zjandosmom
10-01-2005, 04:18 AM
Hi all-
I haven't been active here for a few weeks as we have been dealing with a lot of s#@t. I thought maybe it would help my stress level to "unload" some of it and maybe get some positive vibes flowing.
Around 3 weeks ago we found out my Granmother (lives in Florida in an assissted living place) was being abused, neglected and possibly raped. We won't know for sure about the rape until the rape kit comes back. The center had been drugging her into oblivion so she can't tell us much. There is an investigation under way right now. She is of course not there and the family is searching for a new place closer to family. She is 95.
One of my Aunts had a lumpectomy which turned out to be an aggressive form of cancer and needs a maschectomy. Her prognosis is good, but she was not prepared to lose a breast.
My other Aunt, to whom I am closest, has a tumor in her uterus. At first they were telling her ovarian cancer. Now they are hopeful it is just a tumor. She will have a hysterectomy Oct 6 and will then find our if it is cancer.
Our house in Charlotte, NC. We could not sell before we needed to move to Atlanta. We had been living apart from dh for 9months and decided to make a leap of faith. We got talked into renting out our house by the realtor. Mid Sept. the rentors inform us they will NOT be paying Sept rent and will be leaving the end of Sept. Some how they felt like a month of free rent was something we owed them. My dh went up last night to check the condition of the house and meet with another realtor. The people have trashed our house. The carpeting is ruined, holes in all walls and doors, filthy, painted without asking permission, took out shrubs, etc. We worked our asses off when we left fixing every little nail hole, washing and repainting walls, etc. I am so sick. We have 2 mortgages now and no cash to fix what they have done to our house. The used our backyard as a dump as well. I could just cry.
Dh is looking for a new job as we would like to go back to Charlotte, but the job market is not good there. I think we could sell our Atlanta house easier than the NC one. But his job is here (he hates his job). When ds3 was born he was laid off, literally the month he was born. Unemployed for 6month and then got some contracting work which led to his current f/t job with relo package. We have had a really tough 2.5 yrs. I know in the scheme of things we are lucky. We are all healthy, we have each other, etc. As my mom says "it's only money".....easy to say when you have it. I am scared and overwhelmed by all that is going on in our life right now and sometimes wonder why in the world I was given the gift of a new life right now. I left the window of oppertunity open 1 month and we were only able to have sex once!!! I feel this babe was meant to be....just doesn't seem like the timing is the best.
sorry for going on and on and on......but I am far from friends and tired of carrying this all inside. Poor DH!!
Thanks for listening/reading.
kathy
I haven't been active here for a few weeks as we have been dealing with a lot of s#@t. I thought maybe it would help my stress level to "unload" some of it and maybe get some positive vibes flowing.
Around 3 weeks ago we found out my Granmother (lives in Florida in an assissted living place) was being abused, neglected and possibly raped. We won't know for sure about the rape until the rape kit comes back. The center had been drugging her into oblivion so she can't tell us much. There is an investigation under way right now. She is of course not there and the family is searching for a new place closer to family. She is 95.
One of my Aunts had a lumpectomy which turned out to be an aggressive form of cancer and needs a maschectomy. Her prognosis is good, but she was not prepared to lose a breast.
My other Aunt, to whom I am closest, has a tumor in her uterus. At first they were telling her ovarian cancer. Now they are hopeful it is just a tumor. She will have a hysterectomy Oct 6 and will then find our if it is cancer.
Our house in Charlotte, NC. We could not sell before we needed to move to Atlanta. We had been living apart from dh for 9months and decided to make a leap of faith. We got talked into renting out our house by the realtor. Mid Sept. the rentors inform us they will NOT be paying Sept rent and will be leaving the end of Sept. Some how they felt like a month of free rent was something we owed them. My dh went up last night to check the condition of the house and meet with another realtor. The people have trashed our house. The carpeting is ruined, holes in all walls and doors, filthy, painted without asking permission, took out shrubs, etc. We worked our asses off when we left fixing every little nail hole, washing and repainting walls, etc. I am so sick. We have 2 mortgages now and no cash to fix what they have done to our house. The used our backyard as a dump as well. I could just cry.
Dh is looking for a new job as we would like to go back to Charlotte, but the job market is not good there. I think we could sell our Atlanta house easier than the NC one. But his job is here (he hates his job). When ds3 was born he was laid off, literally the month he was born. Unemployed for 6month and then got some contracting work which led to his current f/t job with relo package. We have had a really tough 2.5 yrs. I know in the scheme of things we are lucky. We are all healthy, we have each other, etc. As my mom says "it's only money".....easy to say when you have it. I am scared and overwhelmed by all that is going on in our life right now and sometimes wonder why in the world I was given the gift of a new life right now. I left the window of oppertunity open 1 month and we were only able to have sex once!!! I feel this babe was meant to be....just doesn't seem like the timing is the best.
sorry for going on and on and on......but I am far from friends and tired of carrying this all inside. Poor DH!!
Thanks for listening/reading.
kathy