Gift Ideas for someone TTC? X-post

[Ell-Bell]

Hi All,
I posted this in the TTC board, but got only one reply. Thought I would try my luck over here!

The in-laws all drew names this year for Hannukah, and I got my step-cousing-in-law, who is TTC.

I don't know how actively she is trying. She is fairly mainstream, and not really crunchy at all. I really don't know her that well, so will be getting her a regular gift to give to her in front of the family, but I thought it would be nice in private to give her a TTC care package. Any ideas of what I could include? Anything that helped you? So far I have:

Taking Charge of your Fertility
The Thinking Womans Guide to a Better Birth
Fertilitea
maybe Green Tea, for EWCM?
A container with glitter for "baby dust"

Any other ideas of little things I could add?

[RedOakMomma]

To encourage her to use TCOYF, you could copy some of the charts for her and give her a digital thermometer.

This sounds like advertising ( :D ), but you could also get her a subscription to an AP magazine (like, um, I dunno, Mothering? :wink )... I think AP parenting is best encouraged before the actual pregnancy begins, when people are still new to the parenting idea and forming their own beliefs. If Mothering isn't mainstream enough for her, then a Dr. Sears book (The Pregnancy Book) is a good way to creep in to attachment parenting without seeming too "unusual." It's a great way to encourage baby wearing, co-sleeping, and all the other goodies we love around here. :love

You're so thoughtful to be doing all this for her! :thumb

[Hollycrand]

As someone who spent months and months TTCing, I can only say that while the idea is good, I would try not to put so much attention on her TTCing status.
I'd give her some nice aromatherapy oils, bath oils, or even a gift certificate to get a massage (or shiatsu, acupuncture, ayuverda, etc. if she'd be into that).

When I was TTcing, I hated people drawing attention to the fact that we weren't successful in getting pregnant. I hated the questions, the comments 'just relax, it'll happen when it's supposed to happen'...all of these things did nothing for my frustrated feelings.

I think it's more important for you to be there as a friend and help her think about other things at the moment. I also hope you'll be giving her a pregnancy 'care package' in no time.