Second Time Moms - Reality and Bonding

[Jade2561]

So, this is my second pregnancy and is already soooo much different than my first. I feel so much more bonded to this baby already and it seems more real than when I was pg with dd.

I don't know exactly why this is. I can't decide if it's because I know what awesome things my body can do, or because I know what kind of joy is ahead? Do you know what I mean - when I was pg with dd it didn't even feel real until I was 4 or 5 months pregnant, and when I gave birth the baby that was inside of me and her as a newborn seemed like two completely different people. Am I weird, or does anyone else feel like this as well?

[midwestmom]

This is my 3rd time but what you say makes sense. You have been through this before so you can visualize alittle easier the end product. I think that with your first pregnancy, it is so hard to imagine what YOUR baby will look/be like.

[desireeb]

This is #2 for me and I feel completely different already. When I was pregnant with my DD, I had no idea what it would be like to have a baby in my arms and care for her and know that she's mine. My joy is 100 fold this time because I know what all of that feels like!

[Red Sonja]

I don't think it has sunk in yet for me. I'm worried that I won't really connect with this pregnancy because I will be too busy with DS.

[1stTimeMummytoLore]

as my second pregnancy, i'd say this one is totally different too from my first. with DD, i got a positive pregnancy test at something like 11 or 12 days past ovulation, didn't really feel all that tired or have to pee that much but was sick, sick, sick through my first trimester all day long. i was still in the army and working 14-16 hours a day and two weeks after we knew we were pregnant, my DH got sent to kuwait/iraq so i was majorly stressed and that miserable time flew by.

this time, i didn't get a positive test until what i think was 18 days past ovulation, i have to pee all the time and am drinking 3 liters of water a day (still nursing DD) and i HAVE TO nap with her in the afternoon because i'm more tired. but i'm not at all sick or stressed (i'm a SAHM now and DH is a civilian). it seems like this pregnancy is going by a lot slower right now, which is actually kind of nice.

i guess every pregnancy, every birth and every baby are different!