okay i will scream if one more person tells me

[spiralmg]

okay i will SCREAM if one more person tells me that they are just so "glad" and relieved that i am not doing a homebirth anymore. today it was my osteopath, yesterday it was my father, i'm waiting for my loving aunt to weigh in. okay people, i KNOW you all think i will be much better off in the hospital. i know that already. you don't need to keep telling me.

Sheesh. I feel bad enough that I have to eat crow on this one, but to keep getting it back. Either tell me you're so sorry or just be quiet.

Okay, rant over. :irked: :nono :bang :cuss

[kofduke]

It's so hard when we are mourning something and others are celebrating our loss. Everyone here is wishing you a beautiful, respectful birth.

[judybean]

Just like Kristin said.

I'm really sorry people are telling you that. That would be like having to scheduled a cesarean (for whatever medical reason) for me and then having people tell me, "At least you know when the baby is coming.." etc. No. It's not what I would want.

I'm sorry you're not going to have the birth you had planned. And I'm sorry people aren't supporting you through this. But I know you will make the best of what you've been given. :hug

[StarCat]

people suck. I know they think they are being helpful but duh...how insensitive.

[coloradoalice]

I totally understand. When I had a c/s everyone said "well, at least you have a healthy baby!" I know that it's good to focus on the positive, but it's ok to mourn a loss!! Our society isn't really into that though!. Well, I want you to know that I am sorry for your loss of a homebirth, and I wish you well in your new birthing space.

:dust

:hug

[DesireeH]

Ugh, people do suck! :( I'm sorry! We are all rooting for you here to have the best birth experience! :hug

[aisraeltax]

sorry for your loss...i hope you do get to experience some of the things you wanted.
good luck, rach

[rapscallions]

rant on mama, tell them how you feel. we here will never treat you thusly and we are also sad on your behalf. here's to gearing up for the best damn experience you CAN have under the circumstances.

[spiralmg]

As predicted, the aunt finally checked in with a perky "Good Decision!". Yeah right. Then after that the midwife called and said that they are having a special conference about me with their consulting doctor (who although I have not yet met him yet, seems to be an alright guy, he used to back up the local dr. homebirth service).

So, not only am I NOT having a homebirth, I seem to be freaking everyone out about my health condition. Frankly, despite having elevated thyroid levels AND the flu, and um, being by the way NINE MONTHS PREGNANT (which, did I mention makes me tired, achy and cranky - but isn't that normal, people?!?!) I feel pretty darn good. Today I went for a walk (slowly) in 14 degree weather and lived to tell about it.

But then just to tick me off a bit more ... my mother on the phone today started going on about "well DS is sleeping in his own bed now, right?" No, dear Mother, he is not. Why do you ask me that? You know he is sleeping with us. :irked:

And to make it worse, she then starts blithely chatting about the dog she is dogsitting - the reason she "can't" come right after the birth - and how she rented a car for my father to use while he is visiting my brother - the other reason she can't come right away. I changed the subject and told her we bought our cat a new bed. :lol

It is as if suddenly everyone feels like they have the right to tell me what to do about everything - just because I was wrong about thinking that I could have a homebirth.

Can you tell I am feeling rather sensitive? :blush

[Spark]

Arg! Oh, Spiral, I'm so sorry! It sounds so frustrating and hurtful! :hug

[IncaMama]

i don't think it sounds like you're being sensitive at all, actually. i think it sounds like you're surrounded by morons and meanies. :( i'm sorry...:hug

[StarCat]

You weren't wrong about thinking you could have a homebirth. Your circumstances changed from the beginning to the end and it is no longer looking like a home birth is the best option for you for this pregnancy. That is a HUGE difference and they need to see that.

[xmasbaby7]

We understand how devestated and frustrated you must feel. The loss is real to us.

I do hope you feel better and that the birth you have turns out to be one that gives you peace.

You deserve it!