about "anger" replies...thanks

[Abylite]

Hello! I just wanted to say how much your posts about feeling angry after m/c helped me. Thanks Emmaline for a beautiful idea on how to honor my baby. You are all so beautiful.

I've been trying to shift my thinking a little...using "scripts" as suggested. I work in pediatrics...with abused children everyday, so it's a challenge to shift the "Why them and not me?" thinking. But it's true...we don't know what kind of a life people are living.

It's been good for me to feel anger....I usually have a "hard" time with this emotion. Instead, I get "sad" and cry alot.

All in all, I've truly been blessed in my life. Things could have been worse. I'm healthy, I have a beautiful husband and supportive friends in my life. I "know" that a healthy baby is in my future...I just don't know when.

Hearing everyone's stories on this board truly helps me. Love, Abylite xo

[XM]

I can't imagine how hard it must be to work your job after your loss. I am so glad that you are finding some comfort here... I think it's perfectly natural to be angry after a loss, *especially* when you see others around you who don't seem to appreciate the blessing they have.

It's okay to be angry (it is a part of the grieving process), as long as you don't get sucked into it to the point where your healing is stalled. Yes, things could have been worse, and that's wonderful that you are counting your blessings... but it's still okay to have these feelings.

Just because someone else may have a more 'difficult' life does'nt negate your pain regarding your loss. You can't quantify grief.

XM