Anyone else incredibly irritable and moody?

[Heavenly]

Well my health has been a lot better thank God even though I am still anemic (hemoglobin levels haven't moved yet). No more dizzy spells so it probably was an inner ear problem like the ER doctor thought. I am just so bloody grouchy and irritable and everything and everybody is pissing me off! My whole body aches, my back, my pubic area, everything. I don't want anyone to touch me and that includes my kids most of the time which obviously I can't do so I get really irritable. I am finding myself yelling at them so much and letting them watch ALOT of tv. I don't have the energy to haul my big ole pregnant butt out of the house when there is snow because just getting them both in snowsuits and boots takes 20 minutes and by the time I am done that I am exhausted and ready to go sit down. But I still keep going to playgroups occasionally because I don't want them to go insane! I am just so irritable and grouchy. I feel like such a horrible person being mad at everybody but its like I just want everyone to go away and let me sit around and daydream about the baby and rest. Yeah right! With a 3 yr old and 5 yr old that is NEVER going to happen. It seems that nature intended us to have some time to focus and regroup close to birth because that is just all I want to do. Of course people are supposed to live in tribes and have help with their kids not be trapped in the house with them for 11 hours a day...but I digress. Anyways is anyone else feeling this way? :irked: :angry :nut

[charmcitymama]

Oh, yes....very much so. Getting in and out of the house is such a PITA, I can hardly deal. And everything else you said.

[EllasMama]

Yup. I keep coming across books mentioning how this is totally normal. That makes me feel better, but I just wish it were on a required reading list for all family members and friends so we could get the help we REALLY need without being looked at like something's totally wrong with us!

Carol

[Honeybee'smama]

Heavenly, I could have written your post, well minus the snow stuff, but all the other stuff is totally where I am at these days! Glad to hear you are at least feeling better health wise.

At least it sounds like it is normal, from the books Ella'sMama is reading and the numebr of us feeling so moody. Somehow knowing something is normal always makes me feel better, as though somehow it is more justified.

I just wish I could dh to understand that I need a little more help and support. With dd the third trimester was fairly easy so I think he doesn't get that this time is different, which of course adds to my frustration.

[Boobiemama]

Yep, you sound just like me, including the snow part....

[aguacates]

Yep, you sound just like me, including the snow part....

Me too.....

Although this week I started feeling horribly guilty, so I went to three (!) different playgroups and planned craft projects every day. :shrug. And now my pubic bone is killing me and I feel the need to overcompensate again by being crabby and generally unapproachable.

Shawna, glad to hear you are feeling better. My mom has inner ear issues, and gets random attacks that sounded a lot like what you were going through, and it is really rough. I can't imagine it with a 3 and 5 yr old. :hugs

[My Three Boys]

Yes! This is me right now. I tend to have a type-A personality (read: obsessive) to begin with, but that combined with third trimester pregnancy - WATCH OUT!! My kids have been bugging the heck out of me. Dh is ADD, so he doesn't even realize what he's not helping out with around the house. Usually I make lists for him, but sometimes I just want to have a dh who can remember ONE stinkin' thing!! I'm so sick of sounding like a nag and a police officer with my kids I could scream!! My middle son told me that he thinks his life would be better without a mother. He said this when he was perfectly calm - not in the heat of the moment. I knew he didn't mean it, but I absolutely lost it, I was so hurt. Anyway, it's great to know I'm not alone.

[boycrazy]

AWwwww guys! We will be done soon! Lets just stay home for the next 8 weeks!

I.....have.....no ......motivation.....:innocent

[damyen's mommy]

:yeah: :grouphug All of it. ME TOO!!! Except I can't bring myself to take ds out of the house in like five days so he is getting very stir crazy. So today I get to be fun mommy to the best of my ability. :bouncy

[boycrazy]

Ok guys me house is clean (I have so lowered my standards in the last 7 years!!!) and decorated and my kids are staying at my parents...time for the annual progressive dinner!!! Yay! We get to hang out with our old neighbors shoot the s*** and eat yummy foor. Letting you know in advance....I will be cheating some on the old GD diet tonight!!!! I am hosting soup. It will be like an actual date with my husband! :flipped Almost died getting everything done but It now is what it is and I am outta here!

[mommystinch]

I am so with all of you! I feel like crying (and I do sometimes) because I hate who I am right now, and can't stand how I'm treating my 2.5 year old. I feel like I can't get anything done, and every little thing makes me break down completely. I am angry all the time. I go to bed angry and frustrated because I am so tired, and although I try to go to bed early, dd wants to come with me and nurse for an hour. Argh! I just want to sleep, and I can't with her nursing... so I get so mean to her. Then between waking to pee and waking to her crying, I wake up tired and in a bad mood... It's like there's no end to the horrible cycle. On top of that, I've never been a morning person. Any noise gives me a headache, and I can't stand talking to people. Well, she starts before 6am both mornings and never stops. I can't believe I feel so much anger and resentment towards my little girl. I'm just terrified that I will not regain myself before baby comes and I'll just be stuck on a downward spiral.

boycrazy... that progressive dinner sounds like so much fun... I wish we had a neighborhood that actually did things :) I hope it's great!

