Unable to deal with any stress or cope with life at all

[charmcitymama]

I am SO edgy and unreasonable and crying jags go on forever. How can this be fixed?

[CajunMama]

I know I sound like broken record, but eat more protein. I get really bad crying jags when I haven't eaten well enough. I feel mountains better after a GOOD meal.

It may also be that you aren't eating often enough. When my blood sugar drops and I'm tired, I can't handle a hangnail. I totally freak out and cry and yell and scream. Then I eat a snack and miraculously all is better.

Either that or I'm suffering from pregnancy induced bi-polar disorder. :lol

:hug:

[Noah's mommy]

I wish I had an answer for you but I don't just-just some hugs and sympathy. I think many of us have been feeling that way off and on lately. For me, I feel like I am trying to do too much at once when in my heart I just want to be getting ready for this baby. The holidays, work, toddler, and husband all require too much of me right now. That stresses me out and makes everything seem overwhelming. I don't know the right answer, but know you aren't alone. Hugs.

[charmcitymama]

thanks. i especially hate it when I have this fed up feeling around my 2 year old. i don't want to be mean or short with her, but, she requires a lot of patience that i don't have.

[CajunMama]

:hug: I know that I feel like a terrible mother most of the time, I have been turning on Nemo or something like it when I just can't do it anymore. Yesterday, I had the "runs" from an antibiotic that I'm taking, and DS wanted lots of my attention yesterday. He wanted me to hold him, and I can't really walk around carrying him anymore since he weighs almost 30lbs. I was sitting on the toilet with him on my lap and we were both crying. He, because he wanted more of me, and I, because I was physically unable to give him what he needed. :(

Broke my heart. But I know that this is temporary and that if I don't take good care off myself, that I will be an even worse mother. Dh keeps reminding me that I'm doing a very inportant job- making healthy babies. And it is hard work!

Count to ten when your 2yo is about to drive you postal, or think about whether what he is doing is really annoying, or just annoying to YOU. I know that I catch myself correcting him for doing things that aren't wrong- they just really get on my nerves. Once I see that for some reason I'm able to let me be.

[PGNPORTLAND]

just kidding. you probably can't do that cause you have another child. Since this is my first, my partner and I decided just to get a tree and have a nice meal together and not worry about presents and all. Can you try to take a walk everyday. I really find that helps. even just a short one.

[Boobiemama]

I feel the same. I am irritated with everyone, depressed, pissed off.. everything bugs me.
I assume delivery will cure it and till then I just hope I can make it.....

[Dreaming]

I'm at home (avoiding any potential annoying people) almost all the time. A friend called the other day and I still haven't called her back because just thinking about her annoys me. :(

I try to make sure I get time for myself everyday so I don't feel to crappy. When DD takes a nap, I do fun things instead of housework. I have also been asking DH for more help.
You know, it's also good to cry IMO. Great way to release stress. Don't hold back. Nothing wrong with telling the Universe you need some assistance as well (always works for me).
:hug

[Honeybee'smama]

I am in a similar space these days-depressed, tired, stressed, grumpy, and impatient. I am hoping being done with school will help, but I know it is not the only cause. It makes me sad for dd because my mood is not really fair to her. Thanks folks who had suggestions! I know it will pass, but it stinks to feel this way in the mean time.

[PGNPORTLAND]

hey I know "cry it out" is bad for babies but I think it's great for us! I had a good cry it out session yesterday in fact. I started crying for a very stupid reason and then I got in the bathtub and told DH that there was nothing really wrong with me and to leave me alone. Then I just cried and cried. Then I went into the living room, watched "law and order" and went to sleep. Today I feel much better :thumb

[EllasMama]

I've been having the same thing. It sucks!

I don't know if you take any medications, but my practicioner said that antidepressants lose their efficiency in the last trimester because often the pregnant mama's metabolism speeds up. So it can take a little higher dose to achieve the same result you were getting previously.

My sleep had gotten way off schedule so I worked out a plan with DH to help ensure I sleep better. I go to bed at 10 and get up at 7:30. DH sleeps in the guest room so A) I don't have to lie there listening to his awful snoring, and B) he can attend to DD without me being disturbed as much (guest room is by her room...though unfortunately even with his door open and mine closed, he can sleep through DD's cries better than I can. :irked:

My cervical prolapse actually has had one positive effect: I have been able to not feel bad about asking DH to do more. I no longer get DD ready for bed, cook dinner, or carry heavy things. I've really cut back on everything and it feels (mostly) great. Cervical prolapse aside, I was really trying to do more than my body wanted to (at this point in pregnancy, two errands in one day feels like too much to me!). I wish I had more energy and stamina, but if I don't, well, then I don't. I stopped beating myself up over it.

The other thing I recently did was cutting out most sugar and non-whole grain products. I kept having panic attacks and noticed they seemed to be related to how much sugar and white grains I'd eaten. I miss my cheesecake immensely, but oh well. Panic attacks aren't worth it.

With the decreased sugar and increased sleep, I am feeling better. Not rational, or even un-hysterical, but better!! :nut

Carol

[charmcitymama]

Carol, I am glad that you found a few things to make things easier for you. It's just common sense, but, sometimes it takes a lot of suffering to start taking care of ourselves. I used to be on a no sugar/flour diet and it was amazing. That is my ideal diet, and I feel I am so far from it.
That is interesting about the a.d. not being as effective in the 3rd trimester. I actually just made an appt. with a psychiatrist (long overdue). It's not until January, but, I'm glad I have the appt.

[be11ydancer]

I know I sound like broken record, but eat more protein. I get really bad crying jags when I haven't eaten well enough. I feel mountains better after a GOOD meal.

It may also be that you aren't eating often enough. When my blood sugar drops and I'm tired, I can't handle a hangnail. I totally freak out and cry and yell and scream. Then I eat a snack and miraculously all is better.

Either that or I'm suffering from pregnancy induced bi-polar disorder. :lol

:hug:

Yeah, I second all of that. I'm loving my prenatal vitamins. If I miss a day, I'm a wreck. Protein is amazing. I also get really tired and ornary if I haven't gotten much iron, either.