**Weekly chat Dec 4 - 11**

[Ursula Rose]

Hi all. I can't believe I'm still here. I wake up every morning so thankful, but with a little hesitance. I want this one to stick.

Today we are going up to the mountain to go cross country skiing. Yay and yes no falling for me.

Peace!

[Ary99]

Ursula, I *knew* you would be here this morning. I'm having my own struggles with keeping positive and trying to stick to my own advice. Nothing new to report so I'll assume I still belong here!

[KarmaChameleon]

I'm still here too!

I had lost an early pregnancy years ago so I am cautiously optimistic :thumb

We all know anything can happen at any time, I guess, so it's good to enjoy life day by day :love

[Vick]

I am joining the cautiously optimistic crowd, too. I am also worried but so grateful everytime I remember that I am pregnant! I have a 3 year old so I often forget. I don't have many symptoms yet--just some breast tenderness, fatigue, frequent peeing and an incredible desire to organize and clean the entire house! :blush I just have to convince dh and ds to leave me alone in the house long enough to get something done!

Sending sticky thoughts to everyone!
-Vick

[Robynee]

Wow! It's next week already?(I'm sure I won't be saying that in about 30 weeks when time will have slowed down to a crawl.) Thanks Ursula Rose for starting the weekly thread. I am staying in my pj's all day today. I am so tired and it snowed last night. Perfect day to lounge around and get nothing done. Dh made a huge late breakfast and I'm thinking about ordering out tonight.:zzz

[NaomiLorelie]

I'm nervous about this one for some reason.Maybe I feel like I have had too much good luck pregnancy-wise. Is anyone else already queasy all of the time? I feel l'm on the verge of throwing up practically 24/7.

[tatgurl]

Is anyone else already queasy all of the time?

Yea, me too. I've felt ill since before I found out I was pg. With my other two I didn't feel sick untill week 7 or 8. Hope it doesn't get much worse than this. I don't know if I should not eat, or eat all the time :) (don't want to start gaining weight too soon!)
unfortunately, I didn't find anything to help with the nausea the other times.
Hope everyone is feeling as good as possible.

[peilover010202]

Hello everyone! I'm brand new to the board and so excited to be here! Just found out on Saturday!

Even though we were trying, this pregnancy came as a shock as I started spotting 2dpo and continued until last night when I started p cream. I knew I had low p, but the ob refused to prescribe p for me as he knew I wasn't pregnant with all the spotting. So, he prescribed Clomid for next month. Well, today he prescribed p and ordered a quantitative hcg.

I have been feeling nervous about this pregnancy too. No symptoms to go by, bleeding, etc. But, I felt a sharp stabbing pain in my cervix last night and it made me feel better as it was a feeling I remember when pregnant with ds.

Haven't been to the dr yet, but I think my dd would be 8/16/06!

[nfbmom]

Nausea got worse over the weekend but I realized last night why. My 3yo dd vomited all night and when we got up at 8:30 I found out my 11yo ds vomited all night too. He is diabetic and this is his first illness since diagnosis so I'm really nervous about how this day will play out.

Dh had to clean up after dd because the vomit smell was making me feel soooo sick!

Sorry for the TMI to those that just reading this will make them feel sick.

[Robynee]

:hug nfbmom, I hope everyone is better soon.
Hi peilover010202! Congratulations!

[an_evans]

Feeling pretty good here....I stil can't believe I am pregnant! I am shocked at typing those words still. As long as I am eating every two hours or so I feel fine.

I am a little nervous by the lack of other syptoms but it is still early I guess.

[KarmaChameleon]

I am a little nervous by the lack of other syptoms but it is still early I guess.

I hear ya. I haven't had really any symptoms so far -- nothing that points to pregnancy anyways.

