Suggestions?! VBA2C

[MaryLang]

I just got back from my appointment with my doc, and he is all for going ahead with a VBAC. He let me know that it of course has risks, and there aren't many statistics about VBA2C with kids being so close. But he agrees that my last doctor did really let me labor. And he says I have a greater chance VBACing this time over having a repeat and spacing the next one further and attempting a VBA3C. So he says he'll give me lots of time and I know he has mentioned the foley way of inducing in the past with VBACs. He says if I feel confident and if we pray on it, and make a good decision it should pan out. I know this dosen't sound super great but compared to my last VbAC attempt this is AWESOME! And I just know I can do it this time. I know I shouldn't feel "full steam ahead" happy because I had planned a VBAC before but I just feel better this time. So should I really read up on this, this time? Should I just not think about it too much? Just go with the flow? Or jump into all kinds of info? Also he said he's had most VBAC luck with the not really pushing method, just letting the baby come on its own.

[Stayathomemommy]

FULL STEAM AHEAD!!!

You will probably be disappionted if you have another c-section so why not let yourself hope for the best this time. Get into it, plan on a vbac, read and educate yourself on every possibility. YOU CAN DO THIS!

sounds like you have a good, supportive Dr too.

[MaryLang]

Thank you so much for the encouragement, I really need it too. Ok, this is OT an little, my dh is very supportive, but everybody else thinks I'm being stupid, "just schedule the section!". I just talked to my mom ( I know, maybe I shouldn't talk about it to her) she is pretend supportive, I can tell she dosen't understand, but will go along with it for the sake of not hurting my feelings. Well, this morning I had a talk with her and explained that this time, I'm going to ask a friend to be back up in taking the kids in case my mom can't do it, my mom is a foster mom and you never know whats going to be going on over there. Last time she was dealing with a very hard to deal with child who had some kind of attatchment disorder. When I went into labor I was very irratible I just wanted to rest, I wasn't doing very well with dd, she was so little still and I didn't want her to deal with me walking around the house mouning all day, my dh was home and that was a bit of help but I wanted him to be able to rush out the door with me if need be. So I felt really guilty having my mom take dd, I felt like it was too much of a burden for her, like if she had dd I better be really having this baby, I called my doctor way too soon, she had me come in right away and then didn't even let me get past the very early labor stage, I mean I was in there for 24 hrs, but didn't dialate past 1 , and I just have very long early labors, my first was 2 1/2 days before I really started dialating. So thanks if you've read this much, I just feel like my mom isn't very dependable, like she has too much of her own stuff going on, and I realize how you really need to be emotionally secure for this labor stuff to go normal. Last time I felt like I shouldn't have dd at my moms just because I'm sitting in the hospital doing nothing, and I think that guilt had something to do with me giving in to the c/s. So, I feel like I need another plan in place even if I don't need to use it. She is real sensitive to that stuff and I could tell she was really hurt about the idea I had that she might not be available, and that I felt the need to ask someone else also. But this time its about my feelings and me being comfortable and my baby and me being healthy and whole in the end. What do you all do about childcare while your in labor?

[AnditheBee]

I sympathize with the problem of what to do with other kids--we've been dealing with that issue as well, in preparation for my upcoming hbac. My daughter is not the right temperment to be present during the birth, so we're compiling a list of people who have volunteered to watch her (friends and co-workers--our families are too far away) and when they will be in and out of town, etc. That way, we have a sort of "phone tree" to call when I go into labor--lots of alternates in case this or that person can't watch her for whatever reason. It's a drag, but it's the best we could manage.

Frankly, you need to do what is best for you--no guilt, no worries, nothing that you will drag with you into labor. Your mom should understand if you're worried about burdening her--foster moms do have a lot on their plate sometimes. If she doesn't understand, try to help her realize that the guilt will only make things harder for you. Show her some quotes from "Ina May's Guide" about how fears and worries can actually stall or stop labor! Your mind has to be as ready as (or maybe even more than) your body for this vbac. In the end, you can't worry about anyone else--your main concern is you and your little one. I'm having trouble getting totally to that point--I'm still concerned about my husband's state of mind about the issue--but it's something I have to work on. Our fears and worries are harmful, and we have to let them go.

Best of luck to you!

[annalenasmom]

Hey! Although I wasn't able to have a VBAC, because at two weeks overdue, and I wasn't having contractions or wasn't dilated AT ALL! I had another c/s. But, I will tell you, even though it will bring you down sometimes, try not to listen to people's comments. My mom is a labor and delivery nurse, and I know all the nurses she works with and almost every one of them was not very supportive and saying how I should just schedule another c/s, because it's so much "easier and convenient"... I don't remember that childbirth was suppose to be convenient. :-) Oh well... Good luck to you!!!

[MaryLang]

Thanks. I know it shouldn't matter but it is incredible how just a few comments can affect you. I know with my first birth I was all about going natural and I started off in a Birthing Center before being transferd, so many times all of those doubts from people telling I was going to need the drugs popped in my head from no where. I have such a hard time understanding why other women just don't understand why a fellow woman would want a good birth. I mean even if its not possible to avoid a c/s it seems like at least the desire to birth more naturally would be there. Why all the negative comments? I hope things will go better as I grow and stop taking everyones words to heart. I think my mom was pretty excited while we were expecting a c/s, I know it would be "easier" for her,lol!
I know we can do this!