Second loss...just bad luck?

[rockys]

I have two little boys (both of whom have special needs but neither is genetic -- king of, we really don't know about Autism and its genetic component) and just found out that I am experiencing my second loss. My first was a year and a half ago. Both were after the birth of my boys.

Both had a hearbeat at just six weeks and the pregnancy ending (date based on ultrasound) a few days after that.

I know that my progesterone and HCG numbers were good for both.

The doctor I saw today (wasn't my regular doctor -- he isn't in) said that it must have been a genetic problem and there wasn't any issue with my ability to carry the pregnancy. Do I assume that is it? It makes sense, I guess.

We would like another child but I am 39. Should I ask for further testing? If so, what? On me, on the pregnancy I am carrying now (I have not decided whether or not I want a D & C).

I am so confused.

Thanks

Raquel

[JLav]

I'm so sorry Raquel. :Hug I hope you are able to find some answers.

[gabry]

I'm in a similar situation; one healthy pregnancy, followed by m/c at 9 weeks (growth stopped at 6-7) and now awaiting second m/c (at 8w, measuring 5w4d at7w). I'm 35. I was on progesterone for both b/o short lp, but was never officially diagnosed with low progesterone. I did some research, and apparently with 2 m/c, the likelihood is still very high that they were chance occurrences (or age related, unfortunately). With 3 or more, there is a bigger chance that there is an underlying problem.
However, because I too am worried about my age and would love to have at least two more children, I think I will go ahead and ask for some of the tests. Probably at least the clotting disorders, since that seems to be one of the few things that can actually be treated.
When they check the baby, they could find certain chromosomal abnormalities, that are mostly caused by problems with cell division and not passed on from the parents. If they find something, they could do chromosomal testing on the parents and see if there is something called a 'balanced translocation' which could cause problems not for the carrier but the embryo/fetus. Or, I guess you could opt to just have the parents checked.
Sorry this was so long, hope it helps. (Google is great!!)

[HoosierDiaperinMama]

I don't have any advice for you, but I wanted to offer you hugs and let you know I'm thinking of you. :hugs

[staceyshoe]

New research shows that low progesterone causes half of all m/c (not genetic problems as some drs still say) but since your levels were monitored, that couldn't be the issue. I had 2 m/c before my ds was born and was told by my dr that it's not "statistically significant" until 3 m/c in a row which is why most insur co don't pay for much testing until after the 3rd. So from a statistical standpoint, there is a good likelihood that it is just chance.

[whateverdidiwants]

You might want to have them check for clotting disorders. I had 3 mcs before (10 weeks and 2 at 6 weeks) before anyone did *anything* and it ends up I have an autoimmune disorder that makes me hypercoagulative (antiphospholipid antibody syndrome). In order to carry my dd I had to inject myself with blood thinners twice a day and be monitored very closely for IUGR.

Best of luck.