Grumble thread...

[Queen of Cups]

What are you annoyed about today?

I'm annoyed that DS woke up before 7am, and by 9am I had: fixed and served him breakfast, swept the kitchen, picked up the living room, picked up the nursery, changed a massively poopy diaper, gotten DS dressed, got myself dressed, picked up the master bedroom, put in a load of laundry, bagged up my sister's clean laundry that's been in the basement for several days...

MIL is here to help, but she just seems totally unable to SEE a mess. As soon as I start cleaning something she says, "Oh, I can do that." And then I want to shout, "Why didn't you already do it, then? The crumbs have been on the floor for two days! The shoes have been lying around all week! There is a full basket of laundry in every bedroom and the linen closet!" I really don't think my housekeeping standards are _that_ high. I have a list on the fridge of all the chores that should be done everyday, but I don't think its being read very often by anyone in the house... But, FIL does the vast majority of cleaning at her house so I know she's not used to doing any housework.

I shouldn't whine, though, I really appreciate the fact that she watches DS every afternoon so I can take a nap, and that she fixes dinner every night so I don't have to... but sometimes I feel like she's getting to do all the fun stuff so I have time to clean when things get really bad.

Plus, I had contractions on and off all day long yesterday - some were so intense I had to find a seat and use my Hypnobabies cue-words, and yet I'm still not in active labor. Maybe if I just go nuts cleaning today I'll go into labor tonight. Of course, that was the plan with shopping yesterday and it didn't work...

[PicnicBear]

but sometimes I feel like she's getting to do all the fun stuff so I have time to clean when things get really bad.

My LLL leader warned me about that kind of "help" from people. "I'll hold the baby while you do all the housework stuff" Gee, thanks . . she doesn't sound *that* bad though.

I already polluted the weekly thread with my own whinings, but I'll be back later to chime in here, I'm sure.

[samsmamma]

I am actually in a pretty good mood today. My grumble is really jsut a bit of preschooler frustration. Sam won't stop picking his nose! And therefore he perpetually has a cold. he never used to get sick - the docs were amazed at his little immune system (2+ yrs of breastfeeding!) and now he is a germ factory. I know that's life in school and everything, but I still don't like it. And he won't stop picking! We try not to make a big deal of it but at the same time it's just yucky. Especially b/c he then comes and wipes his boogies off on us! So as I said somewhere else I think, at least I'm trying to get him to be better about hand washing so that he's not sticking the germs right up his nose all the time. It's really frustrating.

Other than that...I'm tired, but that's nothing new. I'm working from home tomorrow, it's DH's birthday. He's going to golf in the AM and play poker tomorrow night and then golf again on Saturday, so I'm not going to see much of him this weekend, which is kind of a drag. Oh well.

[babykaoss]

He's going to golf in the AM and play poker tomorrow night and then golf again on Saturday, so I'm not going to see much of him this weekend, which is kind of a drag. Oh well.

i'm kinda grumpy about this type of thing too. my dh had to play last night at a club, and he has to play an out of town party friday night, and then has a friend from out of state coming over on saturday night to work on a song w/ him...........

so much for ME. *pout* :irked:

[flapjack]

5 nosebleeds in 7 hours. The taste of blood makes me feel sick...

[bec]

I'm annoyed that I still have a stuffed up nose, and nothing is helping. Ok, here's my hidden disappointment with NFL. Homeopathic remedies don't work as well as Afrin! I wish they did, but they don't. :blush

QOC - It sounds like you MIL is willing to help, but has no initiative on what needs to be done. Maybe you could suggest that she put the laundry in. You could couch it in the, "It's just too heavy for me right now," terms. I have a really hard time asking for help, but am really trying to. I hosted a playgroup a couple of weeks ago, and one of the women asked me if she could help me clean up a bit towards the end. I was about to say no, but then stopped myself, and said, "Yes, I would love the help." She did all my dishes that had been generated by the playgroup. It was such a big help! And the other mothers helped to pick up the toys that had been pulled off the shelves. It is so hard to do, but such a relief when you actually get the help you need!


Bec

[Belleweather]

If one more coworker looks at me and says "So, you're still HERE, huh?" in that condescending oh-poor-irrational-pregnant-lady tone, they're gonna start thinkin' they work at the postal service!

Honestly, I might as well be HERE earning the rather exorbiant per-hour wage you pay me to surf the internet rather than at home waiting impatiently to go into labor and surfing the internet.

