I am so angry at MIL

[DesireeH]

UGH. I am so irritated.

She emails "for info" again......which is fine....tells me she got a cancer mole removed so I email her back that I'm glad it was negative in the surrounding tissue and all that and then I tell her what happened to Jevin yesterday and then at the end I put a quick blurb about the midwife appt.

She emails back JUST this:

"Everyone keeps calling me and asking whether you have had the baby, but I
keep telling them I don't know anything more than they do."

She doesnt acknowledge ANYTHING at all that I said about Jevin. NOTHING. Her freakin only grandchild. I am so mad. I emailed this back:

"Yeah, we dont know anything about when she is coming either, if we had a
crystal ball we'd share that information. I email about Jevin and no
one cares, all they care about is the new baby. Sad."

:mischief :mischief :mischief :mischief :mischief :mischief :mischief :mischief :mischief :mischief

[mlec]

I'm not in your club, but I totally relate to MIL irritation. Sorry about your bigger little one getting ignored. I worry about this happening w/ us, too.

[DesireeH]

Aww, that sucks you can relate! :hug

Yeah, they never cared about him in the first place. They are just nosy and only want info about pregnancy and birth. It's so creepy. Like once they are born they are non-existant?! I swear they just want to pass on the info FIRST and that is the ONLY reason they even ask cause really they couldnt care less.

[beachcomber]

Ouch. Sorry to hear your mother-in-law is a bit of a dork when it comes to Jevin. Sometimes folks get over-focussed on the new arrival and forget that there are already little ones to be proud of and connected to. Like you said, it sounds like a case of her wanting to be first with the information.

[MamaTaraX]

:( {hugs} I'm sorry, that's really crummy of her! Heck, I would have asked about Jevin first!! People get so wrapped up in a new baby coming that they sometimes forget the kids we already have, I noticed :(

Namaste, Tara

[Thursday Girl]

sorry to hear about stupid MIL. some people i swear

yeah i have to say i am a little worried about how people will act with jewely once the new one is born, i don't want her lost in the excitement. i think my sisters and mom will be good about it though. they just adore Jewely so much, and at the baby shower they got jewely a present too so she wouldn't feel left out.

courtney

[DesireeH]

:hug back to you guys too!

Yeah, the thing is she has NEVER cared about Jevin. Not ever. Only wanted to be first to know when he was born and was mad that I wouldnt let her come down for his birth (they live 2 states away and no way in heck she would have been in the room anyways.) After he was born she would say negative comments about him looking like my side of the family and nothing like theirs. Um yeah, we really control who are kids take after! Sheesh! I certainly hope thier nasty attitude is not a dominant trait! LOL

Dh even thinks they are rude and crazy and that is his parents! LOL

[beachcomber]

Oh, she sounds like a real piece of work, hey?

Reminds me of my mom. My mom is a bit on the crazy side, alcoholic for a few decades with a warped mind because of it. She moved from England to my sister's town in the BC Interior to "spend more time with her grandsons". Well, turns out kids are too noisy and time-consuming. She hasn't seen them or spoken to them in almost a year. Sad, hey? My sister's less upset than you'd think given the complexity of explaining alcoholism to a 10 and 5 year old.

[DesireeH]

Courtney, same thing with my parents. Jevin is their world. Yesterday even though they were both out of town, they kept calling my cell to make sure he was allright. They called later that night too to get an update and make sure he was still better. They also got him stuff for the baby shower so he didnt feel left out. They usually take him one weekend day and it's the entire day dedicated to him and entertaining him and doing fun stuff with him. It's just that they care, yk?

[DesireeH]

Well, turns out kids are too noisy and time-consuming. She hasn't seen them or spoken to them in almost a year. Sad, hey?

Aww, that is really sad! :(

[aisraeltax]

i guess im just feeling grumpy today, but if i were you, i would make sure she ISNT the first to know!!! she will complain no matter what and i just cant stand ppl like that.
sorry you have to deal w/ that, but good for you on teh reply email.
wonder what her reply will be..........

rach

[DesireeH]

Ya I know, I told dh I want to mail an announcement and call everyone else we know up there right away. HAHAHAHAHAHAHA