Bad dreams about Dh

[birthjunkie27]

For the past 2 nights I've had REALLY bad dreams about my Dh. First night, he was cheating on me with numerous women....not even trying to hide it from me...telling me he didn't love me anymore, etc...VERY upsetting. I woke up mad at him.

Last night's dream was strange. He got mad at me cause I answered the phone before he did....like when my brother and I were younger and we'd dive for the phone when it rang. And in the dream he kept switching between himself and my brother. He just got SO angry at me for answering the phone. He wanted to kill the kids and me....and he gave me some pill that I unknowingly took and later on he told me, "You know that pill I gave you? It was to stop the baby's heartbeat." :dropjaw The dream was SO vivid and SO morbid!

Why would I be having these kind of dreams about Dh? We aren't having any problems in real life.... I don't get it. :confused:

[PatchPixie]

I have had dreams that my DH is misbehaving, too. And he definately isn't! I don't know why i am having them either! And, I too, wake up a bit peeved with the man when he's done nothing wrong. I also had a dream that I went to this crazy party - like I was back in college or something - and I was the one behaving badly and had a few drinks before remembering i was pregnant - I remember feeling SO badly and full of guilt. I have a hard time shaking my dream emotions off sometimes - i'll carry them around til mid morning before I come to terms with the fact they were just dreams ;)

[allnaturalmama]

That is so weird! I had the same dream two nights ago. DH decided to leave me for some gorgeous Asian model, and wanted her to participate with me and the kids in family outings. Wanted me to be nice to her. I woke up feeling so hurt, and then had to laugh at myself! :LOL

BTW, DH is the sweetest, dearest man. Totally tuned in to me. Have no idea why I would have dreamed such a thing. Must be the hormones . . .

[xmasbaby7]

Dreams can be such weird things. Remember that the actions in the dreams aren't so important as the feelings you were experiencing in the dreams.

Dreams can pick up subtle tensions or fears and really exaggerate them for dramatic effect.

Try to strip down your dreams to the most basic emotion. i continually had dreams of my DH cheating and leaving me pregnant until about 2 months ago. We realized I was fearing him abandoning me emotionally during the birth or pregnancy experience. We have talked a lot more about the birth and what his role could be, and those nightmares went awa,y too.

Dreams can be great tools once we know how to use them.

[Minnow_]

PatchPixie, I know what you mean about carrying around the emotions from your dreams.

I've also had this sort of dream about my husband cheating, or me cheating, or one of us being really angry with the other, and it's not that way at all in reality. For me, I think it's worries about our relationship changing after the baby (our first) is here. We've been married for a long time and have a really awesome partnership, and I think we're both wondering how that will change when we become a family of three.

[Jeanne_L]

Two nights ago I had a similar dream, too! DH hadn't been cheating but was looking at porn and not even attempting to hide it from me. I woke up so angry!

[birthjunkie27]

I think the reasoning behind my dreams is that I'm afraid of Dh leaving me after the baby is born. It sounds horrible, but he did it after our second was born. Dd had just turned 2 and Ds was 2 months old. Dh decided he didn't want to be married anymore. Just out of the blue. He moved out (into a friend's house)...he still saw the kids and came and helped me out whenever I called him, but I was SO emotionally crushed. I was a SAHM of 2 small children and my Dh just left.....for no apparent reason other than he said he didn't love me anymore. The seperation only lasted a month, until Dh said he'd "try" again. He resolved things with himself and realized the grass wasn't greener on the other side.

I'm just worried (subconsciously I guess) that he might do it again with the stress of another baby. I really don't think he will. Wow, it felt good to get that off my chest.

[darkpear]

I always get really vivid and super-weird dreams during pregnancy; I've had the DP cheating dream too and yeah, it's scary and traumatic even when you have a fabulous relationship!

This pregnancy I have had a lot of dreams where I am back in high school or just living with my mom again and being treated like a teenager. For some reason, those leave me even more creeped out :LOL

birthjunkie27, I just saw your last post and that's really awful! Hopefully the dreams are just helping you work through your feelings and fears :hug

[xmasbaby7]

Wow, Birthjukie, that is hard core. It is definitely a fear most of us have/had at some point. You never know what people can do.

Your current fears though, sound like those Ina May gaskin talked about in her book as stalling the cervix during labor of her clients. You deserve any real reassurance from DH you can get. You'll know best how to get it.

Good luck!