[PicnicBear]

at home waiting impatiently to go into labor and surfing the internet.

hey -- what's wrong with that
:irked:

[zjande]

I had intensely painful, very regular contractions last night. I was thinking it "might be it" & mentally planning the trip to the hospital when the cx slowly started to each feel weaker. Another hour later & they stopped. So, I had to deal with serious pain that lead (seemingly) nowhere, got no sleep, & today just feel GROSS! Why do I feel so gross?? I have no appetite, food makes my stomach hurt, I'm contracty but nowhere near regularly, I'm so sleepy I've slept most of the day, haven't cleaned a thing or gotten dressed......

Grr. I'm just feeling whiny. If I didn't feel so gross & sleepy it'd be easier to distract myself.

Thanks for letting me vent.

[BensMom]

I'll whine and vent, too! I feel so good in the mornings, full of energy (well, comparatively so) and able to do stuff like shopping, meeting friends for lunch, Dr/MW visits with no problems. I have even been surviving the long afternoons with DS.

But at around 4:30, its like my body and mind shuts down. I am so achy, my belly weighs 54 lbs, my back aches, I am emotional, I cant think straight enough to even cook dinner, I loose patience with DS, my pets bug the heck out of me and poor DH is left to pick up the slack. I wish I had some of the energy when he was around. I wish I could make it to 7pm (bedtime) before I become Mommie Dearest to my son. I wish I wasnt so achy at night that I wonder if I am in labor.

I guess at least I feel ok during the days and thats better than some. Maybe I am overdoing it. Who knows. But Bens not in school tomorrow, so I will have to find some way to entertain him all day and still maintain my sanity.

[MrsMoe]

What are you annoyed about today?

I'm annoyed that DS woke up before 7am, and by 9am I had: fixed and served him breakfast, swept the kitchen, picked up the living room, picked up the nursery, changed a massively poopy diaper, gotten DS dressed, got myself dressed, picked up the master bedroom, put in a load of laundry, bagged up my sister's clean laundry that's been in the basement for several days...

MIL is here to help, but she just seems totally unable to SEE a mess. As soon as I start cleaning something she says, "Oh, I can do that." And then I want to shout, "Why didn't you already do it, then? The crumbs have been on the floor for two days! The shoes have been lying around all week! There is a full basket of laundry in every bedroom and the linen closet!" I really don't think my housekeeping standards are _that_ high. I have a list on the fridge of all the chores that should be done everyday, but I don't think its being read very often by anyone in the house... But, FIL does the vast majority of cleaning at her house so I know she's not used to doing any housework.

I shouldn't whine, though, I really appreciate the fact that she watches DS every afternoon so I can take a nap, and that she fixes dinner every night so I don't have to... but sometimes I feel like she's getting to do all the fun stuff so I have time to clean when things get really bad.

Plus, I had contractions on and off all day long yesterday - some were so intense I had to find a seat and use my Hypnobabies cue-words, and yet I'm still not in active labor. Maybe if I just go nuts cleaning today I'll go into labor tonight. Of course, that was the plan with shopping yesterday and it didn't work...


She sounds like she is more on a mini-vacation to play with her grandchild than there to help you, though the dinner making hting is VERY cool. :hug You know what? If you feel yucky, you are having nasty contrax, do what I do. Nothing. My husband has been a huge help, and if I ask him for a hand he totally helps out. The world won't come to an end if there are crumbs on the floor and a bit of laundry to be folded. I do what I can, here and there, but with contrax every half hour and this naty groin pain (like aliens chewing the inside of my thigh) everytime I walk or stand or lift my right leg, I refuse push myself. I figure this... with labor day so soon, is a super clean house vs a bit of a mess worth being all worn out?

So if you wanna relax, realx, and dont' feel guilty!!! :Hug

Oh, and tell your sister to do her own &%$# laundry!!!

[AmyGirl28]

Grumble of the day....
Why did I agree to these damn internal exams? I have been having pressure and braxton hicks and guess what... no dialation, no effacement, nada, zip, zero, zilch! Now I'm down in the dumps, wondering if this baby is ever going to come. Even though I still have two weeks to go. I'm sure a lot of you are in the same boat. Especially willemsmama. So I really don't have any room to grumble. So, I'll stop.

[DreamsInDigital]

My grumble of the day is that I'm still effing pregnant and everyone is calling and emailing asking if I've had the baby yet.
ARGH!

