allismom
10-11-2005, 02:40 PM
I just read "Positive Discipline for Preschoolers" by Jane Nelsen. It came higghly recommended to me by another AP board. I read it in two days. The first half of the book had wonderful insight into our own parenting styles and how they affect our 'disciplining' and the childs reaction to it. I put 'discipline' in quotes for those of you who havne't read it......they make a clear distinction between discipline and punishment and they view 'discipline' is mainly talking and a learning experience. THe book also gives valuable insight into our toddlers little minds and what all those emotions and tantrums are stemming from. While all that was interesting, I found myelf longing to get to the part to 'fix it all'.....or to fix myself and how I handle it. It finally came halway through the book.
Nonetheless, I was still a bit disappointed.....just as they'd touch on a technique or example, the chapter would be over that quick. I felt the examples were a bit vague and didn't quite go deep enough. That said though, I have made some immediate changes in how I speak to DD and how I handle her 'moments', shall we call them.
Today she came to me after just about getting to a tantrum level and said "mom, do you want to give me a time out?". Now time outs were new to us and not working for us. I got down to her level and said "lets try something different". We did what the book calls a 'positive time out' and what I called a "calm down". So we went together and had a 'calm down' perioid of quiet reading on the sofa. I went to make her lunch and told her when she felt better to come over. She did and then we had a nice calm discussion about how she was feeling.
Hope it keeps working.
What did others think of the book?
Nonetheless, I was still a bit disappointed.....just as they'd touch on a technique or example, the chapter would be over that quick. I felt the examples were a bit vague and didn't quite go deep enough. That said though, I have made some immediate changes in how I speak to DD and how I handle her 'moments', shall we call them.
Today she came to me after just about getting to a tantrum level and said "mom, do you want to give me a time out?". Now time outs were new to us and not working for us. I got down to her level and said "lets try something different". We did what the book calls a 'positive time out' and what I called a "calm down". So we went together and had a 'calm down' perioid of quiet reading on the sofa. I went to make her lunch and told her when she felt better to come over. She did and then we had a nice calm discussion about how she was feeling.
Hope it keeps working.
What did others think of the book?