In hindsight, I have been feeling queasy from time to time, I have a lingering headache, I am hungry as hell. But those things could be for other reasons too, so I still have a hrd time believing I really am. For now, it's the lack of period that is tipping me off. Oh, and the :+

I don't have the sore boobs that always screamed pregnancy to me. I am not even THAT tired (just as tired as any mother of two who wacthes 3 other kids all day is!) It's freaking me out.

[Ursula Rose]

I just had a weird experience. I went to my regular twice a month visit to my chinese doc. He said he can tell the gender of the embryo from my chinese pulses. I asked him to tell. He says it is a girl. Wow.

[KarmaChameleon]

I just had a weird experience. I went to my regular twice a month visit to my chinese doc. He said he can tell the gender of the embryo from my chinese pulses. I asked him to tell. He says it is a girl. Wow.


Thats SO awesome. I would love to know what I am carrying -- I want to be connected!

[peilover010202]

I watched House of Babies on Discovery Health last night and it was dedicated to widwife deliveries! Anyway, for fun - the head midwife followed 100 women and predicted their child's gender with the Chinese Birth Chart, she said it was right in 80 of the women. I'm curious now! :)

I also feel you guys on the lack of symptoms. Sure, I'm a bit more hungry - easliy passed off. A bit queasy - dh and ds have been sick. And, that's all - except for being highly emotional. I told dh last Friday night (before the + hpt), that if I wasn't pregnant, I should be with all the crying during silly parts of movies...next days WHAMMMOOO + hpt!

[jenmk]

Hi mamas!

I'm feeling very happy about the pg . . . but have only told 1 person (other than DH, of course). And it's only because they asked. Don't know when we'll tell people. Have you told many people yet?

Happy sticky vibes to us all.

[Ary99]

I have told one close friend. i haven't even told my sister because I asked her not to share with her kids until I was further along last time when I was pregnant. She blabbed and then when we lost the baby, she had to untell her kids. It was a nightmare for me. I'm very glad i had my virtual friends to share with. It makes it easier to keep this to myself.

[KarmaChameleon]

Hello mamas, and welcome jenmk :)

I have told my parents and sisters, in-laws too. A couple friends but not any aquaintances. It's hard not to blab about why I needed to pee 3 times during playgroup or why I ate 3 enchiladas at the literacy fair tonight. I want to tell everyone I meet.

But alas, for once I will keep my big mouth somewhat shut.



But only til New Years.

[nfbmom]

I finally told my kids. They needed to know why I was spending much more time in bed and why I was always saying "ugh, that made me feel sick!" I told my inlaws on Sunday and will tell my parents on Thursday. I got mixed feelings from the kids although the general feeling is that it had better be a boy! LOL After 3 girls in a row, it's understandable! My 11yo just hid his head and wouldn't say much about it but it was also the day he had that stomach bug so I'm not really sure it was related. 13yo is thrilled, same with 8yo. 5yo is excited but I'm not really sure she comprehends it. I know the 3yo doesn't although she comprehends having a baby in the tummy and it coming out because my sil just had a baby a few months ago. In-laws were excited. I was a bit worried because this will be our 6th and we aren't exactly well off but MIL just said I'm certainly a person that could hand another one. I love my inlaws!

It has never bothered me to tell people that I've miscarried. I think that is why I tell people I'm pregnant so early. Of course, the only time I've m/c'd is when I was 16 weeks along. By then, everyone would have known anyway. Plus if I m/c'd I would want my kids to understand what I'm going through and why I'm having a hard time.

My Mom deserves to know because everyone else does and she will eventually know anyway because I see her all the time but I dread telling her. She treats me like glass when I'm pg. After a while it really starts to get on my nerves. She needs to learn to trust me and know that I, more than anyone, cares whether or not this baby is born early and I will do exactly what I know I can do and nothing more.

Sorry, my short rant for the day! LOL My sister lives in CA and has infertility issues. She has two children, 13 and 10 and hasn't used bc since her 10yo was 1. She is coming on the 17th for Xmas so I can't decide if I should wait and tell her in person or if I should just tell her now. I think I'll wait if the family can keep the secret.