[MamaFern]

My grumble of the day is that I'm still effing pregnant and everyone is calling and emailing asking if I've had the baby yet.
ARGH!

:yeah:

ive had a whole bunch of people call today wondering if i am in labour or feeling anything or had the baby yet.. im not even due till tomorow..or in a few hours now :p but still! its hard enuff to wait..having people call is frustrating. i mean i appreaciate that they care.. but why dont they come over and give me a massage instead?

[flyingspaghettimama]

i mean i appreaciate that they care.. but why dont they come over and give me a massage instead?

Ha. Totally. Wait until you go over! God forbid, of course. I have so many people calling and emailing...it's nice that they care, but I'm feeling some performance anxiety here...

Bensmama, I have the same problem with the Anticlimactic Clock 'O' Birth. I start out totally happy in the morning, sure that today is The Day... by 3, I can't believe nothing's happened yet... and by 5 pm, I'm bummed that another day has passed with no baby; by 10pm I've decided to funnel all of that bummedness into a generalized anxiety. I mean, why else would a person be looking up postdate problems on google at 10:30? My husband is threatening to take away my computer. It seems wise, as a hypochondriac's best friend really is the Internet. Then, around 3 am I wake up and feel a new wave of bummedness, as my MW said many women go into labor in the middle of the night, at around 3 am or so. But not me...and then we start afresh the next morning.

[willemsmamma]

I am so achy, my belly weighs 54 lbs, my back aches, I am emotional, I cant think straight enough to even cook dinner, I loose patience with DS, my pets bug the heck out of me and poor DH is left to pick up the slack. I wish I had some of the energy when he was around. I wish I could make it to 7pm (bedtime) before I become Mommie Dearest to my son. I wish I wasnt so achy at night that I wonder if I'm in labor

Could have written that myself Jenn!! :throb I'm glad we can co-miserate because it really helps to know that I'm NOT the only one. Before I joined this board I really thought that pregnancy was unusually cruel to me but now I realize that most other pregnant women I've known have just kept their complaints to themselves so seem like they just glide through pregnancy unscythed.

I swear if I sneeze, this baby is gonna crown. Every move I make has to literally be planned out and executed just right otherwise I have to cover my mouth so as not to scare ds with yelp/scream of pain. Most positions are uncomfortable, including lying down. My diaphragm is starting to spasm for some reason. All night last night I had the cervical punches that made my pelvic floor feel like a dartboard. My bowels have slowed down and everytime I have to move them I swear I'm going to pass out from the pain.

... and they say I have to do this for HOW MUCH longer???

[samsmamma]

Well, we actually did the deed last night to celebrate DH's bday and all it gave me was HEARTBURN! Awful awful horrible terrible heartburn!

So much for that...

Well, the cheesecake I got him for bday cake was yummy, at least...

[Bex80]

Oh I am *so* glad that I stumbled upon this thread. I have a few things about which to grumble!

1. Dh snored *ALL* night last night, and three of those hours I was having contractions (which petered out and pissed me off even more :irked)

2. Water is now giving me heartburn. Note to self, buy more Tums today...

3. At my MW appt. on Monday, I was full of false hope when I found out I was 2 cm dilated and 50% effaced. MW said she would be suprised if I showed up for my next weekly appointment still pregnant. Bless her heart, she is so sweet, but I just got too hopeful. Plus losing (part of?) my mucous plug that night didn't help.

4. I cleaned the dickens out of my entire house and had it *perfect* on Tuesday. Now the laundry is piling, crumbs are gathering, and stuff is getting cluttered. It would stay nice if I weren't the *only* person trying to keep it that way. I know the important stuff is still *clean* clean, like the bathrooms, kitchen, nursery, bedrooms-but the common areas really get to me.

5. I had to take the garbage to the curb AGAIN this morning. This is a mjor grumble for me because dh professes that he is really going to do a lot when Abigail gets here, but I guess I don't get any help while I'm 39 weeks prgnant?

I think that's it. I feel better now. :D

[PicnicBear]

I hear all you mamas -- yesterday was veg out with videos day and it did pass the time, but we can't do that today -- that was kind of a treat to celebrate my due date. Now I need to decide if I am going to go into school today -- it's quite a drive home (2 hours) in Chicago traffic and last Friday totally exhausted me and made me miserable. Plus, I am tired of seeing people there. DH will go I guess -- I don't know. OK, I will post a more coherent grumble later, perhaps. :blah

[BensMom]

. MW said she would be suprised if I showed up for my next weekly appointment still pregnant.

