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[LisaSueandBabyBoy]

I've been lurking for awhile but thought I would say hello and introduce myself. I am in the process (long and slow...has it been that way for anyone else?) of divorce. After two and a half years of fighting and dysfunction, the time has come. My husband is an incredibly smart, driven, professional man who is a functioning alcoholic/addict and who decided to have sex with a woman in a hotel room in front of a group of people. THANK GOD that I found out about the last part through some very graphic e-mail because I am rid of him and his filth for good. I have two beautiful babies-Ethan who will be three in December and Isaac who is just four months. I am more at peace each day because this roller coaster ride of a marriage is over. I am most afraid of the empty threats that he is going to *take my kids away from me*. I have quickly learned that fear is one of the greatest factors in divorce, or at least it has been for me. I hope that I can offer support to any other mamas who are going through this same thing, get some advice from anyone who has been through it and be a part of a strong, wonderful group of single mothers!

[Katt2005]

:w You sound like such a strong woman! That is awesome! I hope you enjoy it here :love

[Holland73]

I agree with Katt, you do seem like a strong woman!

Dealing with a functional alcoholic/addict is worse, imo, than the ones that are sloppy, stupid and dysfunctional.

Welcome! :w

[fire_lady]

:w
You're indeed a strong mama. Just keep it like that and good luck.
:)

[ediesmom]

I know that fear!!! I'm glad you recognize it for what it is. Please don't buy it. And document, document, document EVERYTHING! You and your little ones will be safe, I trust.

Hugs to you, and my thoughts and prayers.

ediesmom

[absolutely]

welcome.

it will all turn out, you'll see.

and like the pp said, document everything.

:hug:

[MsChatsAlot]

Welcome.

It sounds like you are a strong woman and you are clever to recognize the role that fear can play in a divorce. My ex is the king of empty threats. He's been saying (on & off) for the past 4.5 years that he'll drag me into court.....but he doesn't. I actually stopped "appearing" afraid to him about this and started saying, "okay, you do what you feel you have to do." When he knows he's not getting to me, he stops because he doesn't really want to do what he says, it's just a way to attempt to control and upset me.

My divorce has been a long, drawn out thing. I do my best to remain true to myself and true to the kids and I work to keep fear out of everything. It does get easier once the dust settles a bit. Once everyone starts to adjust to the new life, it gets a bit easier.

I'm glad you've found us here. We are a supportive group of single parents who have a wide variety of experiences and support to share. I hope you find it helpful.

[nora--not a llama]

Welcome, Momma!! :D
Blessings to you and your little men!

[green]

I wanted to wish you a welcome, too!

I am glad you decided to join us - it can be sooo exciting sometimes!

Best to you and your little ones - it sounds like you are off to a good start.

Green

[trinity6232000]

:carrot :banana :broc: :greet :broc: :banana :carrot

Glad you came to join us here. Your son Issac shares the same b-day
week as my 5 yo dd. Only a day (well, and some years) apart. :heartbeat

[Mommay]

:w


I'm glad you decided to join. I hope to get to know you better. I'm dealing with addiction as well. You sound very calm and level-headed. I think my first post went something like this :nut .

[canadianchick]

WELCOME!!! ;)

[pranamama]

:) Welcome