[KarmaChameleon]

My 4.5 yo did not handle the news well at all. She bawled for a good 20 minutes. I felt terrible. It was really hard. I think I am ruining her life :nut

My 2 yo doesn't get it, so that's good.

I just feel so bad! The night after that episode, I slept with her and we cuddled all night, and last night I took her out alone for a special mom and daughter outing. I think we are back on track.

[secretresistance]

Happy Wednesday, all!

Things are going quite well in my neck of the woods. I can look out my kitchen window from here and watch the snow falling. All in all, I'm feeling nice and warm and cozy.

My symptoms so far have been mainly along the lines of sore breasts, intense hunger and sleepiness. The tender boobs thing kicked in double time last night, and I'm fine with the sports bra I'm now wearing to become a semi-permanent fixture. It really helps!

No nausea to speak of yet, and I'm keeping my fingers crossed that it stays that way! Last week was full of cramping that had me running to the bathroom every ten minutes, scared to death I was bleeding, but that has slowed down, and I only feel anything if I move too drastically.

Is it too early to be having those vivid pregnancy dreams one always hears about? Maybe it's just that I'm finally getting the proper amount of sleep, [and then some!] but I haven't remembered my dreams this well since I was a teenager. Pretty neat stuff.

It's enlightening to read about who you all have let in on your news. For now, it's just me, DP and a couple of close friends who are in the know. My parents and I aren't exactly close, so the lack of desire to tell them about it is tinged with other...issues. DP's family lives half the country away, so I think we're going to wait until we see them in person, most likely over the upcoming holidays.

[Robynee]

Well, we found out a couple of days before Thanksgiving and just about everyone knew we were trying anyways so I blabbed to both our families on the holiday. My son is ecstatic, he has been asking for a silbing for years now. The only person that I didn't tell is my mother, and I never will. Talk about issues! We do not speak at all. She was very abusive growing up and remained so until I cut all ties. :irked:

[secretresistance]

The only person that I didn't tell is my mother, and I never will. Talk about issues! We do not speak at all. She was very abusive growing up and remained so until I cut all ties. :irked:

:hug

The absent mother thing has been a source of low-level stress for me ever since I realized how much I want to be a parent. I find myself scared of her lack of presence moreso now that I'm going to have my own child. It's unsettling, to say the least, because for the last couple of years I have felt pretty satisfied/resigned to the state of our relationship. Now, I find myself wanting something we never did have, and probably never could have.

Ugh, not the cheery stuff we should be thinking about, but your post touched on some things I had been subconsciously removing from my active thoughts. Wait, that makes no sense...oh dear! :flipped Well, maybe you know what I mean anyway.

[Ursula Rose]

i don't talk to my mother either, but i need to tell her because the world is small. she'll find out from someone else and that would be a triple nightmare hurricaine. i'm thinking i'll send her a bouquet of flowers with that card that says congrats. you're going to be a grandma in august. i'll have to do the same thing with my sister because she doesn't like our relationship so much either. i figure that it's a positive and respectful way to share the news.

[Robynee]

I'm really lucky that I have an "adoptive" family that I am really close to. My mother married her third husband when I was 12 and I am very close to his sister and mother. In fact my "aunt"(who refers to me as her daughter) will be at the birth. She gets to be at two in a row because her daughter is also pregnant and due a month ahead of me. My "cousin" and I are great friends and she has a step-son who is close buds with ds. I think it is so neat that we are pregnant together.

I started counseling when I had ds because I was so afraid that I was going to be like my mother. It really helped to have someone tell me that I was trying to make sense of a situation that just didn't make sense. It is so hard to be a parent and have no clue as to what to do. I started out only knowing what I didn't want to do.

secretresistance- I do know what you mean.