I think all care providers who make statements like this to women in their late 3rd trimester should be tarred and feathered in the public sqaure.

:angry

[MrsMoe]

I think all care providers who make statements like this to women in their late 3rd trimester should be tarred and feathered in the public sqaure.

:angry

I agree :(

[Bex80]

Aw, Jenn :LOL and thanks MrsMoe. :love It definitely put me into a tailspin that I am just now coming out of.

MM, how are you feeling now that you are a day overdue? Is it any harder than the day before your EDD or anything? :hug

:Hugs to all of us!!!

[sarahcecile]

I am about to change my answering machine message to say:

"Hi, you've reached Ben and Sarah at --------

No, we have not had the baby yet. You will be the first to know when we do.

I you have a legitimate reason for calling, please leave a message and if we feel like it we will call you back."

People have been coming out of the woodwork to call and ask if "we've had the baby yet" and "how I am feeling" which is a thinly veiled question that really means, "are you in labor".

No, I have not had the baby yet - I am not even due for almost 2 weeks!!!!!!!!!!! And I feel like I am really really really pregnant and it aint all that much fun and the more times you remind me every day how crappy I feel and how my baby isn't here yet and how I will probably not get to meet the wee bean for 3 or 4 weeks the crabbier I get.

I almost hate to go out in public because of the insensitivity.

Also - why is cleaning a permament condition? We got the house scrubbed for our 37 week visit and that went really well. And now we have to keep it that cleaning. Knowing that everyday from now on could be THE DAY. :nut

Sigh....

Hang in there everyone!!!! We can do it. Thank you for letting me vent!!!

-Sarah

[AmyGirl28]

4. I cleaned the dickens out of my entire house and had it *perfect* on Tuesday. Now the laundry is piling, crumbs are gathering, and stuff is getting cluttered. It would stay nice if I weren't the *only* person trying to keep it that way. I know the important stuff is still *clean* clean, like the bathrooms, kitchen, nursery, bedrooms-but the common areas really get to me.

5. I had to take the garbage to the curb AGAIN this morning. This is a mjor grumble for me because dh professes that he is really going to do a lot when Abigail gets here, but I guess I don't get any help while I'm 39 weeks prgnant?

OMG you read my mind! I am having the SAME issues with the house and DH with the trash. Ugh!

[Bex80]

Amy, isn't it *so* cool to waddle to the curb with the trashcan? Ugh. I feel like the neighbors must be thinking *tsk tsk, poor girl has to take the trash to the curb!* :irked:

Sorry you are in the same boat. :hug

[s_kristina]

I just found out Wednesday evening that I will not have any chance of having a waterbirth WAHHHHHHHH! I have been looking forward to a waterbirth since I found out I was pg. I knew that the hospital here only had one tub versus several where we lived when I got pg, but now the one room with a tub is being used as a freaking waiting room! They are doing some kind of renovatoins of the floor and for some stupid reason thought that the best place for a family waiting room was the one room with a tub in it. The regular rooms aren't anywhere near big enough to bring a birthing tub in to either, I thought about as soon as I found out the tub was out. I am going to have totally change my ideas of what I will have to help me out in labor. I loved being in the tub in early labor with my dd so this is really going to suck. Also having hands so swollen it is hard to type makes it dificult to vent and whine about these things :lol

[SoulJourney]

kristina... :hug I'm so sorry to hear that you won't be able to have a water birth!!! How disappointing to have something like that come up at the last minute! :irked:

I'm going to go ahead and whine a little while I'm here...I've been soooooooooooooooo emotional the past couple of days, I just have NO control over my aqua ducts at all! I cried pretty much all day yesterday for one reason or another. I'm really not used to being this d*mn sensitive!!! My friends always used to tease me about how much of a *boy* I am, and here I am 9 months pregnant and crying at the drop of a hat! I'm just thankful I wasn't an incredibly emotionally sensitive person *before* I was pregnant...God only knows how I'd be now! And I can't get comfortable to save my life. My hips hurt sooooo badly when I try to sleep...arrrgh!
I'm doing whatever I can to get things moving...I walked a bunch this past week, but it doesn't feel like it did anything for me. *sigh*

Ok...that's all I'm going to allow myself to whine! Sorry girls! :down

[Queen of Cups]

