Worldshakerz
09-24-2005, 10:56 PM
So things have been interesting around here this weekend.
You all know I was having contractions, etc. Well they pretty much stopped and I'm just back to the irregular braxton hicks/prelabor type stuff. Gosh, it has been so wierd.
Listen to the full story, then I'll tell you what conclusion DH and I came to today.
Wednesday night DH and I decided to dtd to get things going. DS was asleep on the couch so we had the bed to ourselves. It was so nice, we got to just snuggle in bed for a while first. Then we dtd and had a lot of fun :wink and immediately I started having contractions. I timed them and they were 5 minutes apart. I never had any obvious early labor signs with DS so it was new to me to be able to time contractions. They started getting slightly closer together and stronger. Jamie and I were having a good time, we were just smiling and laughing in between these contractions and talking about how great it was to be at home for this birth.
Then I think I made my first mistake by calling the midwife too early. I just wanted to give her the "heads up". I didn't ask her to come over or anything and she didn't insist on it, but my original plan was to call her at the "last minute". I think by announcing these early contractions to her I somehow put pressure on myself? I don't know. Anyhow, I told her I'd call her later. I went and laid down listening to my meditation cd. Usually it will put me to sleep by the end. But DS was in the bed by this point and he kept waking up and at one point he was like, "Mom, what are you doing?" That was like 4am and DS insisted on waking up. I was still having contractions at this point and when I timed them they were like 2-3 minutes apart and stronger and longer.
I was trying to lay down and rest though them, but it was hard because DS kept shouting in my ear, etc. So we decided to call my mom and have her pick him up. He happily went with her for the day. Then we started thinking maybe we should call about the birth tub so it could be delivered and we could have it set up for later. I had been hesitant about the tub for the past few days but decided I would really like to try for a water birth this time (with DS I labored some in the tub but delivered on land). Well, as soon as the lady got there with her 2 teenage boys to set up the pool, my contractions noticeably spaced out and weakened. They were there for almost an hour. Then DH started filling up the tub. I decided to lay on the couch and fell asleep.
When I woke up at 11am the contractions were very mild and not too regular anymore :( I took a walk to the store, tired. Got a few things and got us breakfast. We went to our regular midwife appointment, I got checked etc, found the baby was posterior. Went to the chiro, etc. We had a long tiring day and the regular contractions did not return.
Anyhow then yesterday DH decided to take the day off anyway. It was good, he got some laundry done and we got to have a date last night, first one in a long time.
Meanwhile this pool is still set up with water in it, but the water is cold etc and we had to empty it today because you can't keep the water in there too long etc because of bacteria and all that. Basically this pool has been a great source of stress all weekend, a source of nagging etc. We got negative vibes from the lady that set it up and it's just been a negative vibe sitting in our bedroom for 2 days. It's just been odd, it's hard to explain. And get this, the night before last I had a dream that I was underwater with the baby and couldn't get the baby out of the water. For some reason I feel like my baby is telling me it doesn't want to be born in the water. Not sure why, but with the dream and all this negativity my DH and I both feel and all the arguing we have done on this stupid pool we decided we are having the lady pick the tub up tomorrow because we dont' feel comfortable using it anymore.
So, when I feel labor get going again:
1) I will not call the midwife so soon. I will wait until active labor and more likely will have DH call when I am pushing or have already pushed the baby out.
2) I will actually keep DS at home with me (didn't mention, but worrying about him being away was extremely distracting to me)
3) I am listening to my intuition on the pool.
Maybe all this is completely off but I'm trying really hard to trust my intuition. My DH also has a lot of negative feelings on the pool etc.
Having come to these conclusions, I'm just aiming to get a good night's sleep tonight. DH is going to wake up with DS so I can sleep in, and we're getting the pool out of here in the morning. And then we are just going to relax and let this baby come when it's ready :D
You all know I was having contractions, etc. Well they pretty much stopped and I'm just back to the irregular braxton hicks/prelabor type stuff. Gosh, it has been so wierd.
Listen to the full story, then I'll tell you what conclusion DH and I came to today.
Wednesday night DH and I decided to dtd to get things going. DS was asleep on the couch so we had the bed to ourselves. It was so nice, we got to just snuggle in bed for a while first. Then we dtd and had a lot of fun :wink and immediately I started having contractions. I timed them and they were 5 minutes apart. I never had any obvious early labor signs with DS so it was new to me to be able to time contractions. They started getting slightly closer together and stronger. Jamie and I were having a good time, we were just smiling and laughing in between these contractions and talking about how great it was to be at home for this birth.
Then I think I made my first mistake by calling the midwife too early. I just wanted to give her the "heads up". I didn't ask her to come over or anything and she didn't insist on it, but my original plan was to call her at the "last minute". I think by announcing these early contractions to her I somehow put pressure on myself? I don't know. Anyhow, I told her I'd call her later. I went and laid down listening to my meditation cd. Usually it will put me to sleep by the end. But DS was in the bed by this point and he kept waking up and at one point he was like, "Mom, what are you doing?" That was like 4am and DS insisted on waking up. I was still having contractions at this point and when I timed them they were like 2-3 minutes apart and stronger and longer.
I was trying to lay down and rest though them, but it was hard because DS kept shouting in my ear, etc. So we decided to call my mom and have her pick him up. He happily went with her for the day. Then we started thinking maybe we should call about the birth tub so it could be delivered and we could have it set up for later. I had been hesitant about the tub for the past few days but decided I would really like to try for a water birth this time (with DS I labored some in the tub but delivered on land). Well, as soon as the lady got there with her 2 teenage boys to set up the pool, my contractions noticeably spaced out and weakened. They were there for almost an hour. Then DH started filling up the tub. I decided to lay on the couch and fell asleep.
When I woke up at 11am the contractions were very mild and not too regular anymore :( I took a walk to the store, tired. Got a few things and got us breakfast. We went to our regular midwife appointment, I got checked etc, found the baby was posterior. Went to the chiro, etc. We had a long tiring day and the regular contractions did not return.
Anyhow then yesterday DH decided to take the day off anyway. It was good, he got some laundry done and we got to have a date last night, first one in a long time.
Meanwhile this pool is still set up with water in it, but the water is cold etc and we had to empty it today because you can't keep the water in there too long etc because of bacteria and all that. Basically this pool has been a great source of stress all weekend, a source of nagging etc. We got negative vibes from the lady that set it up and it's just been a negative vibe sitting in our bedroom for 2 days. It's just been odd, it's hard to explain. And get this, the night before last I had a dream that I was underwater with the baby and couldn't get the baby out of the water. For some reason I feel like my baby is telling me it doesn't want to be born in the water. Not sure why, but with the dream and all this negativity my DH and I both feel and all the arguing we have done on this stupid pool we decided we are having the lady pick the tub up tomorrow because we dont' feel comfortable using it anymore.
So, when I feel labor get going again:
1) I will not call the midwife so soon. I will wait until active labor and more likely will have DH call when I am pushing or have already pushed the baby out.
2) I will actually keep DS at home with me (didn't mention, but worrying about him being away was extremely distracting to me)
3) I am listening to my intuition on the pool.
Maybe all this is completely off but I'm trying really hard to trust my intuition. My DH also has a lot of negative feelings on the pool etc.
Having come to these conclusions, I'm just aiming to get a good night's sleep tonight. DH is going to wake up with DS so I can sleep in, and we're getting the pool out of here in the morning. And then we are just going to relax and let this baby come when it's ready :D