Zaadad... ...Too much information...

sorry for TMI...I edited it down. :Sheepish:

ZD

[WanderingWombat]

Last night, I missed "Rescue Me" on Showcase.

Given the topic of this thread, I hope this makes it clear what I mean.

[CABsMommy]

We missed a chunk of a re-run of "That 70's Show" last night :)

[LoveChild421]

:thumb seems like there're some mojo flowin' again! :D

[Nourishma]

I just want to say that men are not the only ones that expererience sexual frustration...I have come to believe that this crap I hear about men having this raving sex drive is either total crap or I am simply ridiculously unattractive...when I was pregnant I had a ravenous sex drive and my boyfriend was never in the mood...now I'm not hot stuff or anything but I'm not unpleasant to look at and I felt more beautiful with the womany shape of pregnancy...I told him that he was going to regret rejecting me all the time when I wasnt pregnant anymore and my sex drive was almost completely diminished as I hear happens to women after they give birth...he always told me that it was just all the pressure of the new baby made it harder for him to feel in the mood...
Now our son is a month old and I find that while I'm not aching to be touched every moment I still have a very powerful urge to be close to him and repeat the act that brought our beautiful son to us in the first place..I feel that having a child and just the whole process of giving birth has made me feel more confident in my womanhood and feel better about my body and what it can do...I feel increased closeness to him now that we have experienced this together and him being the father of my child turns me on...
However I am still the initiater and often the rejected...I just wanted the men to know that women experience difficulty getting the man in the mood as well.
It seems these days when our son falls asleep warcraft is what is on his mind when I am thinking about how I'd like to love on him.

[LoveChild421]

:hug Nourishma. Welcome to MDC- I'm sure you'll find many of us who share your plight here. I wish Warcraft had never been invented- I believe there is a thread about it here there are so many of us who have problems with our partner's obsession with it. :(

[Anuska]

This thread is cracking me up. Been through it ALL!!! as well as dh. (and it can be a serious situation, if not dealt with, in humor or otherwise)

After 5 children and 7 pregnancies, co-sleeping, BF over 14 years of my life, we are about to have our 25th wedding anniversary and the mojo is better then ever. (still have a co-sleeping one too).

You'll get through this transition Cabsdad....I promise you, but it'll take a lot of sacrifice and stamina. (which you probably already know) Many men cop out before allowing the situation to get better.....but you don't seem that type. Hang in there ;) .....and you'll get your reward, it just takes time. Ask my dh, he knows all to well :o .....and yes we both had to compromise and make sacrifices (especially when you co-sleep). Take what you can get sex wise, mama may not always be "totally involved" now iykwim, but as the kiddies get older it does get easier to start mentally (which is #1 for a women) to let go and start to really enjoy sex and get libido back.

[Ahappymel]

I just want to say that men are not the only ones that expererience sexual frustration...I have come to believe that this crap I hear about men having this raving sex drive is either total crap or I am simply ridiculously unattractive...when I was pregnant I had a ravenous sex drive and my boyfriend was never in the mood...now I'm not hot stuff or anything but I'm not unpleasant to look at and I felt more beautiful with the womany shape of pregnancy...I told him that he was going to regret rejecting me all the time when I wasnt pregnant anymore and my sex drive was almost completely diminished as I hear happens to women after they give birth...he always told me that it was just all the pressure of the new baby made it harder for him to feel in the mood...
Now our son is a month old and I find that while I'm not aching to be touched every moment I still have a very powerful urge to be close to him and repeat the act that brought our beautiful son to us in the first place..I feel that having a child and just the whole process of giving birth has made me feel more confident in my womanhood and feel better about my body and what it can do...I feel increased closeness to him now that we have experienced this together and him being the father of my child turns me on...
However I am still the initiater and often the rejected...I just wanted the men to know that women experience difficulty getting the man in the mood as well.
It seems these days when our son falls asleep warcraft is what is on his mind when I am thinking about how I'd like to love on him.
:thumb Yeah THAT.

[CABsDad]

:blah

[EricaLeigh]

Nourishma:

Ummm it's kind of wierd to see that you're in my boat! Well I can't really say "my boat"...I guess its wierd to see you in the water period...If you catch my drift...

To all:

I have to say to all that have posted and supported and have laughed and shared: The "boat" I've been in has some new upgrades! Uhhh well...I think I upgraded to a second paddle...it seems as though we are now heading in the right direction. Not as often as I am use to, but there is progress people :thumb
:twothumbs

[Jasmyn's Mum]

Ummm..what's Warcraft? :hide:

[jenoline]

I just can't wait until we have spontaneous sessions again without me having to pencil in and wonder when.

:lol spontaneous??? :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

ahem...sorry...I don't think spontaneous happens until the kids are grown and out of the house. seriously, even when the mojo returned after #1 our sex life was still "penciled in". I'm still waiting for it to return after #2 (and I'll spare you by not mentioning how old #2 is). Poor dh. He's very patient though, and will turn his computer games off in a :heartbeat if he thinks I'm in the mood.

[PapaE]

i just had to give my two cents here...i feel like all the responses have been in the female perspective...i don't post a lot so sorry i don't have all the abbreviations....after our first child it was almost a year before we got back into it and even when we did it was akward...i mean going a whole year is way to long...men are not just some horney machines,caring only about themselves.just because they want to have sex..there are tons of studies out there of how important it is for relationships to function properly..i know that when there is a better connection with us there is a better connection with the whole family.....

On the other hand 3 months is a little early..you do have to give her a little time but you also can't let it get away because the longer you go the harder it is to get into a grove...it takes a lot of work on Both sides not just his...