[boycrazy]

mommystinch- it is hard being sleep deprived!! I have been using my night wakings to help my 7yo stay dry all night. He is finally ready and hey I'm up so when I pee I take him too! :lol Kill two birds with one stone. :wink

The party was fun and I ate cheesecake!!!! :drool Good friends are hard to find. These are all from our OLD neighborhood. Wanna live through me?

Appetizers: cheese ball with crackers
bread and spinach dip on top with a few red peppers for color.
chocolate
many drinks(I had water :wink )

Soup: wild rice chicken or potato bacon with yummy rolls

Main dish: Cajun Jambalaya with big pasta. HOT!

Dessert: Cheesecake with chocolate and raspberry sauce. Hot drinks.(I had decaf hazelnut coffee with a little milk. )
I did NOT check my blood sugar that night after supper!

[~lioneyes~]

Yep, me too. I have just been getting more like this the past week or so. Poor dh, he was just saying how I am an exceptional pregnant woman. How everybody always says their wives are horrible during pg, and I haven't been. He spoke to soon! I have also been getting more weepy, which I haven't been so far. Like someone else said...it's almost over. Then we can be grumpy because of sleep deprivation!!! :lol

[mommystinch]

mommystinch- it is hard being sleep deprived!! I have been using my night wakings to help my 7yo stay dry all night. He is finally ready and hey I'm up so when I pee I take him too! :lol Kill two birds with one stone. :wink

The party was fun and I ate cheesecake!!!! :drool Good friends are hard to find. These are all from our OLD neighborhood. Wanna live through me?

Appetizers: cheese ball with crackers
bread and spinach dip on top with a few red peppers for color.
chocolate
many drinks(I had water :wink )

Soup: wild rice chicken or potato bacon with yummy rolls

Main dish: Cajun Jambalaya with big pasta. HOT!

Dessert: Cheesecake with chocolate and raspberry sauce. Hot drinks.(I had decaf hazelnut coffee with a little milk. )
I did NOT check my blood sugar that night after supper!


Sounds like you had a great time and a full belly :) Thanks for sharing :)

[Boobiemama]

mommystinch, did you get in my head? what I would have typed almost word for word. It sucks the way I am feeling. The thing is, I dont feel bad physically, just mentally. I cant stand my kids most of the time. I just want to crawl in ahole and everyone leave me alone.

So does anyone know of any natural modd enhancers I can take when preggo? I know EPO is supposed to be good, but can I take it now? I am 32 weeks.

[charmcitymama]

Angie,
My midwive is always having me take B-Complex 50 or 100. I think it helps a little when I remember to take them at all. :(

[Boobiemama]

I do have a bottle of b complex in the cupboard... I'll try that.

[EllasMama]

I personally think it's a little early for EPO, though I'm not getting that from a book. I read several mood suggestions in Aviva Romm and Susun Weed's books ("Wise Woman Herbal for the Childbearing Year" by Weed and "The Natural Pregnancy Book" by Romm), including: raspberry leaf infusion wiht spearmint or peppermint (so Pregnancy Tea would work), skullcap (5-15 drops fresh herb tincture before bed for restful sleep or a couple times a day for general use), Bach Rescue Remedy, dandelion root, and valerian (10-20 drops tincture up to 3 times daily). Valerian tincture is pretty nasty tasting, just as a warning. Another one mentioned is motherwort, but it's an emmenagogue, so don't use if you have history of m/c or any bleeding. It can be used in small doses (no more than 15-20 drops) occasionally, "not to exceed a few doses a week unless directed by a midwife or herbalist." Don't exceed three doses daily, and don't use for long b/c it can be psychologically habit-forming.

Non-herbal suggestions are rest, exercise, meditation, affirmations, and good protein and water intake. Susun Weed recommends "indulgence" as an important coping mechanism...time to relax, time to be creative, etc. Love that! Along those lines, I would add massage to the list. :)

Carol

[bellalunalovebunny]

Yes I am such a huge grump. :irked: My husband and kids have been very understanding and know to just ignore my complaining and grumpiness. I am absolutely fed up with my cat. I just can't stand to be around him.

I am so uncomfortable and constantly have some sort of pain. Ugh and the contractions are the worst. Last night i was having them every minute for a while and Chris got antsy and called my midwife. Everyday i just keep telling myself that i only have to make it to bedtime. lol Then i can sleep and ignore a lot of the baby kicking the doo out of me or contractions.

I had horrible insomnia for a month due to restless legs so i finally broke down and went to see a GP. She prescribed ambien which helped so much. Then my midwife tested my blood and called to let me know that i'm anemic. So now i have to take an iron supplement, which has led to some lovely "side effects" :wink

I saw her again today and she said i look a lot better. I was very pale and just looked sick and worn out. Even my oldest noticed. The next 9 weeks cannot pass fast enough. I am so anxious to meet this little guy that has wreaked such havoc on me. :love