Ugh. HUGE fight with DH this morning. Unfortunently with an audience of MIL, my sister, and my parents calling on the phone about three times during it. I wanted to rake the leaves because DH has not done it at all and the grass is all going to die soon because it hasn't seen sun in weeks. Well, everyone freaked out like I was going to literally die or kill the baby if I raked. So, the end conclusion is that I forgo whatever big Christmas present DH had planned for me so we can afford a lawn service to come do the leaves. Sucks to be me, huh? I got a huge guilt trip and cheated out of Christmas because DH was too lazy to rake or mow the lawn this entire month. (He has a chronic back problem that would not be a problem if he did the daily back exercises his dr prescribed, but since he doesn't do them his back is in bad shape and I know he physically cannot spend several hours raking in one day - if he'd done an hour a week for the past month it would have been no problem, but now its too late for that approach.)

[PicnicBear]

hmm-- why doesn't he forgo his X-mas present instead? If you must pay someone, find some neighborhood kids to do it cheap and who will be thrilled to get some cash.

[Bex80]

My thoughts exactly on getting a neighbor child to come and do it. Much cheaper, helps them develop a work ethic, and you still get your Christmas gift!

Maybe I am just greedy, but I would say to forget the leaves and anticipate the gift instead! Unless you guys just paid a lot of money for new grass/sod or something---won't it come back in the spring anyways?

Sorry about the fight mama. That really sucks. :( :hug

On another note, I had to go to church today and have everyone ask me just "when in the world" was I going to "have that baby???" Ugh. At least people have quit openly commenting on my size. ;)

[Belleweather]

I really don't think I can face going into the office tomorrow and having everyone go "Gee, still pregnant, huh?" one more time. I'm SOOOOOO tempted to just call in sick, or not show up and leave them wondering. There's a part of me that wants to tell them I'm in labour and then hide in the house until the baby actually shows up - only because I am not entirely sure that I can go through another day of "So, had that baby yet?" without decking someone.

[flapjack]

I was threatening to make myself a t-shirt that says:
a) Yes, today is my due date. I have a 10% chance of going into labour today, please don't tempt fate by mentioning it.
b) Oops! We made a mistake- it's not a baby, I just ate too much pizza (but it tasted good.)
c) Pillow not included.

Queen of cups, am I missing something? Could your family not have just hung up the phone and come over to help you out? Or are they not local?
I think we should come and crawl about your lawn on our hands and knees, picking the leaves up one-by-one. Fantastic for foetal positioning, if nothing else...

[Queen of Cups]

Queen of cups, am I missing something? Could your family not have just hung up the phone and come over to help you out? Or are they not local?
I think we should come and crawl about your lawn on our hands and knees, picking the leaves up one-by-one. Fantastic for foetal positioning, if nothing else...

Yeah, they live aproximately 15 hours away - they're arriving on Saturday for Thanksgiving and my dad just insisted he'd do it then. My thoughts on that are: what I really need is for my dad to have a tendonitis flare up (chronic wrist promblem since he started training horses at 15 years old), screw up his knee further (torn cartilegde from a motorcycle accident when he was 18), and probably have a heart attack in my front yard (diagnosed with hypertension over 15 years ago) - that would totally help the situation! DH and I did finally talk rationally about it, and we agreed to do about a half hour each every day this week and then pay the next-door neighbor kid to finish up whatever needs to be done after the baby is born...

The ironic thing is that I'm the healthiest person in the entire family! DH has back problems, MIL has lupus and is therefore allergic to sunlight, my sister has epilepsy and her seizures are brought on by fatique/lack of sleep/stress, my dad has the above mentioned problems, FIL has really high cholesterol he refuses to treat and a very stressful job so I'm convinced he's going to have a stroke at a moment's notice ... and they all freaked that I was going to rake leaves! Now that the big fight is over, I can find it amusing...

[*Amy*]

And I can't get comfortable to save my life. My hips hurt sooooo badly when I try to sleep...arrrgh!

Me too. I hate that. I've been sleeping/resting on my back way too much :bag: because it's the only position that doesn't hurt some part of my body.

[SoulJourney]

Yeah...I've suddenly found that the ONLY place I can actually get more than a couple hours of sleep at once is the couch! *sigh* Before moving to the couch I, too, kept finding myself on my back every time I woke up...made me a nervous wreck! What's funny is my mom said that's exactly where she slept through the end of each of her pregnancies b/c no one said not to back then!