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snowbunny
10-22-2005, 08:19 AM
DS is six weeks old. He rarely cries--seriously, he almost never cries--except at bedtime. I can't figure it out. DH and I (well, mostly I) are at our wits' end.

Sometime between 9 and 11, DS is ready to sleep for the evening (he still usually wakes up at 2:30, 5:30 and 7:30 before being up for the morning at 9:30 - 10).

I don't start getting him ready to sleep until he's exhibiting signs of sleepiness. So I nurse him, rock him and he drifts off to sleep. Then he wakes up about 1/2 hr later and acts fussy. His not wet or soiled, he doesn't need to go to the bathroom, he doesn't need to eat, he doesn't need to burp ... he just S C R E A M S!!!

While it varies from night to night (some nights there's no screaming), last night he screamed for 1.5 hrs with tiny little breaks to catch his breath. I feel like I'm letting him CIO in my arms because there's simply nothing more that I know to do that will calm him to sleep that I haven't already done ...

He won't nurse to sleep like many babies ... well, he'll nurse, I'll let down and that makes him even more mad.

My mom tells me that it's just his way of putting himself to sleep, but it makes me sick to think of my baby crying so hard for so long -- I don't know what else to do ...

After making sure that all the red flags (hunger, wet diapers, gas etc) are fine, I just cuddle him while he screams until he drifts off. After that one spell, he'll ususally wake to nurse a couple of times and he'll go back to sleep in my arms until I leave for work and he goes back to sleep in DH's arms until 9 - 9:30 when he's usually awake for the better part of the morning.

What am I doing wrong? What can I do better?




mariank
10-22-2005, 08:55 AM
:hug

Hugs to you mama, I know how difficult this is!! Just heartbreaking.

We went through a period when our DS was about 2 months to 4 months old, maybe six weeks to two months (he's 2 now!) where he routinely had a "witching hour" that could sometimes be several hours of just hysterical crying and screaming. Screaming till he lost his energy! We chalked it up to "colic" although I have to say I really don't know what that word means. We tried to identify any possible cause, and I did end up severely limiting my food intake while nursing him till he got close to one year old--most importantly, eliminating milk and dairy altogether, and that did help. But for quite some time, we suffered through with him, holding him, rocking him, singing to him, wearing him in a sling, bouncing him, driving him in the car occasionally. One day we wearily went out and purchased a swing that he really liked (it was the fisher price aquarium swing, that has lights and sounds and swings in different directions). Sometimes he liked to be bounced in one of those bouncy chairs. Once we put him on top of the clothes dryer while it spun, and once or twice we ran the vaccuum. Mostly though, for us it was a routine of making sure he was dry, well fed, didn't have some other bizarre thing going on like a hair around his toe (how many times have I read about that?), etc. and then holding him, nursing him, comforting him till he could sleep. The good news is, it did come to an end, it didn't last that long, and our DS has been a great sleeper. He always has sleep late in the morning, which is great and he has always awakened happy. Mama, I don't think you are doing anything wrong, you just have to be creative and expansive in your comforting ideas and methods!!! I think Dr. Sears has a lot to say about this subject, if you haven't already looked there. Hang in there and keep the faith, this period will not last forever!!!

Best of luck to you... Marian

aceboo
10-22-2005, 09:54 AM
Hi, do you have a sling?
I found that my dd would cry if i was just holding her (at night), but when she was swaddled in a sling AND close to me she seemed more able to calm down.

I also suggest that you try to remain calm, she can sense your agitation.

hugs to you mama,

It will be fine!

kiwimutti
10-22-2005, 10:18 AM
Im not sure...sorry...but I did just want to say you are doing absolutly wonderfully!!! :heartbeat It is so so hard to just hold a screaming baby and not know what to do to help...mariank has thought of everything!!great advice...the hair around the toe thing is kind of funny in a way because it would almost be a relief to find something like that just so you would know exactly how to help :LOL My sister did this every single night for one hour starting at 6pm...and every time I was convinced my mum must have stuck her with a diaper pin...thats how she was screaming....
The only thing I can think of, if all the basics are covered and no toe hair or pin ;) ... is bundeling up and poping him in a sling and walking outside...my kids have always been soothed by walking outside... :down

:hug

Blue Dragonfly
10-22-2005, 10:29 AM
We were discussing crying over here. . . No solutions offered, but it might make you feel things are "normal"

http://www.mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?p=3973861#post3973861