2happymamas
10-09-2005, 04:57 PM
DW and I are trying to finalize plans for TTC #1. We are using a known donor, Bob, who we know from school. DW and I both want to carry a child and she plans to go first b/c of her age...I will be 28 and she will be 35. We planned to both do at-home inseminations. You know, give Bob a magazine or movie and inseminate as soon as he produces "the goods."
We like the idea of a non-medical insemination b/c we think it would be more comforting and special to conceive at home vs. a cold metal table in the doctor's office. Also, we like the idea of it being nearly free!
Here's the question, with DW's age, should be skip the at home inseminations and go straight to the doctor for IUI (I think that is what it would be)? We feel like at the age of 35 and coupled with the fact that her mother started menapause in her mid-forties, we cannot afford to waste a year inseminating at home. I guess we are afraid that for whatever reason, it will not work.
Truth be told, money is not a deciding factor. We would spend the 15-20,000 on IVF if it was necessary. Would you recommend skipping the at-home inseminations or try them? We just do not feel that we have time on our side... the older the woman, the greater chance of problems.
We like the idea of a non-medical insemination b/c we think it would be more comforting and special to conceive at home vs. a cold metal table in the doctor's office. Also, we like the idea of it being nearly free!
Here's the question, with DW's age, should be skip the at home inseminations and go straight to the doctor for IUI (I think that is what it would be)? We feel like at the age of 35 and coupled with the fact that her mother started menapause in her mid-forties, we cannot afford to waste a year inseminating at home. I guess we are afraid that for whatever reason, it will not work.
Truth be told, money is not a deciding factor. We would spend the 15-20,000 on IVF if it was necessary. Would you recommend skipping the at-home inseminations or try them? We just do not feel that we have time on our side... the older the woman, the greater chance of problems.