Older sibling adjustment?

[mariposita]

How are all of your older children adjusting to the new baby? Carter is only moderately interested in Reed - he mostly just leaves him alone. We have had a few regressive-type behaviors like nighttime potty accidents and some tantrums, but for the most part, things are going okay. Howare your other children responding?

[aisraeltax]

the 15 yo is mildly curious...not much more. the 7 yo is very curious and we joke that we need to tie rubber tires around him (he is super active and i get so scared he's going to hurt Ethan). the 7yo is definitely the one i have to worry about, both b/c of his interest and b/c of his clumsiness...but its nice that he's interested, unlike the older guy.

[IncaMama]

rowan's fantastic with her...very attentive...he does get very anxious when she cries though. he's a super-sensitive guy - always has been...so it really bothers him to hear her cry. :( he loves nursing with her...he's been having some crying jags over non-related things, but i think it's his way of getting some positive attention from us (cuddles and snuggles). can't blame him...overall i'm so happy with how he's been with her! :)

[hunnybumm]

Tristan is VERY into Caden. He won't leave him alone. He wants to kiss him every 5 seconds and I literally have to tell him "Ok, give him and kiss and back away." or he will just keep kissing him over and over. Caden, of course, hates it, and Tristan isn't very gentle (he is such a boy) though he tries to be. Tristan also is really good at playing and not paying attention to Caden... until he falls asleep. And of course he HAS to give him a kiss, which wakes Caden up. It can be so frustrating!

There have been a couple of agressive incidents, though nothing major. He has hit Caden once and head butted him once, both very much on purpose. But he did appoligize to Caden, and I think he felt bad.

All in all I expected more acting out, more aggression twords Caden and that sort of thing, but things are rather smooth thus far.

Oh, and Tristan really hates to hear Caden cry. He says "oh no!" and makes a sad face. If I don't go to Caden right away he gets upset. When Caden gets really pissed off and screams really loud (that boy can scream) Tristan really freaks and gets upset, luckily it doesn't happen very often.

[Emmy142]

It varies. He loves to play with her, bring us diapers, hug her and kiss her and then mostly he ignores her. Sometimes, being 2 1/2. he gets a little bit too interested in her. As in yesterday when he found a large candlestick in the basement and he came upstairs and was trying to give it to her. Ugh. That could've ended very badly.

[Emmy142]

Oh I meant to add he is very funny with us though. He gets times during the day when he just completely acts out. The other day I was walking up the stairs with a huge laundry basket from the basement and he slammed the door in my face, literally in my face. When I opened the door, I asked him why he did it and he just laughed. Now he has done it more then a few times. I'm not sure what to do. He is not lacking for attention. I think he is just not sure how is world has changed and is testing us to see how we react.

I can't say how many times I've repeated patience over and over and over and over again to myself.

[amygoforth]

Evan merely acknowledges Drew's existance once or twice a day. Other than that, it's business as usual. He had a couple of weeks where he was more emotional than usual -- more tantrums, hitting us, throwing toys, etc. But that has passed. THANKFULLY! Now, as he goes about his daily routine, he'll occasionally ask about Drew. He's so cute about it too -- "Where's Drew Owen? What's Drew Owen doing?" Evan is the only one who calls Drew by his first and middle name. I have no clue why.

Once Drew starts interacting with us more, I think Evan will come around want to play with him more.

[amis2girls]

They love love love her. :throb

If she has one eye open she needs a toy shaken in her face. *sigh*

[allnaturalmama]

They love love love her. :throb

If she has one eye open she needs a toy shaken in her face. *sigh*


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[Panthira]

Owen, my 2 yr old, has been excellent with the baby. We really tried to prepare him ahead of time, and we tried not to change our routine with him after the baby was born. I still call him my baby and he says Greyson is his baby. He sometimes asks to hold Greyson and I let him do that with supervision. When the baby fusses, he'll tell me to "feed the baby booby," and when DH has him in the pouch or wrap and Owen can't see the baby, he'll ask, "Where did the baby go?"

My 14 yr old DD is wonderful and wants to hold the baby because he's so calm. She's very close to my 2 yr old, but she couldn't hold him much when he was a baby because of the terrible fussing he did for the first few months. Greyson will actually sleep in her arms.

My 14 yr old DS is very jealous of his younger siblings and wants nothing to do with them. He's special needs (severe cerebral palsy from premature birth) and doesn't live at home anymore. When we visit him and I show any affection toward the younger ones, he gets very angry, otherwise he pretends they don't exist.