The Family Bed and Nighttime Parenting Forum Guidelines

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[mraven721]

thank you!

[MamaAllNatural]

:clap Thank you, thank you, thank you Cynthia! :heartbeat

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[mraven721]

Bumping so everyone can read this.

[Momtwice]

Maybe this could be posted at the top permanently? :)

[mraven721]

I do plan on sticking it in a few days.

[InochiZo]

Thank you for the reminder!!!
:)
I was getting very disquited :( by some of the post around here lately.

[Victorian]

THANK YOU!!!! Now I can read in this formum more without my snark meter exploding! Can we have a definetion of CIO? For example leaving a baby in the crib and shutting the door for the night is obviously CIO, but what about the modified CIO that is all the rage right now? Nanny style were you sit next to the crib but do not comfort or touch? Or refusing to comfort nurse the child but instead holding the crying baby (or having dh do it) so he/she will learn not to nurse at night - is that CIO? (in my book it is, but other people seem not to think so)

Does this hold true all over MDC? Can we report CIO threads? Say in the breastfeeding forums or in the tribes?

I had been thinking of asking why CIO is not treated the same as spanking and here you are, one step ahead.

Thanks for the clarification!!! Off to flag some posts :)

Victorian

[abimommy]

Not allowing nursing or any sustenance at night depends on age, in my opinion. BM digests in two hours there are obviously going to be hunger issues there. Making a baby go hungry in the name of a parent's convience is still CIO. That is still denying a need and refusing to respond to that need.

But well..I would say that depends on age. Obviosly not nursing a 3 year odl at night is not the same as not nursing a three month old at night.

I do not believe nightweaning has any guidelines in regard to that and am just stating my opinion.

[MamaE]

Thank you for the reminder!!!
:)
I was getting very disquited :( by some of the post around here lately.

Me too. Thank you. I also think this should be a sticky. Any way to reprimand (or warn or something!) members who do advocate CIO here? This is a safe-haven for non-CIOers. We can't afford to lose that!

[mraven721]

There is some debate on if people actually read stickies or not. So I'm leaving it up in the general area for now and I'll sticky it in a little bit.

[UrbanPlanter]

Or refusing to comfort nurse the child but instead holding the crying baby (or having dh do it) so he/she will learn not to nurse at night - is that CIO? Yes, I believe that this is CIO in arms. Not as bad as CIO alone, but it can still be an awful, stressful experience for baby and even caregiver depending on the child's reaction. Even a 2 year old or older can have a terribly stressful reaction to being denied nighttime nursing. It depends on the child, of course.

[Evan&Anna's_Mom]

A couple of clarification questions, if I may?

Is this primarily a place for baby/toddler nighttime questions then? Where do questions and issues that involve non-cosleeping but also non-CIO families belong? Would questions about sleep or nighttime issues for older children (say, nightmares, bedwetting, night-wandering, that sort of thing) be placed here or in the age forums? Seems like there are many night-time parenting issues, which extend accross all age brackets, and may or may not be solved by co-sleeping.

[MamaAllNatural]

Evan&Anna's mom, I believe this is the whole point of this thread:


Please appreciate that this forum is not a place to uphold or advocate CIO (Crying It Out). Personal preferences for and encouragement of the use of CIO and similar sleep training methods are inappropriately posted here. Posts of that nature will be edited by the member upon request or will be removed.

I also believe this forum encompasses all ages and issues as it always has. HTH :)

[Kathryn]

:carrot :banana :broc: Yes! About dang time. :D I've been so upset about all the pro-CIO posts I haven't even been coming to this forum anymore. But now I'm back. :love

[Lucky Charm]

:)

[girlndocs]

All RIGHT! :love

[Itlbokay]

That's more like it...........



the MDC I know and :love

[Ruthla]

I'd like a clarification:

I understand that co-sleeping is an AP ideal that many of us practice (myself included.) I also know that it doesn't work for every family.

What's the "official policy" on babies/children sleeping separately? Say, if the baby prefers the crib? Does it make a difference if the crib is in the parents' bedroom?

[onlyboys]

I understand that co-sleeping is an AP ideal that many of us practice (myself included.) I also know that it doesn't work for every family. What's the "official policy" on babies/children sleeping separately? Say, if the baby prefers the crib? Does it make a difference if the crib is in the parents' bedroom?

Since the title of the forum is The Family Bed and Nighttime Parenting, I would suspect that the use of sleep sharing in any form (be it crib in bedroom or one bed) would be welcome discussion. Also, tending to your child during the night, without neglecting their nighttime needs, EVEN if they sleep in another room would, I hope, be welcome in this forum.

I mean, my 9 year old doesn't sleep in my bed any more but I still attend to him in the night if need arises.

Thanks for the guidelines.

[ashleep]

bump :love

[mraven721]

Bumping a few more times before I sticky

[Jennisee]

Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!! I have avoided this forum for a long time b/c of the pro-CIO encounters I had here. I am so glad that this will be a safe place again.

Oh, FTR, I do read stickies! :LOL

[MTBto5]

:rocks

[mac1222]

Looking for opinions on co-sleeping through the teenage years. Any input is appreciated as this topic is not popular.

[Hazelnut]

jeez. wrong thread. sorryl

[clothdipemomof2boy]

I was just wondering if i could get some advice? I have two boys one is almost three and the other is just one I have tried to co sleep with my youngest like i did with my first. at first he would because I could breastfeed but circumstances that were not my control i dried up and could no longer do it. I tried everything even saw a la leche lady and still nothing happend. He will not sleep in our bed anymore he likes his own area. I will even let him go to sleep and then try to put him in bed with us and he wont he will wake up. I love bieng close to my babies what do i
Krystal
:fambed22 :2bfbaby: for as long as i could with both :hippie :dishes :sew :diaper :ribgold: :goorg:

[mraven721]

Split from main thread and closed.