trying to decide if i want baby number three

[Taria]

hi, i have two children, a girl 33 months ( she is a brat and doesn't want to take a nap, but she needs one. she is so cranky when she doesn't) and a boy 11 months. ( very easy sort of, except he doesn't like to sleep either, and also get's cranky if he doesn't take naps. and of course he is a BOY. :) and he loves his big sis. even though she is jelouse of him a lot.)
I do ok, just fine, taking care of the kids. But I have been thinking about having a third baby, i want another girl. :) but i am scared. i don't quite know if i can handle three. i only have two arms and hands and two eyes. And i have been changing my mind back and forth about having a third. do i or don't? i don't know. i can't make up my mind.
i have the choice to plan my third baby, so my son 11 months will be 20 months or so when the new baby would come along. but i don't know if i should wait longer. is 20 months age difference ok? is it too close? or just right? or should i wait? i don't know. i can't figure it out.
i keep reading different forums online about having three babies, but i still can't make up my mind.
anyways, if anyone has any advice, please let me know. i know that it is only up to me at the end, but there is a few things that i could get opinions on. like children, a boy and a new baby being 20 months apart? or should i wait?
and is three children too hard?
and why can't i make up my mind, why do i keep changing my mind back and forth? it's so confusing.

[oksya]

I can't understand!!!
If you want, if your husband agree, if you could permit yourself, if you have possibility then WHY NOT???
It's a baby! Don't think just do it!!!

[tabitha]

we are hoping for a third soon- mine are 3 years and 16 months. they are 22 months apart. if we had a third now, they would be over 2 years apart.

i don't think anyone is ever 'ready' to do it, but i do know for myself that it is important to work out in your heart any issues you have with pregnancy, birth, and mama-ing. for example, i had birth issues from tristan's birth that i didnt work through, and kassi's birth was long and hard because of it.

another example is my postpartum depression after my second. as we begin to think about a new baby, i am doing a lot of soul searching about PPD and ways i would like to avoid it this time. it takes a lot of time to pore over your past experiences and make sure you are whole enough to start this process all over again.

that said, just going ahead and doing it will jumpstart a lot of this soul searching. once you are expecting a new baby, you will find that your heart is more sure. (or at least this is my experience).

i don't pretend to *know* you, but from your post and from my side it seems you are in a tough place with your kids, developmentally. i remember, not too long ago- well, before my oldest was 3, things were crazier than they seem now. you may find as your 2 grow a little more that another baby doesnt seem too hard. i have really experienced a load of change now that my 2 can play together all of the time.

tabitha

[my2girlsmama]

We have 2 girls, one nearly 6 the baby 19 months. Didn't plan sucj a gap, lost a baby to m/c in bewteen, that one would now be 3 had he survived. I am debating a third, but know that I get children who don't sleep for the first 2 years...........so I don't want one yet. I know better. If we do decide on a third, we'd likely start ttc when this one is nearing 3 or older.

[Mary-Beth]

I'm in the same boat- trying to decide if I want a third child...I mean, I do..I really, really do BUT I have doubts and wonder if I should just stop at 2. Can I really handle 3?!!
I don't have much time now but I wanted you to know that I totally relate to going back and forth on this issue!