Well, here's to freedom from the emotional baggage that our parents dumped on us, and the ability to break the cycle. :)

[jenmk]

I have been dreaming like crazy!! Really vivid, somewhat strange dreams.

I told my mom today because she asked. Although, since DH doesn't really want us to tell anyone yet, when she asked if I was pg, I replied, "I'm really not a liberty to say." (Previously, when she's asked and I haven't been pg, I've said, "Nope.") She was thrilled, and is anxiously awaiting when we decide to tell everyone. She can't wait to find out!! My mom's great. She's one of my best friends. That's one of the reasons I'd like to have a girl (I have two boys). I'd love to have a chance at having this kind of relationship with my own daughter. (I'd also just like the experience of a girl, since I already know boys.) Men don't tend to be as close with their parents when they grow up (in my observance and experience), but women sometimes are. Although I am hoping to have a strong, healthy, connected relationship with my boys as they grow too.

Having this online group sure does make keeping this a secret easier, though. Doesn't actually feel like I'm keeping it a secret since I'm sharing it with all of you. My thing is that I'm not telling people outright, but if they ask, I'm not going to lie to them. I was hoping maybe we'd spring the news in our holiday cards, but I don't know if DH will want to do it that soon. But what a great way to get the word out . . . and to everyone we know!

[LisaMcB]

Hi, All! I haven't told my parents or my MIL, yet. My parents and I have the worst relationship possible. I am actually going through Neuro-Emotional Technique to deal with all of it. I am not telling them or my brothers until they see me & I can't avoid it.

My niece told me that my MIL had a dream of "fish" which means that someone is pregnant. She's wondering who, but my niece didn't tell her. So, we expect her to call within the next couple of weeks to ask us if we are pregnant.

I did tell my birth mom and she was supportive of the whole thing. We have a pretty good relationship.

I'm feeling good, but nauseus at night more than in the morning. Still nursing my 28 month old so no breast tenderness at all.

Sticky vibes to everyone!

Blessings~
Lisa

[KarmaChameleon]

So sorry to all of you who have crappy realtionships with your moms :( :hugs:


I bought a couple pairs of pants last night at Tar-Jay in bigger sizes so I can have baggy clothes to wear. I couldn't resist -- $6 each. I need some loose stuff for when the waistline starts to expand. With my last pregnancy, I could wear my regular linen pants til the end, they just fell below the belly (for whatever reason I never got as big as I did with my first) -- and of course i had to trash them after she was born. ;)


I am thankful for this forum, too. It helps me to keep my big mouth shut IRL. :blah

[Glittergal]

well, I'm getting totally paranoid at my utter lack of symptoms. Although last night, I did fall asleep at 630 with DD and stayed in bed until today. I probably have to chalk that up to working m,t,w, which I typically never do. I still think it's odd my breasts aren't sore. DD is nursing NON-STOP. All the moms I knew who nursed in the first trimester have always been in agony. Could the nursing help decrease sensitivity, in some moms? Who knows. My clothes are all fitting but I've noticed I'm craving salt. I'm trying to fulfill that with cheeze-its, rather than the doritos of my previous pregnancy. LOL.
I do feel bloated though and most my work pants are form fitting, so I'm not really too keen on wearing them. I hate this time, too small for maternity clothes and don't really want to spend money on regular clothes.

[Ary99]

What an interesting crew we have here. I too have mother issues, lol. She's lucky my sister and I talk to her after what she's put us through. She was also an abusive parent, but I've had years of therapy and I mostly just pity her now.

My symptoms seem to come an go which drives me nuts. I've thought about having another beta, but I could get great results then be convinced the next morning it had all fallen apart. So, I wait.

[Ursula Rose]

I woke up at 5am this morning convinced I was going to get my period. Why? Total utter disbelief.

Now I'm not one who is into affirmations, BUT there is one in Peggy O'Mara's book that seems to resonate with me every once in a while -- My baby is developing as he or she should.

Ho hum.