this is really hard

[Lisa Lubner]

my husband is leaving me. we are seperating, and probably going to get a divorce. he says he's been "fooling himself" all this time about how he feels about me. to be honest, i broke his heart way back in the beginning of the relationship, he stayed for the kids and tried to make it work... and he did try. this has been coming for a long time. but it's just really really hard.

i'm at my sister's house. i don't know exacly how quickly things are going to start happening.

please pray for me.

[mamagoose]

sending you hugs and blessings, mama. I'm so, so sorry. My dh moved out 6 weeks ago and I'm still heartbroken. He also said he no longer feels the same about me and it's so hard. I know what you're going through and I'm wishing you some peace and gentleness right now. Keep coming here for support -- these mamas are wonderful, kind, wise souls.

[green]

It is hard - but you will get through it. You just have to take it one day at a time, one moment at a time.

I will be sending you my best intentions and thoughts. Peace - Green

[Jster]

Blessings to you mama, it's hard right now and will be in the future but sometimes there's a lot of peacefulness in the process. And if you've been living in a shell of a marriage for some time, perhaps this will be best for all in the end. Get help from family and friends when you can...now's the time to lean on them more than ever. Hope your sister can be supportive.

Take care.

[mandib50]

:hug
it does get easier over time ... 9 years later since ex dumped me for someone else my life is much better than i could have ever hoped for.

go easy on yourself.

[robin1377]

I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. I wish you the best. For me, the hardest part about the transition from couple to single was not having a place to call home. I also spent some time with my sister and then with another friend before I finally found a place for myself and my daughter to live. Once I was finally able to unpack my boxes, sleep in my own bed and, most importantly, tell my daughter that we were at our home, I was able to start healing the wounds from my previous relationship. :hug
Robin

[MsChatsAlot]

I agree with the others that it does get easier. The beginning can be pretty difficult at times.
Wishing you a peaceful journey.

[Jilian]

Sending lots of light and positive vibes your way. Take it one day at a time, you'll get through this mama :hug

[Lisa Lubner]

thankyou.

i feel a bit better today. i am still very very sad, but i am looking for a place of my own (while trying to dodge my parents' best efforts at making these decisions for me)...

ex is being co-operative, and he is sorry that it happened this way. he's made an offer to pay for half the rent as long as the kids are living with me, in addition to the cost of their basic needs (food and clothing and all that). we are both unwilling to split the family up more than it already is, so we are planning on staying in the same town.

in the meantime, i am just grieving when i feel the need, and doing all the practical stuff when i'm out of tears.

thanks again everyone.

[meemee]

oh mama i was in ur place 3 years ago and i just started truly healing about 4 months ago. u will have good days and bad days. just do the best u can.

i am glad ur ex is being nice to you... but dont always expect it. just keep ur options open in case things turn nasty so it doesnt get u by surprise. hopefully it may not happen but time does change people.

hang in there mama, u will get better.

[morgainesmama]

I've been where you are. It has been the hardest and best thing I've ever gone through. We are all so much stronger and happier ... it's imperfect in so many ways, but overall, better.

I'll keep you and your family in my heart. It will be ok.

:Hug