getting ready to go into hideing....help

[just-tryin2make-it]

i have 2 children.

[Mackenzie]

I dont have any answers for you....I just couldnot read without offering :hugs.....


I hope you find the answers you need!!

[Mary-Beth]

I don't have any experience of knowledge in this field but write down everything you can about why your child's biological father is not a fit parent. Write down any incidence of violence or instability.

I hope this doesn't sound corny but really do what you know to do. If he's a good man don't deny him the chance to have a relationship with his child. If not, take care of yourself and your children in whatever way you feel right.

I wish you the best!

[just-tryin2make-it]

i would never deny him if he was a good man

[Mary-Beth]

:hug
I don't have any answers for your questions. I hope someone else can respond to you and help you. I'm thinking of you and hoping you can live your life in peace very soon.

[meemee]

i see you have an attorney!! is he unable to answer your questions? how can your ex know when you are changing jobs and finds you the first day. does he follow your car? if u find the answer to that you can perhaps dodge him going to another state. otherwise it seems he will find you.

does he have a lot of money or connections. have you ever thought about contacting domestic violence against women for advice. u do have a dh but at least they should be able to give you some guidance.

your post really scares me. i am trying to think of what precautions u can take to avoid any kind of harm coming to you. ur wording really does scare me. i dont know if contacting the police will do u any good - probably infuriate him more. but i would make sure u let them perhaps note the fears you have. to set up a history.

i wish i could really help you. can you search online what your legal rights are.

[just-tryin2make-it]

i do have an attorney but

[MsChatsAlot]

I think you need to communicate your fears to your lawyer and find out what you can do and what are your rights.

These situations are really tough and I have no idea if he would follow you across the country or not?

I would just hate to have you flee and then be in trouble over it.

[just-tryin2make-it]

that was my fear, and that is why i posted here.

[MsChatsAlot]

I guess you need to follow your heart.

Perhaps you could find an out of town domestic violence number and call them to ask information that way no one local needs to know.

I will send positive energy your way. It sucks that you are being followed and harassed this way and I will wish the best for you and your family.

[lilsishomemade]

I would be documenting everything that is going on. Document the times he drives by on what days and so on. Then, I would start talking to your lawyer about him following you so much. It's one thing to say, "He drives by my work everyday....." and another to say, "On this date, he drove by at this time, this time, and this time. When I left work at this time, he was standing across the street...." and so on. Also, how does he know he's the father? Did you have just a one night fling with him, or did you have a brief relationship, and he knew you were pregnant from the start?

Really, the stalking is bothering me. I know you don't feel like the police do anything, but when you do call and report this, it becomes an official report, that you can use in court or when you want an order of protection. I would consider contacting some type of dv. You don't need to tell them he is the father, just that he was an old fling and now is stalking you. If it comes up that he's trying to prove paternity, I'd tell them that your dp is the dad, and you feel old bf is being malicious, and trying to find another way to hurt you.

[just-tryin2make-it]

it doesnt matter if he thinks

[pranamama]

I hope you and your child remain safe.

[just-tryin2make-it]

ill just get rid of it all